Men staying in marriage “for the childcare”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just posted. Men stay because they are lazy and deal with the status quo easier. Women file for about 70% of divorces. Women get more fed up with lack of any emotion than men.

Women file because divorce = cash and prizes for them.

Keep telling yourself that. I worked my entire marriage. I did not get anything. We were equals.

Do you actually think you are representative of the 70% of women who file?

Yes, I do.

[Anonymous]

No, they just want sex from you. If they divorce they lose their kids.

[Anonymous]

If they divorce, they might be forced to take the kids 50% of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, they just want sex from you. If they divorce they lose their kids.

+1
And the women almost always walk away with a lot of cash that they never earned.

[Anonymous]

Yes they stay for the free labor that does everything so all they have to do is work at a job. Thanks for propping them up Free Labor! The nicely behaved cute smart kids are an added ego boost as well. Back to work now Free Labor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes they stay for the free labor that does everything so all they have to do is work at a job. Thanks for propping them up Free Labor! The nicely behaved cute smart kids are an added ego boost as well. Back to work now Free Labor!

Sitting on your big duff while watching The View and Jenny Jones is so tough!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they divorce, they might be forced to take the kids 50% of the time.

Too bad for the kids.

Outsource that with $$$$.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, they just want sex from you. If they divorce they lose their kids.

Most states favor 50/50 custody. No one loses their kids anymore unless they want to.

[Anonymous]

And they try to get out of child support!

[Anonymous]

Some women stay in the marriage because they don't want their children to be neglected, poorly fed, stuck in front of a screen every time they are with the father. Some women don't care, give themselves the break, and let the "dads" and kids figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Haven't read all the replies. I stay for 24/7 access to my kids. Our marriage is done from a romantic and sexual level but we get along fine. She is a SAHM so I am encouraging her to get a job for her own benefit and if we split.

If she served me with divorce papers, I wouldn't fight it but I would insist on shared custody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read all the replies. I stay for 24/7 access to my kids. Our marriage is done from a romantic and sexual level but we get along fine. She is a SAHM so I am encouraging her to get a job for her own benefit and if we split.

If she served me with divorce papers, I wouldn't fight it but I would insist on shared custody.

She can probably smell your reason for encouraging it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man who agonized about the effect of divorce on his kids, I am disappointed (but not surprised) to see the view here that men are completely selfish and only care about getting "free child care".

I doubt I am the only man ever who hesitated to get divorced and seriously considered staying in a loveless, sexless marriage for years in order to avoid hurting his kids.

No one said that this was all men.

I will say that just about every man that I know who really seems to love his children also loves his wife (if she is a good mother). Most men I know really love their wives and love their kids as an extension of her. I think that your situation (loving your kids but not your wife) is pretty rare.

NP here, a man and I agree with the first poster and disagree with the bolded. Of course, I love my wife as the mother of my children but I am not in love with her, my marriage is also sexless and has been for a while. I think my situation is quite common in middle age. It's why you see so many affairs, men who are desperate for sex and affection but get along fine with a sexless wife at home so as not to make divorce worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read all the replies. I stay for 24/7 access to my kids. Our marriage is done from a romantic and sexual level but we get along fine. She is a SAHM so I am encouraging her to get a job for her own benefit and if we split.

If she served me with divorce papers, I wouldn't fight it but I would insist on shared custody.

She can probably smell your reason for encouraging it.

Maybe, but wouldn't she want to work out of a sense of pride?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, they just want sex from you. If they divorce they lose their kids.

+1
And the women almost always walk away with a lot of cash that they never earned.

That's statistically impossible. Most families in US don't have that much of $$$ to begin,, so there is nothing to walk away with.