Parents of small children - how are you managing RTO?

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Anonymous wrote:Truly experienced mothers would not stoop to this pettiness.

I agree - truly experienced moms get that balancing kids and work is hard and we applaud those parents who are investing in reliable childcare so they can actually work. I’ve been burned at work by parents who are distracted trying to juggle kids and work for an extended period of time and don’t get that the solution is to invest in childcare.

Ha- doesn’t get better back in the office. I get burned by parents having to leave at 5pm on the dot to pick up their kids from daycare. We often have meetings that go past that. They claim daycares close at 6 and kid has softball. Seems like more nannies are needed.

Many daycares do close at 6 pm. Also after a long day without their parents you are saying young children shouldn’t see their parents for even longer and parents should just hire a nanny? Seems like what you are saying is that being a good parent is not compatible with having a full time job. Basically this is what republicans want. For working mothers to quit their jobs. What people who want women in the workplace but agree with you are saying is that either kids should just not see their parents except on the weekends or that women who want to work should not have kids. Disgusting.

Or, you know, just don’t live an hour away from your job.

I simply can’t afford to live in DC. What I can afford is a 2 bedroom apartment and I have three kids. What you are telling me is I shouldn’t have kids. Do you believe that working women should have kids? It’s a simple question. Or do you only believe that working women who are rich enough to afford a house right next to work should have kids? Also do you believe that kids with working parents should be able to see at least their parents for more than an hour a day?

I believe none of those things. I believe if you can afford to live in/near DC, you should get a different job closer to where you CAN afford to live.

[Anonymous]

^can’t afford

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly experienced mothers would not stoop to this pettiness.

I agree - truly experienced moms get that balancing kids and work is hard and we applaud those parents who are investing in reliable childcare so they can actually work. I’ve been burned at work by parents who are distracted trying to juggle kids and work for an extended period of time and don’t get that the solution is to invest in childcare.

Ha- doesn’t get better back in the office. I get burned by parents having to leave at 5pm on the dot to pick up their kids from daycare. We often have meetings that go past that. They claim daycares close at 6 and kid has softball. Seems like more nannies are needed.

Yeah, if I’ve been at work since 8 am I’m not staying past 5. This is the type of rigidity that RTO creates. You need my @ss in the seat for 8 hours, that’s exactly what you are going to get. Schedule your ridiculous end of the day meeting for earlier.

It’s fine. It’s not like you were working more hours than that at home anyway. You were just “flexing” your time as you like to say. No one actually believes this results in more work product.

Well, it’s obviously not fine for the poster who is acting like he’s getting “burned” by parents who need to leave at 5 pm. The flexibility that would have allowed someone to participate in a 5 pm meeting is gone, so don’t be surprised when people aren’t willing to be flexible only when it suits your/the office’s needs.

[Anonymous]

You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

Let me break it down to you. I have three kids. Two are in elementary school. They don’t go to daycare. One is in daycare. I pick the one in daycare up at 5:30 pm. We can’t afford to live right next to work. However we did pay a premium to live right next to a metro in Arlington. My husband’s work relocated last year and now is far from the metro. My job is next to the metro but takes approximately 50-1 hr to commute (this is considered a good commute by DC standards). Daycare doesn’t exist for my elementary school kids. You must not understand what daycare is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

Things have changed. The daycare that used to be in my building shut down during covid and never reopened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

Good for your wife taking a “break” for 20 years. Seems like you think that the solution is for women to not work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly experienced mothers would not stoop to this pettiness.

I agree - truly experienced moms get that balancing kids and work is hard and we applaud those parents who are investing in reliable childcare so they can actually work. I’ve been burned at work by parents who are distracted trying to juggle kids and work for an extended period of time and don’t get that the solution is to invest in childcare.

Ha- doesn’t get better back in the office. I get burned by parents having to leave at 5pm on the dot to pick up their kids from daycare. We often have meetings that go past that. They claim daycares close at 6 and kid has softball. Seems like more nannies are needed.

Many daycares do close at 6 pm. Also after a long day without their parents you are saying young children shouldn’t see their parents for even longer and parents should just hire a nanny? Seems like what you are saying is that being a good parent is not compatible with having a full time job. Basically this is what republicans want. For working mothers to quit their jobs. What people who want women in the workplace but agree with you are saying is that either kids should just not see their parents except on the weekends or that women who want to work should not have kids. Disgusting.

Or, you know, just don’t live an hour away from your job.

I simply can’t afford to live in DC. What I can afford is a 2 bedroom apartment and I have three kids. What you are telling me is I shouldn’t have kids. Do you believe that working women should have kids? It’s a simple question. Or do you only believe that working women who are rich enough to afford a house right next to work should have kids? Also do you believe that kids with working parents should be able to see at least their parents for more than an hour a day?

I believe none of those things. I believe if you can afford to live in/near DC, you should get a different job closer to where you CAN afford to live.

I agree. You're not entitled to live near DC. If you can't afford it, find a job in a place you can afford. So odd that you would think anything other than this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

Let me break it down to you. I have three kids. Two are in elementary school. They don’t go to daycare. One is in daycare. I pick the one in daycare up at 5:30 pm. We can’t afford to live right next to work. However we did pay a premium to live right next to a metro in Arlington. My husband’s work relocated last year and now is far from the metro. My job is next to the metro but takes approximately 50-1 hr to commute (this is considered a good commute by DC standards). Daycare doesn’t exist for my elementary school kids. You must not understand what daycare is.

Yes it does. I did not use it but we had an after school program for kids my elementary school. Also we had two retired women who lived across street my elementary school for ten dollar an hour per kid would pick your kid up, walk across street to their house, they make them snacks, make sure they do home work and let them play in yard. The one women I looked into only did four kids. School ended at 3pm and pick up was up to 7 pm. Cash only. I had two kids. in elementary school. At time I could get there by 6 pm. Would have cost me $300 a week.

Instead I hired a retired lady on SS myself for $20 an hour. She pick up my kids, walk them to my house, make dinner, make sure homework done all for the same $300 a week. She was on SS and Medicare at 68. So it was $1,500 tax free money for her. Not much stress she lived like three miles away. I also let her eat dinner with kids. So she saved on buying dinner 5 days a week. Took me three days to find her. Heck when I was unemployed I would have done it.

Some working Moms my daughters school took turns. Get five moms together and one mom leaves early once a week. They take turns. So many solutions.

My starter house I sold as cute as a button in mint shape was so close to elementary school you could watch kid with cup of coffee in hand walk to school. I actually could hear bell when school ended from my house. I walk up. I sold my house to this wonderful couple 63 and 60 their daughter lived in town and had two kids assigned that elementary school. They were going to drop off and pick up kids for daughter. They were so happy. They wanted close to school. I sold house and my realtor at first wanted me to remove my above ground pool, trampoline, Jungle Gym Set but I was like my kids are jsut about leaving that phase so dont need it new house, so leave it. If new owner does not want I can remove then if offer good. Well this couple loved it. They were going to be day care all summer when school closed. They were like I cant wait to have kids and playdates in my yard. At closing wife kept saying I am going to die in this house one die. So there are grandparents.

Mine were not that nice. But some are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

Let me break it down to you. I have three kids. Two are in elementary school. They don’t go to daycare. One is in daycare. I pick the one in daycare up at 5:30 pm. We can’t afford to live right next to work. However we did pay a premium to live right next to a metro in Arlington. My husband’s work relocated last year and now is far from the metro. My job is next to the metro but takes approximately 50-1 hr to commute (this is considered a good commute by DC standards). Daycare doesn’t exist for my elementary school kids. You must not understand what daycare is.

Living in arlington near the metro with an hour commute is not considered good! You can drive downtown in 25 minutes with traffic. I know because i do it. Where are you going on the metro that takes an hour?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

Good for your wife taking a “break” for 20 years. Seems like you think that the solution is for women to not work.

Thats a break to raise kids. She went back. I wish I could take a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

Let me break it down to you. I have three kids. Two are in elementary school. They don’t go to daycare. One is in daycare. I pick the one in daycare up at 5:30 pm. We can’t afford to live right next to work. However we did pay a premium to live right next to a metro in Arlington. My husband’s work relocated last year and now is far from the metro. My job is next to the metro but takes approximately 50-1 hr to commute (this is considered a good commute by DC standards). Daycare doesn’t exist for my elementary school kids. You must not understand what daycare is.

Living in arlington near the metro with an hour commute is not considered good! You can drive downtown in 25 minutes with traffic. I know because i do it. Where are you going on the metro that takes an hour?

Haha seems like PP needs a geography lesson. Downtown is close to Arlington. The rest of DC is not.

You people are all insane. Housing is limited and is expensive. Jobs are limited and based on your degree, experience and expertise. Not everyone is lucky enough to find a house right next to where they live that is affordable, close to schools/daycare, that fits a family. You all know that. At this point this is just trolling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

Let me break it down to you. I have three kids. Two are in elementary school. They don’t go to daycare. One is in daycare. I pick the one in daycare up at 5:30 pm. We can’t afford to live right next to work. However we did pay a premium to live right next to a metro in Arlington. My husband’s work relocated last year and now is far from the metro. My job is next to the metro but takes approximately 50-1 hr to commute (this is considered a good commute by DC standards). Daycare doesn’t exist for my elementary school kids. You must not understand what daycare is.

Living in arlington near the metro with an hour commute is not considered good! You can drive downtown in 25 minutes with traffic. I know because i do it. Where are you going on the metro that takes an hour?

Haha seems like PP needs a geography lesson. Downtown is close to Arlington. The rest of DC is not.

You people are all insane. Housing is limited and is expensive. Jobs are limited and based on your degree, experience and expertise. Not everyone is lucky enough to find a house right next to where they live that is affordable, close to schools/daycare, that fits a family. You all know that. At this point this is just trolling.

Thank you. As if we wouldn't make our lives so much easier if it were so easily within reach!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly experienced mothers would not stoop to this pettiness.

I agree - truly experienced moms get that balancing kids and work is hard and we applaud those parents who are investing in reliable childcare so they can actually work. I’ve been burned at work by parents who are distracted trying to juggle kids and work for an extended period of time and don’t get that the solution is to invest in childcare.

Ha- doesn’t get better back in the office. I get burned by parents having to leave at 5pm on the dot to pick up their kids from daycare. We often have meetings that go past that. They claim daycares close at 6 and kid has softball. Seems like more nannies are needed.

Many daycares do close at 6 pm. Also after a long day without their parents you are saying young children shouldn’t see their parents for even longer and parents should just hire a nanny? Seems like what you are saying is that being a good parent is not compatible with having a full time job. Basically this is what republicans want. For working mothers to quit their jobs. What people who want women in the workplace but agree with you are saying is that either kids should just not see their parents except on the weekends or that women who want to work should not have kids. Disgusting.

Or, you know, just don’t live an hour away from your job.

I simply can’t afford to live in DC. What I can afford is a 2 bedroom apartment and I have three kids. What you are telling me is I shouldn’t have kids. Do you believe that working women should have kids? It’s a simple question. Or do you only believe that working women who are rich enough to afford a house right next to work should have kids? Also do you believe that kids with working parents should be able to see at least their parents for more than an hour a day?

I believe none of those things. I believe if you can afford to live in/near DC, you should get a different job closer to where you CAN afford to live.

All you people screaming that Feds are overpaid are now arguing Feds should be paid even more to afford DC house prices?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You use daycare next to office. When I worked in Bethesda there was literally a nice day care center in building right next to office. The Mom next to me used to bring kid to work with her. drop her kid next door and go to work. No stress. They got 40 minutes in car every morning. At end of day, she walk and get her. If OT needed the come back to office, kid would hang out with Mom 15 minutes to an hour then they drive home.

My own wife her company actually had day care in building. My wife used to go down at lunch time and take my daughter out for a stroll on nice days and play with her at lunch time. They also had an app with a link my wife could click on her desk to see our kid. My wife checked it a lot first week or two.

You can have Mom friendly companies that are in person.

I then was lucky to move to a very family friendly company. Amazing pay and good medical so my wife then decided to take a break from work for 20 years. Waited to the youngest of three hit HS before going back.

Let me break it down to you. I have three kids. Two are in elementary school. They don’t go to daycare. One is in daycare. I pick the one in daycare up at 5:30 pm. We can’t afford to live right next to work. However we did pay a premium to live right next to a metro in Arlington. My husband’s work relocated last year and now is far from the metro. My job is next to the metro but takes approximately 50-1 hr to commute (this is considered a good commute by DC standards). Daycare doesn’t exist for my elementary school kids. You must not understand what daycare is.

Yes it does. I did not use it but we had an after school program for kids my elementary school. Also we had two retired women who lived across street my elementary school for ten dollar an hour per kid would pick your kid up, walk across street to their house, they make them snacks, make sure they do home work and let them play in yard. The one women I looked into only did four kids. School ended at 3pm and pick up was up to 7 pm. Cash only. I had two kids. in elementary school. At time I could get there by 6 pm. Would have cost me $300 a week.

Instead I hired a retired lady on SS myself for $20 an hour. She pick up my kids, walk them to my house, make dinner, make sure homework done all for the same $300 a week. She was on SS and Medicare at 68. So it was $1,500 tax free money for her. Not much stress she lived like three miles away. I also let her eat dinner with kids. So she saved on buying dinner 5 days a week. Took me three days to find her. Heck when I was unemployed I would have done it.

Some working Moms my daughters school took turns. Get five moms together and one mom leaves early once a week. They take turns. So many solutions.

My starter house I sold as cute as a button in mint shape was so close to elementary school you could watch kid with cup of coffee in hand walk to school. I actually could hear bell when school ended from my house. I walk up. I sold my house to this wonderful couple 63 and 60 their daughter lived in town and had two kids assigned that elementary school. They were going to drop off and pick up kids for daughter. They were so happy. They wanted close to school. I sold house and my realtor at first wanted me to remove my above ground pool, trampoline, Jungle Gym Set but I was like my kids are jsut about leaving that phase so dont need it new house, so leave it. If new owner does not want I can remove then if offer good. Well this couple loved it. They were going to be day care all summer when school closed. They were like I cant wait to have kids and playdates in my yard. At closing wife kept saying I am going to die in this house one die. So there are grandparents.

Mine were not that nice. But some are.

I really hope you are a troll. You aren't as good of a writer as you think, but at least it would mean you aren't completely deranged.