Sister telling people I'm on a diet

[Anonymous]

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Unless your sister knew this was a secret, you can't fault her for mentioning it to a close family member. It's not like she shouted it from the rooftop.

So move on and tell your sister that from now on your diet is just between you two.

Really, OP, was it worth posting about?

Obviously I felt it was worth posting about, duh.

It was a rhetorical question, my dear. You are so gosh-darn sensitive. Your poor family must walk on eggshells around you. Please understand it's exhausting for them and they're resenting you for it.

You don't like being called out!

I am with pp. You seem difficult and overly sensitive.

Difficult? Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been trying to lose weight for my niece's wedding. I'm a size 12, not small. I never discuss diet with anyone other than my DH or sister. That's private to me. I don't want people analysing my body/ weight loss. I don't want comments when I have gained or lost weight.

So, I ended up losing 10-15 lbs for the wedding. Nobody commented since it's not that noticeable, except my one aunt. She commented that I look like I lost weight, I said " no, not really". Because I don't want to talk about it, plus I weigh the same as the last time this aunt saw me.
She says YES you did lose weight.
I changed the topic. Then it dawned on my that my sister told her I was dieting.
I asked my sister if she told her that I was trying to lose weight and she said YES.

WTF? Why would she tell my aunt about MY diet. So weird.

YES I know it's not a huge deal. But would this annoy you?

No it would not annoy me.

It's weird that you want to be annoyed by this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My sister knows very well I keep my weight loss private.
OH and after the wedding, my aunt told my sister how I tried to deny my weight loss.

Well, this is very much a minority perspective. Since you know that your sister can not necessarily keep news to herself, I would just limit information that you share with her in the future and avoid topics that you don't want her discussing with others.

What is a minority perspective?

You have a perspective on something (in this case discussion about weight loss) that is less common or in the minority. A different take on the same subject is much more common or the majority perspective.

[Anonymous]

You sound neurotic. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

I also hate when people discuss my appearance. It's low class.

[Anonymous]

You're thinking about this way too much, OP. A minor annoyance. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

I ran into an acquaintance I hadn't seen for over a year. She had lost at least 100 pounds. I exclaimed "Susie, you look terrific!"

She said "I have cancer."

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have a difficult relationship with your sister? If so, I recommend not telling her you are dieting, or any personal details.

I'm sorry, but I agree that you are being oversensitive. This is a random comment that you are inflating into a huge kerfuffle.

[Anonymous]

OP, I understand and sympathize. I keep my dieting out of the public discourse as well and would be annoyed at this. Lesson learned.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're size 12. Go away.

[Anonymous]

If a diet is " private" to you, don't talk about it.

[Anonymous]

NP here. You sound a bit crazy. You received a compliment based on something that is visibly noticeable. People will talk about it. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister knows very well I keep my weight loss private.
OH and after the wedding, my aunt told my sister how I tried to deny my weight loss.

You don't keep your diet private. You told your sister!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're size 12. Go away.

And she's not satisfied at that weight. She can diet if she wants to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ran into an acquaintance I hadn't seen for over a year. She had lost at least 100 pounds. I exclaimed "Susie, you look terrific!"

She said "I have cancer."

What does that have to do with OP's situation?