How do you know husband is "in love" with you?
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Anonymous
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Sometimes I get this nagging suspicion that my dh wasn't ever "in love" with me. I know he loves me deeply and cares for me. But we never had the hot and spicy romance other people speak of. He would not see me for weeks during dates when we met and was still pining for his ex. etc.
I know he cares for me, I can tell. I can't tell if he's "in love" with me. Ladies, how do you know your husband is "in love" with you? |
Anonymous
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He puts up with me? And I put up with him. We're not easy to get along with, either of us, so if that's not true love I don't know what is 
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Anonymous
| He wishes to be a faithful, married man. That's core to his being. And I'm a pretty good catch and reasonable to live with. Same for him. |
Anonymous
| The way he looks at me. The way he talks about our future. The sweet notes he leaves for me around the house. He's not into "grand gestures," but I can feel his love through little things. |
Anonymous
| The way he looks at me and touches me. The way he reaches out to talk to me when he's not feeling well or not feeling happy. Its not something I even wonder about, just a lot of things. Kind of like, 'how do you know your mom loves you?' You just do. Because of how they act. |
Anonymous
I think you need to come up with better terminology than "in love." Lust? Emotionally destabilized? (Because "he loves me deeply but he's not in love with me" just doesn't make any sense.) |
Anonymous
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He cares about my well being. He takes good care of me. He helps me when I need help without me asking. He always puts me first. He's loyal, doesn't cheat, isn't mean to me, never a harsh word.
He is not the romantic type but does little things no one would understand but I do. He tries to make my life easier and I do the same in return. I never question his love, it is very deep. Today he did something that was really really nice. He got a $500 gift card as a bonus and he gave it to me to spend how I want. Most men would have hidden that card and used it on themselves. He didn't. If he had not given me that card, I would never have known about it. 30 plus years and still going strong. A foundation of mutual respect built our marriage. |
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We have always has an imbalanced relationship with him chasing me and it has not gotten any better after 12 years. Constant planning of romantic date nights, little suprises, does pretty much anything I ask him to if he thinks it will make me happy. Earns a good income in part to please me and spoil me. Would probably kill someone who fucked with me. He considers me his beat friend.
This all sounds like he's pretty much a pussy and in a way he is whrn it comes to me, but I couldn't be with someone else. I'm treated like an absolute princess and am definitely ruined for life. |
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| The way he looks at me. The way that he touches me in public (not PDA, but protectively). The way he plans his day or week around mine. Little surprises (nothing expensive) so I know he is thinking about me. His ability to forgive and move on without drama when I screw up. |
Anonymous
How much does he earn and how does he spoil you? |
Anonymous
| eh, married 20 years. We care for each other but the romance has faded. It is what it is. |
Anonymous
Exactly the same here. He wanted to have a family. We are family together, with our sons, and it feels natural. And our day-to-day life is overall pretty damn good. |
Anonymous
| Everybody tells me so. But I kind of hate him. It is a really unbalanced relationship. |
Anonymous
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He is always glad when I call.
Everything about him is about me and our family. He and I are like a unit. We are always glad when we get any time just the two of us. |
Anonymous
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He's respectful of me.
He's thoughtful of me, He's there for me at my worst and when things are tough. He picks up the slack in the areas I lack with little or no complaint. The random, hugs, kisses, and notes he leaves me. He keeps on top of my car for me He goes along with my goofy schemes and jokes. He encourages my dreams. He makes an effort with my family especially my sister , she's not easy. This is probably more me than him-but from the start I felt whole and at peace with him like I had found that missing pea to my pod. He sends me dick picks when I have to travel for work. |