Can gray hair be bad ass?
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Anonymous
Holy cow. You really missed it. I am telling OP the truth: what others think doesn’t matter. Being badass means being self-confident. Making and owning your choices. About your hair, your body, your life. Like a PP said, “bad asses can have gray hair, but gray hair in and of itself does not indicate “bad ass”.” |
Anonymous
| No, “everyone” does not think grey hair is frumpy. I am 36, I am starting to get some silvers in the front and I plan to leave them alone. When I see a woman who has gone grey, I think, how awesome and confident. No lie, I used to work with a stooped over woman who people would literally refer to as an “old lady” who had awful thinning hair that she was still dying brown. No one was fooled, and it was not a good look. |
Anonymous
You're a woman, right? |
Anonymous
I think she looks terrible with gray hair, like an ugly old witch. Her hair was always so lovely, the contrast is almost obscene. |
Anonymous
I actually feel bad for people like you who seek to deny reality in so desperate a manner that it’s like trying to stop a waterfall by holding your hand up to the flow. Keep trying, I guess. |
Anonymous
Yes! I think a lot of it is attitude--the way a woman carries herself. An unhappy woman with colored hair will always be far less attractive to me than a happy woman with gray hair. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think bad ass if under 50. I just think they are low maintenance and don’t want to be bothered with salon upkeep. Mostly they look older and frumpy but not always. Otherwise they look low maintenance and hippy |
Anonymous
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Andie MacDowell
Love long gray hair! (I’ll never have it with my fine hair and it bums me out)[/quote] I think she looks terrible with gray hair, like an ugly old witch. Her hair was always so lovely, the contrast is almost obscene. [/quote] I actually feel bad for [b]people like you who seek to deny reality[/b] in so desperate a manner that it’s like trying to stop a waterfall by holding your hand up to the flow. Keep trying, I guess. [/quote] "Deny reality" that women don't look older and frumpier with gray hair? Um, OK. Sure. How's this: women look GREAT with gray hair! Let yourself go gray and be confident that colleagues, friends, and others will think you look JUST AS GOOD with gray hair, because women look great with gray hair, and anybody who says otherwise is delusional and a meanie and you should ignore them because you are BADASS for letting yourself go gray. Back on planet earth: it DOES matter how you look, and it DOES matter how others perceive you, especially if you are a middle aged woman in the workplace. You WILL be treated differently if you look "older" than your age, and like it or not, presenting yourself well (including covering gray) influences the way you are regarded professionally. Sure, it's unfortunate and unfair, but this is how it is. Plus, covering gray doesn't take much effort, and the fact is that most dh's are NOT as attracted to your gray hair as you choose to believe. You may not care about remaining attractive for your partner, but some others do. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| My MIL dyed her hair chestnut brown for our wedding and looked unbelievable -- easily 10 years younger and radiant. She went straight back to gray afterward and looks old and tired again. My mother dyes her hair using a box, it takes maybe one hour a month and she spends 10 dollars. She says , and I agree, that a woman shouldn't go gray until she is totally white. At that point it looks dignified. But the salt and pepper look on a woman is hideous. |
Anonymous
Do you really take that as a compliment? Because they're saying "I wish I had the guts to be lazy and look terrible and not care." |
Anonymous
You've clearly never seen a snazzy woman with gray hair. |
Anonymous
No, not really. Sorry, but no, I haven't. |
Anonymous
This has to be the same negative poster posting again and again. Seriously, sweetie. Get some help. Angry and insecure is no way to go through life. I’ve seen lots of women with stunning gray or partially gray hair. I’m sure you are beautiful as well. But outward beauty doesn’t really matter when you are so ugly inside. You really need to think about why you are so unkind to complete strangers. |
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