Men staying in marriage “for the childcare”

[Anonymous]

A comment came up somewhere here that men in unhappy marriages may choose to stay or not divorce because of their wife’s “free childcare.”
Meanwhile he generally ignores his wife and the relationship isn’t close nor intimate, possibly quite transactional with poor to little real verbal communication.

Is this an actual reason or true reason?

Do these men then file for divorce once the last kid is out of the house?

Do they think their lonely wife (or worse, neglected, abused) won’t divorce?

[Anonymous]

No, they stay for the same reason women stay until they are empty nesters. It’s perceived to be less disruptive but who knows if that is true.

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend is not leaving his wife.

[Anonymous]

I have never heard that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A comment came up somewhere here that men in unhappy marriages may choose to stay or not divorce because of their wife’s “free childcare.”
Meanwhile he generally ignores his wife and the relationship isn’t close nor intimate, possibly quite transactional with poor to little real verbal communication.

Is this an actual reason or true reason?

Do these men then file for divorce once the last kid is out of the house?

Do they think their lonely wife (or worse, neglected, abused) won’t divorce?

Maybe they want to be their kid's lives and not see them less frequent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend is not leaving his wife.

Not OP, but husbands leave their wives every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend is not leaving his wife.

Not OP, but husbands leave their wives every day.

Your chances are <2%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend is not leaving his wife.

Not OP, but husbands leave their wives every day.

Women file for divorce 70-80 percent of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend is not leaving his wife.

Not OP, but husbands leave their wives every day.

Women file for divorce 70-80 percent of the time.

And men leave their wives every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend is not leaving his wife.

Not OP, but husbands leave their wives every day.

Your chances are <2%.

And OP could be in that catergory. Though I must have missed the part in her post where this is what she was looking for.

[Anonymous]

I think men and women stay in otherwise bad marriages for all sorts of conveniences/lifestyle reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend is not leaving his wife.

Not OP, but husbands leave their wives every day.

Your chances are <2%.

And OP could be in that catergory. Though I must have missed the part in her post where this is what she was looking for.

Ops trying to figure out why her boyfriend hasn’t left his wife. It’s not that he loves her and she’s just a side piece it Has to be that he needs free childcare. That’s the logical answer.

[Anonymous]

I know a man kind of in this situation. He was a complete a$$ to his wife. I witnessed it many times.

They have an older teen, but the dad now has to figure out carpooling, cooking, grocery store shopping etc...

He used to complain that his wife did nothing at home, but now I think he's seeing just how much she did cause he's having to do it all by himself now and finding it a challenge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend is not leaving his wife.

Not OP, but husbands leave their wives every day.

Women file for divorce 70-80 percent of the time.

And men leave their wives every day.

Both can be true. Men leave, but they often don’t bother to file. Women are smart to get a lawyer and start the formal process.

[Anonymous]

"it's cheaper to keep her"