If an adult invite says no gifts

[Anonymous]

Nope. If it's a wedding bring a card. Otherwise, nothing.

[Anonymous]

I always write a check and put in a card. No one can steal it (unlike gift card and cash), and my name is always on the check.

In my circles, no gifts means ....no boxed gifts. Money is always appropriate and desired and welcomed.

Plus, I am no cheapie.

[Anonymous]

So, it seems like the interpretation of the word no might actually be no? I am really confused by this.

[Anonymous]

White people say no gifts. It means no gifts.

Indian people say no gifts. It means a check of $51, $101, $151, $201, $251, $501, $1001 or $1501.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White people say no gifts. It means no gifts.

Indian people say no gifts. It means a check of $51, $101, $151, $201, $251, $501, $1001 or $1501 or other amounts that is proportionate to your financial worth or your relationship with the recipient of the gift. Family usually gets in several thousands at the weddings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White people say no gifts. It means no gifts.

Indian people say no gifts. It means a check of $51, $101, $151, $201, $251, $501, $1001 or $1501.

That's only for weddings. I've never given this type of check at an adult birthday party. To be fair, these are more adult birthday dinners in small groups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always write a check and put in a card. No one can steal it (unlike gift card and cash), and my name is always on the check.

In my circles, no gifts means ....no boxed gifts. Money is always appropriate and desired and welcomed.

Plus, I am no cheapie.

If you gave me a check I wouldn't cash it. Because I don't expect my friends to pay me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bring a small gift. I can’t not.

You actually can, you know. And if you physically can't, then don't attend.

I have actually done this before - not attend because i was too uncomfortable not bringing a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nooooo don’t.

I don’t want more crap. Really. If you bring me a vase or whatever, it’s going straight to goodwill. I don’t want chocolate. I don’t want wine.

I have a good friend who is always giving me gifts that I don’t want. I’m then put in an awkward position because I donate them, and for the next year I constantly get asked where the gift she got me is. Please don’t put your friends in that position.

Oh my gosh, finally a friend in this thread.

It's so disrespectful to ignore your host when they ask you not to bring STUFF to their house. My gosh, people. This isn't hard. They don't want your things. YOU might think your thing is cool, but they don't want it.

[Anonymous]

Party at a house? I’d probably bring wine, fun beer or hard cider, flowers already in a vase, or something to eat—depending on the party and what was being served. But I wouldn’t bring a gift-gift.

[Anonymous]

You are invited to join us for… = You are invited to join us for…

RSVP to Larla… = RSVP to Larla…

We hope you can come! = We hope you can come!

No gifts, please! = No gifts, please!

[Anonymous]

We said no gifts at our wedding. We meant it.

[Anonymous]

I do what I feel like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Party at a house? I’d probably bring wine, fun beer or hard cider, flowers already in a vase, or something to eat—depending on the party and what was being served. But I wouldn’t bring a gift-gift.

Don't bring me another vase though, I have so many! Just the flowers in the grocery store plastic is fine. Don't bring me a plant either, I'll kill it and feel guilty.

[Anonymous]

Americans apparently have a problem with consent.

Do other cultures have this issue?