Sister telling people I'm on a diet

[Anonymous]

I have been trying to lose weight for my niece's wedding. I'm a size 12, not small. I never discuss diet with anyone other than my DH or sister. That's private to me. I don't want people analysing my body/ weight loss. I don't want comments when I have gained or lost weight.

So, I ended up losing 10-15 lbs for the wedding. Nobody commented since it's not that noticeable, except my one aunt. She commented that I look like I lost weight, I said " no, not really". Because I don't want to talk about it, plus I weigh the same as the last time this aunt saw me.
She says YES you did lose weight.
I changed the topic. Then it dawned on my that my sister told her I was dieting.
I asked my sister if she told her that I was trying to lose weight and she said YES.

WTF? Why would she tell my aunt about MY diet. So weird.

YES I know it's not a huge deal. But would this annoy you?

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're sister is proud and thought some encouragement might be good?

[Anonymous]

Unless your sister knew this was a secret, you can't fault her for mentioning it to a close family member. It's not like she shouted it from the rooftop.

So move on and tell your sister that from now on your diet is just between you two.

Really, OP, was it worth posting about?

[Anonymous]

No. But I don't think that hard when I'm given a compliment. I usually just say "Thank you" and move on.

Your aunt was saying you look good having lost some weight. Your sister thought that losing weight was good and was sharing good news.
When people try to be nice to you, be gracious. If you didn't want the information shared and wanted it kept private, you should have said so when you mentioned it to your sister.

Most people consider weight gain to be impolite to discuss, but weight loss is a compliment and worth noticing and commenting.

[Anonymous]

My sister knows very well I keep my weight loss private.
OH and after the wedding, my aunt told my sister how I tried to deny my weight loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Unless your sister knew this was a secret, you can't fault her for mentioning it to a close family member. It's not like she shouted it from the rooftop.

So move on and tell your sister that from now on your diet is just between you two.

Really, OP, was it worth posting about?

Obviously I felt it was worth posting about, duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. But I don't think that hard when I'm given a compliment. I usually just say "Thank you" and move on.

Your aunt was saying you look good having lost some weight. Your sister thought that losing weight was good and was sharing good news.
When people try to be nice to you, be gracious. If you didn't want the information shared and wanted it kept private, you should have said so when you mentioned it to your sister.

Most people consider weight gain to be impolite to discuss, but weight loss is a compliment and worth noticing and commenting.

You know if they notice your weight loss, they notice when you gain too.

[Anonymous]

I think discussing weight is rude, period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister knows very well I keep my weight loss private.
OH and after the wedding, my aunt told my sister how I tried to deny my weight loss.

Well, this is very much a minority perspective. Since you know that your sister can not necessarily keep news to herself, I would just limit information that you share with her in the future and avoid topics that you don't want her discussing with others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. But I don't think that hard when I'm given a compliment. I usually just say "Thank you" and move on.

Your aunt was saying you look good having lost some weight. Your sister thought that losing weight was good and was sharing good news.
When people try to be nice to you, be gracious. If you didn't want the information shared and wanted it kept private, you should have said so when you mentioned it to your sister.

Most people consider weight gain to be impolite to discuss, but weight loss is a compliment and worth noticing and commenting.

You know if they notice your weight loss, they notice when you gain too.

Correct, but people notice all sorts of things about a person. As I said, it's impolite to discuss weight gain. Just like it's impolite to stare or comment if someone has an accident and has a scar or if they have a large pimple or if they had unfortunate plastic surgery that doesn't look good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Unless your sister knew this was a secret, you can't fault her for mentioning it to a close family member. It's not like she shouted it from the rooftop.

So move on and tell your sister that from now on your diet is just between you two.

Really, OP, was it worth posting about?

Obviously I felt it was worth posting about, duh.

It was a rhetorical question, my dear. You are so gosh-darn sensitive. Your poor family must walk on eggshells around you. Please understand it's exhausting for them and they're resenting you for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Unless your sister knew this was a secret, you can't fault her for mentioning it to a close family member. It's not like she shouted it from the rooftop.

So move on and tell your sister that from now on your diet is just between you two.

Really, OP, was it worth posting about?

Obviously I felt it was worth posting about, duh.

It was a rhetorical question, my dear. You are so gosh-darn sensitive. Your poor family must walk on eggshells around you. Please understand it's exhausting for them and they're resenting you for it.

You don't like being called out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister knows very well I keep my weight loss private.
OH and after the wedding, my aunt told my sister how I tried to deny my weight loss.

Well, this is very much a minority perspective. Since you know that your sister can not necessarily keep news to herself, I would just limit information that you share with her in the future and avoid topics that you don't want her discussing with others.

What is a minority perspective?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Unless your sister knew this was a secret, you can't fault her for mentioning it to a close family member. It's not like she shouted it from the rooftop.

So move on and tell your sister that from now on your diet is just between you two.

Really, OP, was it worth posting about?

Obviously I felt it was worth posting about, duh.

It was a rhetorical question, my dear. You are so gosh-darn sensitive. Your poor family must walk on eggshells around you. Please understand it's exhausting for them and they're resenting you for it.

You don't like being called out!

I am with pp. You seem difficult and overly sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Unless your sister knew this was a secret, you can't fault her for mentioning it to a close family member. It's not like she shouted it from the rooftop.

So move on and tell your sister that from now on your diet is just between you two.

Really, OP, was it worth posting about?

Obviously I felt it was worth posting about, duh.

It was a rhetorical question, my dear. You are so gosh-darn sensitive. Your poor family must walk on eggshells around you. Please understand it's exhausting for them and they're resenting you for it.

You don't like being called out!

I am with pp. You seem difficult and overly sensitive.

I am the PP, I was not saying OP was being called out. I was saying that to the last poster.