the woman who broke up my marriage bought a house near me- should I move?

[Anonymous]

You obviously haven't. You need to deal with this anger and get into counseling. If you're going to live anywhere in the same vicinity, you have the possibility of running into her. Deal with your anger so that she no longer has control of your life.

oh I have. I divorced him, see him every other week with barely to no communication. I was fine for years until the whore decided to move near me. This isn't about my ex. Whore is still married to her idiot husband, like nothing ever happened, probably still fucking around other men and here I am not able to enjoy my neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You obviously haven't. You need to deal with this anger and get into counseling. If you're going to live anywhere in the same vicinity, you have the possibility of running into her. Deal with your anger so that she no longer has control of your life.

oh I have. I divorced him, see him every other week with barely to no communication. I was fine for years until the whore decided to move near me. This isn't about my ex. Whore is still married to her idiot husband, like nothing ever happened, probably still fucking around other men and here I am not able to enjoy my neighborhood.

You sound like a crazy woman. You really need to get over this and move on. Your anger is directed at the wrong person. Regardless who cares what this woman does or how her marriage is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You obviously haven't. You need to deal with this anger and get into counseling. If you're going to live anywhere in the same vicinity, you have the possibility of running into her. Deal with your anger so that she no longer has control of your life.

oh I have. I divorced him, see him every other week with barely to no communication. I was fine for years until the whore decided to move near me. This isn't about my ex. Whore is still married to her idiot husband, like nothing ever happened, probably still fucking around other men and here I am not able to enjoy my neighborhood.

OP, your obsession and anger with her is not proportional. You want some kind of harm or revenge on her that isn't going to happen. Her marriage is her business - many couples survive infidelity, it's just that yours didn't. If you're to the point where you cannot enjoy your neighborhood because someone you don't interact with also lives there, it's time to put your own reactions and drama in check. Please get counseling, and lots of it. You're being toxic in the present, over the past, and that needs serious addressing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You obviously haven't. You need to deal with this anger and get into counseling. If you're going to live anywhere in the same vicinity, you have the possibility of running into her. Deal with your anger so that she no longer has control of your life.

oh I have. I divorced him, see him every other week with barely to no communication. I was fine for years until the whore decided to move near me. This isn't about my ex. Whore is still married to her idiot husband, like nothing ever happened, probably still fucking around other men and here I am not able to enjoy my neighborhood.

You clearly haven't dealt with your anger. If you can't see that by reading your responses, you absolutely need therapy. Stop letting her control your life and your behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You obviously haven't. You need to deal with this anger and get into counseling. If you're going to live anywhere in the same vicinity, you have the possibility of running into her. Deal with your anger so that she no longer has control of your life.

oh I have. I divorced him, see him every other week with barely to no communication. I was fine for years until the whore decided to move near me. This isn't about my ex. Whore is still married to her idiot husband, like nothing ever happened, probably still fucking around other men and here I am not able to enjoy my neighborhood.

You clearly haven't dealt with your anger. If you can't see that by reading your responses, you absolutely need therapy. Stop letting her control your life and your behavior.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You obviously haven't. You need to deal with this anger and get into counseling. If you're going to live anywhere in the same vicinity, you have the possibility of running into her. Deal with your anger so that she no longer has control of your life.

oh I have. I divorced him, see him every other week with barely to no communication. I was fine for years until the whore decided to move near me. This isn't about my ex. Whore is still married to her idiot husband, like nothing ever happened, probably still fucking around other men and here I am not able to enjoy my neighborhood.

OP, your obsession and anger with her is not proportional. You want some kind of harm or revenge on her that isn't going to happen. Her marriage is her business - many couples survive infidelity, it's just that yours didn't. If you're to the point where you cannot enjoy your neighborhood because someone you don't interact with also lives there, it's time to put your own reactions and drama in check. Please get counseling, and lots of it. You're being toxic in the present, over the past, and that needs serious addressing.

It's not surprising their marriage didn't survive. Op sounds absolutely crazy. Can you imagine living in a home with someone who is so angry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:stripper who retired at 45 and now few years later she still sleeps around, I don' know if he paid her for sex. To those of you who say the issue is with my ex, I KNOW, I've dealt with it a long time ago. He's out of my life.

You obviously haven't. You need to deal with this anger and get into counseling. If you're going to live anywhere in the same vicinity, you have the possibility of running into her. Deal with your anger so that she no longer has control of your life.

+1 although, op, I will say that I did move to avoid running into my cheating ex who moved to my neighborhood. I decided to move because I didn't want to relive the past feelings on some random Sunday morning by bumping into him when I was getting coffee.

I will add, however, that I had been considering a move out of state for a long time and this was just the final nudge I needed. If I hadn't already been seriously considering a move then I don't think I would have done it.

[Anonymous]

+1 although, op, I will say that I did move to avoid running into my cheating ex who moved to my neighborhood. I decided to move because I didn't want to relive the past feelings on some random Sunday morning by bumping into him when I was getting coffee.

I will add, however, that I had been considering a move out of state for a long time and this was just the final nudge I needed. If I hadn't already been seriously considering a move then I don't think I would have done it.

The sanest response so far. I find that people who defend other cheaters are most likely cheaters themselves. Or narcissists. Because those two things are never mutually exclusive. How dare you attack someone who obviously is emotionally damaged by the biggest betrayal ever. All I can think of is that the attacker must be a narcissist or a cheater or is so devoid of empathy, the name is sociopath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

+1 although, op, I will say that I did move to avoid running into my cheating ex who moved to my neighborhood. I decided to move because I didn't want to relive the past feelings on some random Sunday morning by bumping into him when I was getting coffee.

I will add, however, that I had been considering a move out of state for a long time and this was just the final nudge I needed. If I hadn't already been seriously considering a move then I don't think I would have done it.

The sanest response so far. I find that people who defend other cheaters are most likely cheaters themselves. Or narcissists. Because those two things are never mutually exclusive. How dare you attack someone who obviously is emotionally damaged by the biggest betrayal ever. All I can think of is that the attacker must be a narcissist or a cheater or is so devoid of empathy, the name is sociopath.

Your post is so dramatic. This was the end of a marriage. Not the world. Chances are they had other marital problems. I think the op is acting crazy and I've been cheated on by my husband and no, I'm not a cheater or a sociopath. You're completely missing the point because what posters are saying is that op needs to not be so angry at the woman. We aren't defending the cheater but instead are telling OP to move past it and stop being to angry. Her level of anger and focus on this woman isn't healthy.

[Anonymous]

OP, I see most of the neighbors who live on my street a few times a year. Those who live a few streets over much less. Your kids won't even go to school together, so I wouldn't worry about it. Don't go looking for her and it shouldn't be an issue.

And yeah, PPs are right, you need therapy. You are so clearly not over this.

[Anonymous]

I recognize op. She's posted here before. Once people start telling her to stop being so angry and emotional she then starts telling everyone they are cheaters and sociopaths.

Like op is the only woman in the world who has ever been cheated on.

Op you're unhinged and need help. The fact you even think this woman is the reason your marriage failed is comical. Your marriage failed because you acted crazy towards your husband and because your husband cheated. Who cares about this other woman??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

If the former, I would move, because I don't want to live in a high-crime neighborhood.

I live in Greenwich, CT. So no, as no crime as it gets.

But now you have a prostitute in the neighborhood so things might change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Let it go, honey, before your head explodes.

Your issue is with your ex. The "whore" is beside the point.

+1

Misdirected anger. She didn't break up the marriage - your ex did.

She can be angry at both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Your post is so dramatic. This was the end of a marriage. Not the world. Chances are they had other marital problems. I think the op is acting crazy and I've been cheated on by my husband and no, I'm not a cheater or a sociopath. You're completely missing the point because what posters are saying is that op needs to not be so angry at the woman. We aren't defending the cheater but instead are telling OP to move past it and stop being to angry. Her level of anger and focus on this woman isn't healthy.

[b]Sometimes a divorce feels like the end of the world actually. If you claim your husband cheated on you too I do wonder how much physical distance do you have from your divorce then. Because I find that if you're that close in proximity to a whore who help blew up your marriage, you would be pissed too. I would be. From the sound of it the home wrecker sounds like she is the one who needs therapy. Also- from my research women who go into stripping and prostitution have either borderline personality or are all kinds of fucked up anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:stripper who retired at 45 and now few years later she still sleeps around, I don' know if he paid her for sex. To those of you who say the issue is with my ex, I KNOW, I've dealt with it a long time ago. He's out of my life.

Then you don't know if she's a whore.

Whores take money (or drugs) for sex.