If an adult invite says no gifts

[Anonymous]

I would still bring wine myself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would still bring wine myself

This. And some for the host.

[Anonymous]

I bring a small gift. I can’t not.

[Anonymous]

Is a bottle of wine actually a gift?

Anyway no, I don’t bring a gift. It’s weird to assume that if somebody says no gifts they don’t really mean it. Maybe some cultures are like that but I think that generally speaking if somebody goes out of their way to ask you not to bring a gift, you shouldn’t do it.

[Anonymous]

Don’t be Larry
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=efutZR3l8rQ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bring a small gift. I can’t not.

You actually can, you know. And if you physically can't, then don't attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd bring a wad of cash just in case.

Gross. The only thing more awkward than an unwanted gift is cash or a gift card that I'll use for boring things at target or amazon.

Really, no gifts means I don't want anything!

[Anonymous]

I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.

You’re either a troll or a narcissist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.

Common courtesy is respecting someone's stated wishes. For example, I don't have space for another vase and it would be a burden to deal with it.

There are two possibilities:

1) They don't want a gift, and say so. If so, you really shouldn't bring a gift.
2) They want a gift, but for some reason lie to you to... I don't know, do something that they think makes themselves look better? If so, they really don't deserve a present.

[Anonymous]

Bring wine and if nobody brings a gift leave it in your car. If you see presents get it out of the car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.

"Some crystal"??? Seriously???

I'm using that for target practice the minute you leave.

[Anonymous]

If someone is hosting, they do not want to take time to deal with whatever crap you bring. If you must, send flowers ahead of time with a looking forward to celebrating with you tonight or seeing you tonight or whatever. But don't take them away from hosting to handle whatever crap you brought

[Anonymous]

Nooooo don’t.

I don’t want more crap. Really. If you bring me a vase or whatever, it’s going straight to goodwill. I don’t want chocolate. I don’t want wine.

I have a good friend who is always giving me gifts that I don’t want. I’m then put in an awkward position because I donate them, and for the next year I constantly get asked where the gift she got me is. Please don’t put your friends in that position.

[Anonymous]

No - I don’t bring a gift unless I really saw something that I really wanted to give the person.