the woman who broke up my marriage bought a house near me- should I move?

[Anonymous]

[b] I am dealing with a situation (since last Fall) where my ex's old "fuck buddy" as I call her moved into my own development (as in few streets over)... this is someone who he had an affair on me with in 2013, and she was married at the time and still is to the same guy. Her husband is apparently a psycho with bad temper but either way when I told him about the affair (I always believe it's the right thing to do), he didn't believe me and 3 years later they decided to buy a house near me (god I hope that was a coincidence) So here I am wondering if I should rent out my house and move because this just has been bothering me so much. I haven't had that many run ins with her/them but the possibility is so strong. If my child wasn't in a private school, I probably would see that whore around the public school, since her kids are close in age. I am wondering what most people would do in my situation. I'm sure it's probably something you can't relate to but I don't know what to do. It's the looking over my shoulder and the possibility of seeing her that bothers me. On the other hand, I have been in my house for 10 years and part of me thinks that no whore should have the right to drive me out. Btw, this is someone who is a former stripper who finally snapped a gullible guy before she retired from stripping... this is relevant because when it comes to our professions (her lack of now), social status, intelligence, character, even looks, she is far inferior to me. But then again, being in such close proximity to her seems so wrong to me. By the way, my ex and I broke up shortly after I've found out about the affair. I look forward to your feedback.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Let it go, honey, before your head explodes.

Your issue is with your ex. The "whore" is beside the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Let it go, honey, before your head explodes.

Your issue is with your ex. The "whore" is beside the point.

+1

Misdirected anger. She didn't break up the marriage - your ex did.

[Anonymous]

How did you find out they're buying a house nearby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Let it go, honey, before your head explodes.

Your issue is with your ex. The "whore" is beside the point.

+1

Misdirected anger. She didn't break up the marriage - your ex did.

Absolutely true. OP, were/ are you married to the other woman? No? This is your husband's fault, and his other woman can live wherever she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I am dealing with a situation (since last Fall) where my ex's old "fuck buddy" as I call her moved into my own development (as in few streets over)... this is someone who he had an affair on me with in 2013, and she was married at the time and still is to the same guy. Her husband is apparently a psycho with bad temper but either way when I told him about the affair (I always believe it's the right thing to do), he didn't believe me and 3 years later they decided to buy a house near me (god I hope that was a coincidence) So here I am wondering if I should rent out my house and move because this just has been bothering me so much. I haven't had that many run ins with her/them but the possibility is so strong. If my child wasn't in a private school, I probably would see that whore around the public school, since her kids are close in age. I am wondering what most people would do in my situation. I'm sure it's probably something you can't relate to but I don't know what to do. It's the looking over my shoulder and the possibility of seeing her that bothers me. On the other hand, I have been in my house for 10 years and part of me thinks that no whore should have the right to drive me out. Btw, this is someone who is a former stripper who finally snapped a gullible guy before she retired from stripping... this is relevant because when it comes to our professions (her lack of now), social status, intelligence, character, even looks, she is far inferior to me. But then again, being in such close proximity to her seems so wrong to me. By the way, my ex and I broke up shortly after I've found out about the affair. I look forward to your feedback.

I'm PP, and not to him, apparently. Forget him. You're going to do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Let it go, honey, before your head explodes.

Your issue is with your ex. The "whore" is beside the point.

+1

Misdirected anger. She didn't break up the marriage - your ex did.

I'm sure OP does primarily hate her ex, but she's allowed to hate the OW too. I know I would. But don't move, OP. She's an asshole, but you don't need to have anything to do with her. Just get your "cut a bitch" look ready. She's the one who should be cowed and hate the thought of running into you, not you.

[Anonymous]

You need counseling to help you deal with your anger over the divorce. You don't have to like her, but as others have said, it's your spouse who was the one who did you wrong. You already tried to get her killed by telling her "psycho" husband with a bad temper. You're willing to disrupt your kids lives even more because someone moved three blocks away.

Get help.

[Anonymous]

I would move. I just don't want to be reminded of the affairs everytime I see her and her family, especially when her husband knows you too. Also, living in the same neighborhood, too close for comfort.

[Anonymous]

You only have one life, OP.
Don't waste it by obsessing over these things.
Be happy.

[Anonymous]

Wait, is she a prostitute? As in your husband paid her for sex?

Or is she just some chick your husband banged on the side?

If the former, I would move, because I don't want to live in a high-crime neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

And where are these neighborhoods that do not have high crime?

[Anonymous]

stripper who retired at 45 and now few years later she still sleeps around, I don' know if he paid her for sex. To those of you who say the issue is with my ex, I KNOW, I've dealt with it a long time ago. He's out of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If the former, I would move, because I don't want to live in a high-crime neighborhood.

I live in Greenwich, CT. So no, as no crime as it gets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:stripper who retired at 45 and now few years later she still sleeps around, I don' know if he paid her for sex. To those of you who say the issue is with my ex, I KNOW, I've dealt with it a long time ago. He's out of my life.

You obviously haven't. You need to deal with this anger and get into counseling. If you're going to live anywhere in the same vicinity, you have the possibility of running into her. Deal with your anger so that she no longer has control of your life.