the woman who broke up my marriage bought a house near me- should I move?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Your post is so dramatic. This was the end of a marriage. Not the world. Chances are they had other marital problems. I think the op is acting crazy and I've been cheated on by my husband and no, I'm not a cheater or a sociopath. You're completely missing the point because what posters are saying is that op needs to not be so angry at the woman. We aren't defending the cheater but instead are telling OP to move past it and stop being to angry. Her level of anger and focus on this woman isn't healthy.

[b]Sometimes a divorce feels like the end of the world actually. If you claim your husband cheated on you too I do wonder how much physical distance do you have from your divorce then. Because I find that if you're that close in proximity to a whore who help blew up your marriage, you would be pissed too. I would be. From the sound of it the home wrecker sounds like she is the one who needs therapy. Also- from my research women who go into stripping and prostitution have either borderline personality or are all kinds of fucked up anyway.

I'm not divorced. Again - the "whore" didn't break up your marriage. Your ex-husband did. You're never going to get over this until you accept this fact.

Who cares what the woman is doing now? It's none of your business. You aren't friends and she isn't married to you. What she does - stripping, murder, Nobel peace prize - isn't of your concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recognize op. She's posted here before. Once people start telling her to stop being so angry and emotional she then starts telling everyone they are cheaters and sociopaths.

Like op is the only woman in the world who has ever been cheated on.

Op you're unhinged and need help. The fact you even think this woman is the reason your marriage failed is comical. Your marriage failed because you acted crazy towards your husband and because your husband cheated. Who cares about this other woman??

[b]Because there are women like this all over the country. Women who have been betrayed and duped. All of my coworkers have been cheated on. This shit is everywhere. Interestingly enough those women get little support from other women and I personally find it the real tragedy in all this. Telling OP she's crazy is not a solution. I personally find someone who is calling others crazy the real crazy one.

[Anonymous]

You people telling OP she is crazy and unhinged because she is still dealing with the pain and betrayal of having been cheated on are major assholes. Seriously, you need an empathy class. Can't wait to see what high roads you take when it happens to you.

[Anonymous]

Op here's a question that may help you....what do you want???

Seriously - what do you want? What do you want from this woman and from your exhusband?

You seem unable to move past your previous marriage and seem fixated on this other woman. Why is this? Is there something you want the other woman to do for you? Do you want to punish her? Do you want to be friends with her? Do you want your marriage back? What is it you want?

Also why do you keep posting over this? What are you trying to accomplish??

[Anonymous]

I'm not divorced.


[b] Oh, you are not even divorced from your cheater? Oh this is rich. So you'd rather stay with someone who royally fucked you over? And you're crazy enough to think he won't do it again? Now that's fucked up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recognize op. She's posted here before. Once people start telling her to stop being so angry and emotional she then starts telling everyone they are cheaters and sociopaths.

Like op is the only woman in the world who has ever been cheated on.

Op you're unhinged and need help. The fact you even think this woman is the reason your marriage failed is comical. Your marriage failed because you acted crazy towards your husband and because your husband cheated. Who cares about this other woman??

Because there are women like this all over the country. Women who have been betrayed and duped. All of my coworkers have been cheated on. This shit is everywhere. Interestingly enough those women get little support from other women and I personally find it the real tragedy in all this. Telling OP she's crazy is not a solution. [b]I personally find someone who is calling others crazy the real crazy one.

Oh the irony...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people telling OP she is crazy and unhinged because she is still dealing with the pain and betrayal of having been cheated on are major assholes. Seriously, you need an empathy class. Can't wait to see what high roads you take when it happens to you.

I've been cheated on by my spouse. I never had it out for the other woman and I don't care about her.

Op seems focused on the other woman and not so much her failed marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm not divorced.


[b] Oh, you are not even divorced from your cheater? Oh this is rich. So you'd rather stay with someone who royally fucked you over? And you're crazy enough to think he won't do it again? Now that's fucked up.

You obviously still want your exhusband if you're so angry over the divorce and so interested in what the other woman is up to.

[Anonymous]

Op you need to meet another guy. It's time to turn your attention on something else. Doesn't seem like your exhusband or this other woman have anything to offer you. Try and start dating and meet someone else. Life is too short. You don't want to look back at all these wasted years focused on another woman you don't even know.

[Anonymous]

Why are responses repeated on this thread?

Again, OP, find some way to enjoy what remains of your life. If that means moving, then do so. If that means forgetting this woman you hate lives nearby, then do so.
This is your life.
Take ownership.
If you go to your grave blaming others for ruining your life, well, you're the loser, do you see that?
You need to learn to solve your own problems.
No on else is going to do it for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm not divorced.


[b] Oh, you are not even divorced from your cheater? Oh this is rich. So you'd rather stay with someone who royally fucked you over? And you're crazy enough to think he won't do it again? Now that's fucked up.

Again you sound unhinged.

If I were you I would be enjoying my life. Go on a vacation. Get a haircut. Spend time with children. Start dating. Redecorate your house. Focus on your career. There are so many fun things you could be doing instead of focusing on someone you'll never know or be friends with. Your ex doesn't want you and this other woman will likely file a restraining order if you get close to her.

Seriously go and enjoy your life. This divorce seems so dramatic and unnecessarily so. Time to move on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are responses repeated on this thread?

Again, OP, find some way to enjoy what remains of your life. If that means moving, then do so. If that means forgetting this woman you hate lives nearby, then do so.
This is your life.
Take ownership.
If you go to your grave blaming others for ruining your life, well, you're the loser, do you see that?
You need to learn to solve your own problems.
No on else is going to do it for you.

+1. Time to move on!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people telling OP she is crazy and unhinged because she is still dealing with the pain and betrayal of having been cheated on are major assholes. Seriously, you need an empathy class. Can't wait to see what high roads you take when it happens to you.

She is not dealing with the pain in any way that is positive or conducive to her healing, which is what most posters are trying to tell her. Obsessive over someone and something you have no control over is not "dealing with" anything. In fact, it's the opposite - it's destructive and painful. So, posters who are trying to help her blow out that fire, rather than handing her more matches are being the empathetic ones. Fanning more anger and drama into OPs rage is only going to harm her present and future life, mental health, and relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people telling OP she is crazy and unhinged because she is still dealing with the pain and betrayal of having been cheated on are major assholes. Seriously, you need an empathy class. Can't wait to see what high roads you take when it happens to you.

[i] AGREED. THIS IS WHY OUR NATION IS CLOSE TO ELECTING A SELF ABSORBED NARCISSIST. WE DO NOT HAVE EMPATHY FOR OTHERS WHETHER IT'S A MEXICAN IMMIGRANT OR A NEIGHBOR. SAD SAD STATE OF AFFAIRS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You people telling OP she is crazy and unhinged because she is still dealing with the pain and betrayal of having been cheated on are major assholes. Seriously, you need an empathy class. Can't wait to see what high roads you take when it happens to you.

She is not dealing with the pain in any way that is positive or conducive to her healing, which is what most posters are trying to tell her. Obsessive over someone and something you have no control over is not "dealing with" anything. In fact, it's the opposite - it's destructive and painful. So, posters who are trying to help her blow out that fire, rather than handing her more matches are being the empathetic ones. Fanning more anger and drama into OPs rage is only going to harm her present and future life, mental health, and relationships.

+1.