13 year old boy and sleeping in mom/dad's bed

[Anonymous]

My 10 year old sleeps in our king size bed when dh works out of town. It's a very comfortable bed. He goes in there and lays on it when both of us are home too, but he doesn't get to sleep there unless his dad is out of town. He asks if he can sleep there when he knows dh is out of town overnight and I allow it. I don't think it's weird at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 10 year old sleeps in our king size bed when dh works out of town. It's a very comfortable bed. He goes in there and lays on it when both of us are home too, but he doesn't get to sleep there unless his dad is out of town. He asks if he can sleep there when he knows dh is out of town overnight and I allow it. I don't think it's weird at all.

ten is fine. at some point, the child's body starts changing and it gets weird. My son and I only stopped when it felt weird and it was after ten. We had some horrible illness issues and were unusually close as a result, and all I can say was that sharing a bed was wonderful and then one day it wasn't. We still snuggle, and occasionally lie on my bed while we talk. We just go to sleep separately now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

THIS

Every other country laughs at how weird we are with our lack of affection

No they don't.

Um yeah, they really do.

List the countries or more properly the cultures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to me how not allowing your kids to sleep in your bed means you are depriving them of affection?

It's DCUM projection is the law of the land.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

+ 1. People need to stop making innocent things perverted.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with it. My 9 year old wants to sleep with me in my bed when DH travels. It's not because DH is gone and DS gets time with me as much as it's that there's no room in our bed when both DH and I are there. We have a tv in our room and DS likes to lie in bed and watch tv and falls asleep. it's a treat for him since he doesn't watch much tv and its an opportunity for him to stay up a little later and indulge.

We started the habit - when DS was younger, DH traveled quite a bit more and I'd invite the kids to sleep with me in bed and stay up and watch tv because dad's gone. our daughter grew out of it much earlier (she's older and stopped wanted to when she was about 7 or 8) but our DS always did. Now, DH doesn't travel that much and I don't offer, but DS will ask if he could "stay in here" when Dad goes on a business trip.

I love it because I know that soon enough he'll become the mopey teen who will just harrumph answers at me when I ask about his day.

[Anonymous]

So I asked my therapist about this. She was shocked at the responses and feels absolutely nothing wrong with it. Just FWIW. Glad to get the confirmation.

[Anonymous]

I used to sleep in bed with my dad when my mom was away. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I asked my therapist about this. She was shocked at the responses and feels absolutely nothing wrong with it. Just FWIW. Glad to get the confirmation.

You therapist would have said the same thing had your opinion been on the opposing side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

agree

[Anonymous]

My DD would sleep in our bed when DH was out of town occasionally until about 12. I remember when my dad was traveling- I used to love sleeping in my parents bed w my mom watching old movies , eating popcorn, laughing.. I did that til about 13.

[Anonymous]

Slight twist: what about if you & DS are traveling alone? In our case, DH stays home for ski trips because he hates the cold & doesnt ski. DS & I stay in one room, because it's just the two of us & suites are a lot more expensive. I could see the same thing play out for college visits, etc. Not trying to hijack, but wondering if all the people saying 'no' would pay for a second room in this scenario?

[Anonymous]

If he is dressed and has his own blanket, I see nothing wrong with it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

THIS

Every other country laughs at how weird we are with our lack of affection

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Slight twist: what about if you & DS are traveling alone? In our case, DH stays home for ski trips because he hates the cold & doesnt ski. DS & I stay in one room, because it's just the two of us & suites are a lot more expensive. I could see the same thing play out for college visits, etc. Not trying to hijack, but wondering if all the people saying 'no' would pay for a second room in this scenario?

Omg, I can't believe this is even a question. No way would I pay for a second room. When I took my 17-year-old DS on college visits, we stayed in 1 room every night of the trip. At one hotel, we couldn't get a room with 2 double beds, so we shared a king bed. Totally unremarkable in our family.