Does your community pool have a dress code?

[Anonymous]

Depends on the German lady. Obv no one's taking a second look at the ones with red/purple hair with bodies that look like dumplings

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Anonymous wrote:16 year olds are not making adult decisions. It is well established that teen brains aren’t developed until later. She is making an adolescent decision or teen decision and isn’t asking for creepy adults to sexualize her.

Oh please. She’s making a decision that any fully developed female would make - either 16 or 30. 16 is absolutely old enough to know what you’re doing in terms of dress. She is 100% aware that she is dressing so that men will look.

It’s hilarious that the same people here who are insisting that a sexually mature teen can wear a swimsuit which reveals 95% of her butt is perfectly fine in a family setting, while at the same time scolding people and calling them pedophiles because they said they look at her butt that she bared for the world to see.

Y’all are nuts.

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Someone needs to explain to me how a girl who puts herself on display should not be looked at. It makes NO SENSE.

Nobody can tell you to stop looking but it’s creepy and gross AF to stare at minors.

It’s creepy and gross AF for a minor to be showing off her breasts and ass crack.

I guess we’re even then.

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Anonymous wrote:16 year olds are not making adult decisions. It is well established that teen brains aren’t developed until later. She is making an adolescent decision or teen decision and isn’t asking for creepy adults to sexualize her.

Oh please. She’s making a decision that any fully developed female would make - either 16 or 30. 16 is absolutely old enough to know what you’re doing in terms of dress. She is 100% aware that she is dressing so that men will look.

It’s hilarious that the same people here who are insisting that a sexually mature teen can wear a swimsuit which reveals 95% of her butt is perfectly fine in a family setting, while at the same time scolding people and calling them pedophiles because they said they look at her butt that she bared for the world to see.

Y’all are nuts.

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Someone needs to explain to me how a girl who puts herself on display should not be looked at. It makes NO SENSE.

Nobody can tell you to stop looking but it’s creepy and gross AF to stare at minors.

It’s creepy and gross AF for a minor to be showing off her breasts and ass crack.

I guess we’re even then.

Yes, but one of you is a child and one of you is an adult. The adult clearly has a higher moral responsibility not to sexualize children. If you find yourself attracted to a child you should definitely not be at a community pool and definitely not a children's pool.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

[Anonymous]

People in DC are so odd. Socially and politically liberal, but as prudish as a 19th century school teacher. It's really weird.

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Anonymous wrote:People in DC are so odd. Socially and politically liberal, but as prudish as a 19th century school teacher. It's really weird.

DC public pools have a super clear dress code. No thongs, no instagram videos and no exposed erections.

This is a NoVa issue.

[Anonymous]

16 year olds are dressing sexy to be attractive to other young people. They do not think their friend’s moms and dads are sexualizing them and getting boners. They actually think that adults aren’t being creepy about kids. Of course you’ll notice the bathing suit but it doesn’t need to be sexual for you. Good Lord!

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Anonymous wrote:16 year olds are dressing sexy to be attractive to other young people. They do not think their friend’s moms and dads are sexualizing them and getting boners. They actually think that adults aren’t being creepy about kids. Of course you’ll notice the bathing suit but it doesn’t need to be sexual for you. Good Lord!

+1 Why is this so hard for adults to grasp?

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Anonymous wrote:16 year olds are dressing sexy to be attractive to other young people. They do not think their friend’s moms and dads are sexualizing them and getting boners. They actually think that adults aren’t being creepy about kids. Of course you’ll notice the bathing suit but it doesn’t need to be sexual for you. Good Lord!

People don't choose to make things sexual, it just is.

Adults can choose not to do anything about it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Cheeky bottoms are one thing. THe suit that made me write the post was a bikini bottom thong showing two full cheeks that looked like underwear. She looked good but I have two boys, one a teenager. If I'm supposed to be keeping him safe from explicit images on the internet why is he seeing near-nudity at the pool?

If your son is a pervert then you've failed as a parent. Maybe you should work on this instead of policing other girls/women.

Boys under the age of 26 have no control over their own behavior. They act without volition. As a society, we need to set up guardrails to help them mature into responsible adults.

WTF, yes boys have control over their own behavior are you insane.

Exactly. We are European and American have such weird hang ups about the physical body. My boys (now men) have never had any issues treating women decently, no matter what the woman is wearing (or not wearing.)

Andrew Tate is European, I wouldn't suggest Europeans know how to treat women.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Cheeky bottoms are one thing. THe suit that made me write the post was a bikini bottom thong showing two full cheeks that looked like underwear. She looked good but I have two boys, one a teenager. If I'm supposed to be keeping him safe from explicit images on the internet why is he seeing near-nudity at the pool?

If your son is a pervert then you've failed as a parent. Maybe you should work on this instead of policing other girls/women.

Boys under the age of 26 have no control over their own behavior. They act without volition. As a society, we need to set up guardrails to help them mature into responsible adults.

WTF, yes boys have control over their own behavior are you insane.

Exactly. We are European and American have such weird hang ups about the physical body. My boys (now men) have never had any issues treating women decently, no matter what the woman is wearing (or not wearing.)

Andrew Tate is European, I wouldn't suggest Europeans know how to treat women.

HAhaha is that the only European you know? That's sad.

Europeans do tend to have fewer hang-ups about their bodies and sex. It's a fact. And if you don't know this, you just haven't traveled enough.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Cheeky bottoms are one thing. THe suit that made me write the post was a bikini bottom thong showing two full cheeks that looked like underwear. She looked good but I have two boys, one a teenager. If I'm supposed to be keeping him safe from explicit images on the internet why is he seeing near-nudity at the pool?

If your son is a pervert then you've failed as a parent. Maybe you should work on this instead of policing other girls/women.

Boys under the age of 26 have no control over their own behavior. They act without volition. As a society, we need to set up guardrails to help them mature into responsible adults.

WTF, yes boys have control over their own behavior are you insane.

Exactly. We are European and American have such weird hang ups about the physical body. My boys (now men) have never had any issues treating women decently, no matter what the woman is wearing (or not wearing.)

Andrew Tate is European, I wouldn't suggest Europeans know how to treat women.

HAhaha is that the only European you know? That's sad.

Europeans do tend to have fewer hang-ups about their bodies and sex. It's a fact. And if you don't know this, you just haven't traveled enough.

I don't know him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People in DC are so odd. Socially and politically liberal, but as prudish as a 19th century school teacher. It's really weird.

DC public pools have a super clear dress code. No thongs, no instagram videos and no exposed erections.

This is a NoVa issue.

I mean, I live in Arlington, am a member of a pool in McLean, and have been to a few others as a guest of friends. So-called cheeky bikinis aren't uncommon, and I do see the occasional thong, usually on younger women.

But all of the other crazy stuff some people have been posting about? Never seen anything more "sexualized" than some teenagers awkwardly flirting with each other.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Cheeky bottoms are one thing. THe suit that made me write the post was a bikini bottom thong showing two full cheeks that looked like underwear. She looked good but I have two boys, one a teenager. If I'm supposed to be keeping him safe from explicit images on the internet why is he seeing near-nudity at the pool?

If your son is a pervert then you've failed as a parent. Maybe you should work on this instead of policing other girls/women.

Boys under the age of 26 have no control over their own behavior. They act without volition. As a society, we need to set up guardrails to help them mature into responsible adults.

WTF, yes boys have control over their own behavior are you insane.

Exactly. We are European and American have such weird hang ups about the physical body. My boys (now men) have never had any issues treating women decently, no matter what the woman is wearing (or not wearing.)

Andrew Tate is European, I wouldn't suggest Europeans know how to treat women.

Do you consider him european? He was born in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:People in DC are so odd. Socially and politically liberal, but as prudish as a 19th century school teacher. It's really weird.

DC public pools have a super clear dress code. No thongs, no instagram videos and no exposed erections.

This is a NoVa issue.

I mean, I live in Arlington, am a member of a pool in McLean, and have been to a few others as a guest of friends. So-called cheeky bikinis aren't uncommon, and I do see the occasional thong, usually on younger women.

But all of the other crazy stuff some people have been posting about? Never seen anything more "sexualized" than some teenagers awkwardly flirting with each other.

That's close enough to DC for a bit of sanity.