I’m 20w pregnant. My fiance told me he has herpes.

[Anonymous]

Only someone with herpes would default to thinking that "herpes status wasn't important to the other person" is a general default.

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Anonymous wrote:Only someone with herpes would default to thinking that "herpes status wasn't important to the other person" is a general default.

Seriously. The amount of those on this thread that don’t think sharing your herpes status is important is really alarming. And yes I agree that the only people who think this ok are those who likely have it themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:Only someone with herpes would default to thinking that "herpes status wasn't important to the other person" is a general default.

Seriously. The amount of those on this thread that don’t think sharing your herpes status is important is really alarming. And yes I agree that the only people who think this ok are those who likely have it themselves.

I think only OP is responsible for her health in the end of the day. She should have asked for testing
In modern dating almost everyone is sleeping around a lot and asking for a full
Panel is rare
I wouldn’t assume anyone would be forthcoming to disclose anything medical to me unless I explicitly asked

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is a great example of what's so bad about the internet. It's full of twisted notions of herpes, how it is detected by the medical community, how it is spread, how it could affect a fetus, how it could affect a neonatal infant, how tort law works, how criminal law works, and so on. I can't remember the last time I read so many utterly incorrect statements written with such self-proclaimed authority by misinformed people.

Yes!! I have SO many questions after reading just 5 pages of this thread. I’m already exhausted trying to figure out who is right vs wrong.

The only thing I’m sure about: if I don’t have herpes by now, it’s due to plain luck.

So, is it now normal to insist on seeing a full panel + herpes result?

I think it’s normal for people who really don’t want herpes. That being said, I mostly don’t care about HSV-1. My ex had it and we were married for 20 years and I never got it. Also, I know it’s so common and you’d be more likely to find someone who has it versus not. But HSV-2? Yeah I don’t want that-so yes I ask. People mention that’s it’s a stigma, I don’t think that’s true with HSV-1. I’ve seen tons of people with cold sores and I don’t think people actually judge that at all. I think most know it’s inevitable and most get it in childhood.

I knew a sk..ky woman who was dating multiple men and gave them oral while she had active herpes outbreaks. She was my college roommate and shared it

Ok? don’t really see how that’s relevant. your roommate isn’t a good person-that’s it.

The point is - most men would never assume this is important or can infect them

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is a great example of what's so bad about the internet. It's full of twisted notions of herpes, how it is detected by the medical community, how it is spread, how it could affect a fetus, how it could affect a neonatal infant, how tort law works, how criminal law works, and so on. I can't remember the last time I read so many utterly incorrect statements written with such self-proclaimed authority by misinformed people.

Yes!! I have SO many questions after reading just 5 pages of this thread. I’m already exhausted trying to figure out who is right vs wrong.

The only thing I’m sure about: if I don’t have herpes by now, it’s due to plain luck.

So, is it now normal to insist on seeing a full panel + herpes result?

I think it’s normal for people who really don’t want herpes. That being said, I mostly don’t care about HSV-1. My ex had it and we were married for 20 years and I never got it. Also, I know it’s so common and you’d be more likely to find someone who has it versus not. But HSV-2? Yeah I don’t want that-so yes I ask. People mention that’s it’s a stigma, I don’t think that’s true with HSV-1. I’ve seen tons of people with cold sores and I don’t think people actually judge that at all. I think most know it’s inevitable and most get it in childhood.

I knew a sk..ky woman who was dating multiple men and gave them oral while she had active herpes outbreaks. She was my college roommate and shared it

Ok? don’t really see how that’s relevant. your roommate isn’t a good person-that’s it.

The point is - most men would never assume this is important or can infect them

That’s true-I think men care a lot less about this than women do in general.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is a great example of what's so bad about the internet. It's full of twisted notions of herpes, how it is detected by the medical community, how it is spread, how it could affect a fetus, how it could affect a neonatal infant, how tort law works, how criminal law works, and so on. I can't remember the last time I read so many utterly incorrect statements written with such self-proclaimed authority by misinformed people.

Don't forget that the majority of posters here simply cannot comprehend basic information, which is apparently how they got this way. That is the real issue. Herpes left the room days ago.

No it didn’t. Herps stay with you wherever you go. It’s permanent.

[Anonymous]

Most people don't test for herpes. I'm confident of all the people here who have commented most never took the test. And by the way you can have HSV1 and never have outbreaks and it doesn't mean you don't have herpes.