Are married men allowed to make new single female friends?

[Anonymous]

Before marriage is a different thing but after I think the door should be shut. My answer to this would be no. I think this could lead disaster.

[Anonymous]

Are you 14 or something? What a weird perspective. Come answer your own question when you reach maturity.

[Anonymous]

So, you're a married man, you're thinking about an affair with a single coworker, and you want internet strangers to tell you that the first step towards an affair (supposed "friendship" with her) is actually OK because men and women should be allowed to be friends. Right?

[Anonymous]

No.

Married men should not create new friendships with single females.

Cordial, polite surface relationships? Sure.

Friendships with regular contact? No.

Completely inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

Married men should not create new friendships with single females.

Cordial, polite surface relationships? Sure.

Friendships with regular contact? No.

Completely inappropriate.

I tend to agree, but....

My husband has a colleague at work with whom he works closely. They're friends. She and I are friends. She babysits our kid. I don't see harm in it.

[Anonymous]

Only if they are hot and promiscuous.

Happy?

[Anonymous]

Are you happy to include your wife in the friendship? When I was single I made "couple" friends with people I met at work.

I guess my standard is - are both halves of the couple in your cell phone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you happy to include your wife in the friendship? When I was single I made "couple" friends with people I met at work.

I guess my standard is - are both halves of the couple in your cell phone? [/quote


Pretty much this.

Though I marvel at anyone who has time to make and maintain new friends post marriage and babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

Married men should not create new friendships with single females.

Cordial, polite surface relationships? Sure.

Friendships with regular contact? No.

Completely inappropriate.

I tend to agree, but....

My husband has a colleague at work with whom he works closely. They're friends. She and I are friends. She babysits our kid. I don't see harm in it.

I'm not sure why it is, but this would bother me.

[Anonymous]

If you're grown and married you can have any friend you want. My husband can't. To each his own.

[Anonymous]

I am married and I have single girl friends. We don't hang out one on one but we do go for drinks in groups with and without spouses.

[Anonymous]

OP, take a look at this: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/90/534929.page#8388634

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

Married men should not create new friendships with single females.

Cordial, polite surface relationships? Sure.

Friendships with regular contact? No.

Completely inappropriate.

I tend to agree, but....

My husband has a colleague at work with whom he works closely. They're friends. She and I are friends. She babysits our kid. I don't see harm in it.

I'm not sure why it is, but this would bother me.

She and I get together once a week. She doesn't get together with my husband outside of work unless we're doing couples things. She's a close friend with no kids and she adores our toddler!

[Anonymous]

I don't police who my husband is friends with. I know he loves me and I trust him. He's proven he is more than capable of maintaining boundaries with female friends when two of his friends were disrespectful of our relationship.

I wasted years of my life with a cheater in my early 20s. I spent so much energy trying to "keep him on the straight and narrow" to no avail. I learned the hard way that if a guy wants to cheat, he's going to cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

Married men should not create new friendships with single females.

Cordial, polite surface relationships? Sure.

Friendships with regular contact? No.

Completely inappropriate.

I tend to agree, but....

My husband has a colleague at work with whom he works closely. They're friends. She and I are friends. She babysits our kid. I don't see harm in it.

I'm not sure why it is, but this would bother me.

She and I get together once a week. She doesn't get together with my husband outside of work unless we're doing couples things. She's a close friend with no kids and she adores our toddler!

And that would bother me. Maybe it's because I've heard too many stories of the "friend" who was "friends" with the wife too that became the OW that I'm suspicious. I'd also not be kay with a single woman who wasn't the nanny, relative, or longtime friend "adoring" my kid. That too me seems like she's trying to prove her mothering skills.
I'm probably paranoid.
Don't let my projections cast shadows on your relationship.