Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

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Anonymous wrote:For a kids bathing suit.. Yeah she can pick another one up at target on the way to the beach. If it was an adult bathing suit I would be more understanding. I'm a heavier woman and I have exactly 3 bathing suits that don't draw attention to my ass and hips, so yeah I would be pissed if you "stole" one. But a kid... Don't sweat it.


I do think people are tearing into you because of your excuses. Honestly you didn't owe her an excuse. You could have just said no.

Ugh, what a selfish person. I hope someone else is in charge of teaching your children morals.

Morals? We aren't discussing abortion or the death penalty. This was an honest mistake.

And you are to CORRECT your mistakes. It's not just the big problems we should have a moral code about, you know. Or maybe you don't know.

So she can mail the suit. Correcting the mistake doesn't mean being dictated to by a nutcase in the middle of the night making unreasonable demands. Any person with any morals wouldn't demand the suit same day. OP will get the suit back in a reasonable time. It's on the crazy swimsuit lady to make due while she waits.

She wasn't told to drop it off at 10.

She obviously had notice much earlier in the afternoon since she had ample time to strategize with a dozen friends throughout the day and ultimately had a friend drop off cash after work...ya know, 5pm? She probably knew by 3 or 4pm...plenty of time to fix the problem before baby's bedtime.

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This has been my favorite DCUM thread, although the Lent Jacket comes in a close second.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like OP had already made up her mind and started drinking early on (while still pretending to come up with solutions) so that probably played a factor.

Exactly. OP had no intention of fixing the problem. She didn't want to be inconvenienced and used the other Mom's "craziness" to assuage her sense of obligation.

And then gossiped about it with several other moms and dads who themselves helped spread the word. Talk about being one of "those" mean moms people write posts about. The beef was between the two families, not sure why Op felt the need to smear the other family, even if the request to bring the bathing suit late at night is a bizarre one or not, you shouldn't have been gossiping about them. The other kid is only 7. It's wrong,

[Anonymous]

Man, I was totally on OP's side and still don't think she should have been required to drive 50 minutes to return that suit, but the update of her looping in 4 other people and creating a hullabaloo while sitting at home giggling about it and drinking wine is not flattering. The other family is totally crazy but OP revealed herself to be kind of mean.

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The whole convoluted update makes no sense. Dog walking? Borrowing patio furniture? A friend working near the other family at 8:30 PM, AND she just happens to know personally who they are and they they're crazy?? You took the trolling too far, OP.

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I was on the OPs side too (who wakes a baby) until she got to the mean mom nastiness of opening wine while gossiping about the other mom.

That's just so bitchy.

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She was probably drunk. Shit happens. She could have bought him a suit in the morning - nbd. Especially considering your situation - what a nut job!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

Almost two hours, ending at midnight

She's psychotic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

You're crazy!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

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How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

NP here and I would be embarrassed to harass a mom alone with 2 kids (including a baby) while her DH is overseas and demand that she drive 2 hours to return a bathing suit at 10 at night when I could easily pick up a new one the next day. That is the very definition of a self-centered jerk.

+1 million

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Anonymous wrote:She was inconvenienced because of your son's fault. That is the fact. It does not matter if you think that her inconvenience was small. That is your opinion.

You are feeling inconvenienced because you are supposed to fix your son's fault. That was your moral obligation. But you did not allow yourself to be inconvenienced to fix your son's fault. That is your selfishness and entitlement. You are not a good role model to your children in doing the right thing. Sorry, but I am not on your side. Even though I have sympathy for your situation.

Sometime doing the right thing is not easy, but not doing the right thing is wrong.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Can't believe most of the posters are putting the obligation on the wronged party and NOT the OP. Unbelievable.

No way. A normal mom wouldn't have had unrealistic expectations of OP.

Exactly. I cannot IMAGINE pressing the issue the way this crazy woman did. Pick up a new suit the next day, give OP the bill - problem solved!

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Anonymous wrote:I am going to post this thread next time someone asks why people hate the DMV. Here it is in a nutshell!

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Y'all white women and your problems crack me up.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that the lady was crazy.

However, if it was me, I would have made sure that she gets it somehow. Even if I had to send my neighbor on Uber to drop it at her house or something. Mainly because it was my DS's fault. After that I would have never had any communication with that person because best to leave toxic people out of your life. This would be called taking the high road.

Agreed. Her unreasonable request should not outweigh taking responsibility for an unfortunate mistake.

You teach your kids to take responsibility for someone else's mistake?

javascript:emoticon(''); The kid took the swimsuit. He needs to fix this mistake. Since he is a kid, his parents need to fix the kid's mistake. You are teaching the kid to take responsibility for his own mistake. The other lady did not commit a mistake. She also offered alternatives to the OP, that the OP refused.

OP is entitled. She will raise entitled brats.

OP husband is gone away. She is alone with an infant and 6 year old. You do not ask a mom to drive alone with an infant and 6 year old to meet that distance. You either drive and get your suit or buy another one. She is not entitled. Her child and the mom driving the child made a mistake. Mistakes happen. OP can return the suit on Monday. Other mom can return the suit on Monday. OP can do a Target instore pick up or fedex the suit... lots of options but its not ok to ask someone to drive at that hour.

+1

Anyone who doesn't know this is crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

Almost two hours, ending at midnight

She's psychotic.

What? She would've met the other woman at 10 pm, so that puts OP getting on the road at 9:30, dropping off the suit at 10 and getting back home at 10:30.
Seriously all of this hyperbole around the time, acting like this was happening at 2 in the morning is unnecessary and does not help your point at all.