Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

I wonder how many of the "right the wrong/make it right" posts are from the same person. I don't think it's right to ask Jeff since it's an anonymous forum, but my money is one two posters max with that opinion, just re-posting again and again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes! I would hope that most people would lean towards making things right. DCUM is usually great about not blaming the victim. Not sure why it's okay here.

It's unfortunate that we've become a society where we're unwilling to inconvenience ourselves for the sake of others. When that unwillingness is tied to righting a wrong, it's even more gross.

Sorry, you had me all up until the word "gross". It's an ugly word and I tune out anything with it.

Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of the "right the wrong/make it right" posts are from the same person. I don't think it's right to ask Jeff since it's an anonymous forum, but my money is one two posters max with that opinion, just re-posting again and again.

Ugh. I really hate you "let's go ask the teacher" type of posters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're trolling, OP. Your original post made it sound like this was something that had happened another day, in which case, why leave out all the details of how it was settled and how crazy the other mom was?

And if it was the same day - you posted at almost 9PM, so by that point the dad was already texting you and you were already drinking and moving around patio furniture. Again, why leave those details out?

Did she ever answer the question of how the other mom knew her son had the suit? It was asked several times. I don't believe this is real.

[Anonymous]

I wonder how many of you, grown people, are always in your kids faces telling them not to call other people names. Things get so ugly around here FOR NO REASON.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of the "right the wrong/make it right" posts are from the same person. I don't think it's right to ask Jeff since it's an anonymous forum, but my money is one two posters max with that opinion, just re-posting again and again.

Ugh. I really hate you "let's go ask the teacher" type of posters.

I generally do too, but this one is truly suspicious. And it'd be interesting to see if the location was far out. Or up in NJ.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of the "right the wrong/make it right" posts are from the same person. I don't think it's right to ask Jeff since it's an anonymous forum, but my money is one two posters max with that opinion, just re-posting again and again.

Ugh. I really hate you "let's go ask the teacher" type of posters.

Oh hey, found the sockpuppet!

[Anonymous]

OP seems like a bitchy person. First she is in the wrong (as she admitted) but she also vilifies the other lady to her friends and neighbors, AND she posts on DCUM. What are the chances that the other lady reads DCUM? And truly, what's with all the drinking and gossiping with her friends while she was the one whose kids took the swimsuit and she did not return it, and someone else had to drop off the money. OP seems like a user, who conveniently uses the fact that her husband is not around to get others to do things for her.

I can imagine what her kids will grow up like.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let's be honest. Nobody should be paying $50-$100 to rush a child's swimsuit to an irate person who cannot solve a simple setback. There is a time to throw money at a problem, and there is a time to buy another swimsuit on the way to the beach.

And decent person would have met the other Mom halfway. A 30 minute drive is not life-ending.

Not sure why it's up to the other Mom to solve the problem and not the OP.

Not a 30 minute drive. It would have been a 1-hour round trip late at night with two young children in the car. It's an unreasonable request.

An hour, the horror! 10PM, yes definitely so late at night. How are you even up now??!!

I'm not going to get my kids out of bed, stick them in the car for a drive, for a bathing suit. And neither are you. It's unreasonable.

Agree but, to be fair, the other mother didn't say that 10pm was the only time OP could return the bathing suit. She said that 10pm was the only time she would have been able to meet OP halfway. OP could have dropped off the suit anytime that day/evening had she been willing to drive 50 minutes round trip instead of 30.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you're trolling, OP. Your original post made it sound like this was something that had happened another day, in which case, why leave out all the details of how it was settled and how crazy the other mom was?

And if it was the same day - you posted at almost 9PM, so by that point the dad was already texting you and you were already drinking and moving around patio furniture. Again, why leave those details out?

Did she ever answer the question off how the other mom knew her son had the suit? It was asked several times. I don't believe this is real.

There are several ways in which the other mom could have come to a logical conclusion as to who accidentally took her son's suit. I can think of at least 4 off the top of my head.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of the "right the wrong/make it right" posts are from the same person. I don't think it's right to ask Jeff since it's an anonymous forum, but my money is one two posters max with that opinion, just re-posting again and again.

Ugh. I really hate you "let's go ask the teacher" type of posters.

I generally do too, but this one is truly suspicious. And it'd be interesting to see if the location was far out. Or up in NJ.

"Far out" from where? We have no i Discounting Bethesda & upper NW, we have no idea where in the greater DC area OP lives. The other family could live in Chevy Chase or Arlington & still be 50 minutes away from wherever in the area OP's family lives & 40 minutes away from wherever the kids attend school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you're trolling, OP. Your original post made it sound like this was something that had happened another day, in which case, why leave out all the details of how it was settled and how crazy the other mom was?

And if it was the same day - you posted at almost 9PM, so by that point the dad was already texting you and you were already drinking and moving around patio furniture. Again, why leave those details out?

Did she ever answer the question of how the other mom knew her son had the suit? It was asked several times. I don't believe this is real.

She did address it, but there's no way i'll be able to find it again. I think it was by calling a bunch of people to find the suit...process of elimination.

[Anonymous]

The OP replied on page 30:

Geeeesh!!
Op here.
I did not expect this.
I haven't read all of it but thank you to those with good advice!
This is nothing near the bobcat thread, though, let's be honest. That was the best ever!
And we aren't in Bethesda or Cabin John or NW, just FYI. But I love the sleuthing.
So it really turned into a debacle. Two friends came over that night to return some patio furniture that they had borrowed for a party, and while we were unloading the stuff, the HUSBAND of the bathing suit mom sends me a text, saying they have to have the suit tonight. At this point it is 8:30. My friend says her husband will bring it there. In the time we take to figure that out, the husband texts me a second time reiterating the need for the suit.
Then her husband maps it, and calls back and says please can we just PayPal them money, it's going to take an hour to get there and an hour to get back.
(Virtually everyone we know at the school lives very close. This location is highly unusual and I have no idea why they don't go to a closer school.)
So I text and offer to PayPal money to replace the suit. I offer $25. They say no, they don't use PayPal and don't know how and don't wsnt to!! At this point, my friend's husband has texted my husband (forgetting he's overseas) to say what a jerk this guy is, so now my husband is involved. (Which frankly I wanted to avoid.). Then one of my friends remembers that another mom we are friends with works close to the bathing suit mom's house (within 20 minutes) and is likely still at the office, and maybe she can help get money to them. So we call her, and she tells us they are full on crazy people, and to stay away from them. She offers to drop money off (i think she was anxious to help because I used to keep her son two days a week from 7-8 am so she could get to work, for those of you who think I'm some sort of freeloader because I sent my kid to a party with a friend!!) and she says it's not out of her way cause she's headed to - you guessed it - Target!!! My friend calls the target in that town and they don't have the suit in that size. But, now we have someone to drop money. So, she heads there and says she will report back. At this point, the friend that took my kid to the party hears about this (because she lives on the same street as the family with the husband who texted my husband and they ran into each other walking dogs) so SHE now comes over cause she feels bad that she grabbed the wrong suit/let my son grab the wrong suit and now it has turned into this. So now the wine has been opened and we are all awaiting news from the cash drop off. I text the Bathing suit mom and her husband and tell them a friend can drop off the $25. He writes "fine"
And this was the report we got from our cash deliverer -- friend gets to the door. She says hi, I am a friend of so and so, XYZ is my son, sorry about the mix up, my friend (me) is sorry she couldn't return it but it's quite a long drive and she's on her own these days. Then she tries to make a joke about the horrible traffic, since she works out there, but they don't smile. She gives them $30 (cause that's what she had on her) they don't offer change, they shut the door.
No thank you or anything.
And yes, I realize this is a total asinine chain of events. But in the end it was a little entertaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of the "right the wrong/make it right" posts are from the same person. I don't think it's right to ask Jeff since it's an anonymous forum, but my money is one two posters max with that opinion, just re-posting again and again.

I don't think so. I posted several times around pages 18-20 and then left and when I came back it was on page 32.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For a kids bathing suit.. Yeah she can pick another one up at target on the way to the beach. If it was an adult bathing suit I would be more understanding. I'm a heavier woman and I have exactly 3 bathing suits that don't draw attention to my ass and hips, so yeah I would be pissed if you "stole" one. But a kid... Don't sweat it.


I do think people are tearing into you because of your excuses. Honestly you didn't owe her an excuse. You could have just said no.

Ugh, what a selfish person. I hope someone else is in charge of teaching your children morals.

Morals? We aren't discussing abortion or the death penalty. This was an honest mistake.

And you are to CORRECT your mistakes. It's not just the big problems we should have a moral code about, you know. Or maybe you don't know.

So she can mail the suit. Correcting the mistake doesn't mean being dictated to by a nutcase in the middle of the night making unreasonable demands. Any person with any morals wouldn't demand the suit same day. OP will get the suit back in a reasonable time. It's on the crazy swimsuit lady to make due while she waits.