I just sold the handbags I once kept for financial security

[Anonymous]

Hope that $66k check doesn't bounce...

[Anonymous]

How does OP not have a car or anything at all? Are they an adult?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hope that $66k check doesn't bounce...

Hey, thank you

I had to take an uber to the bank, and home, because I don’t have a car right now

but, yes it all cleared between yesterday and today

Thanks for being so concerned about me, you are sweet and I appreciate that

I also have 9 birkin bags left

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you need a better lawyer if you have to sell your designer accessories to be able to buy a car. It sounds like your lifestyle during the marriage was somewhat extravagant. Did you sign a prenup?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does OP not have a car or anything at all? Are they an adult?

I still have 1 car in my name. We had 3 cars 2 months ago. Just bad luck.

But my young 20s kid needs to get to school and work 6 days a week

I made her take uber tonight to a rodeo (she does horses) … she’s got a curfew now

Ex is working on getting cars for the 2 adult 20s kids, that’s his problem. If he’s spending 40K going on vacations with his girlfriend then he can figure this out.

He doesn’t want to buy a car for me but now I only need a car sometimes. Not every day anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you need a better lawyer if you have to sell your designer accessories to be able to buy a car. It sounds like your lifestyle during the marriage was somewhat extravagant. Did you sign a prenup?

No prenup no assets when we got married decades ago.

We live in an equitable distribution state.

I worked while putting him through grad school and then double grad school.

Our state does not recognize legal separation, we’re still legally married.

I didn’t cheat on him, I raised all the kids myself, he chose to move a coworker into his apartment which is a country club penthouse.

He can go fish. He won’t ever divorce me because I didn’t do anything wrong and our adult kids have no memory of his ever having lived in the same house

I am just thinking of not buying a car because I don’t get out anymore and if it’s seeming like I only need $30 at a time to get to my medical appointments, maybe $60 round trip that feels like … ok ???????????

[Anonymous]

I have some 2x cancer and I think they are hoping I die.

Maybe I will, maybe I won’t. But I might be ordering sushi tonight because sometimes I just want to

[Anonymous]

I am torn between sushi and Chinese food

[Anonymous]

This is such a weird thread. You lived an extremely extravagant life if you just sold 10 Birking bags but still have 9 left and you had a house and penthouse this whole time. Yet you write about money in such a way that baffles me. It’s almost as if you never had a financial advisor in the decades that you were married. This would be odd if you really accumulated that much money. The situation with your kids is odd too. You only care if younger 20 Ha’s a car but not the older 2? Are they all your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a weird thread. You lived an extremely extravagant life if you just sold 10 Birking bags but still have 9 left and you had a house and penthouse this whole time. Yet you write about money in such a way that baffles me. It’s almost as if you never had a financial advisor in the decades that you were married. This would be odd if you really accumulated that much money. The situation with your kids is odd too. You only care if younger 20 Ha’s a car but not the older 2? Are they all your kids?

Sorry for typos. Birkin bags on first line and young 20 has a car…. Weird autocorrect

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am torn between sushi and Chinese food

OP PS there were some leftovers in the fridge didn’t order anything at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you need a better lawyer if you have to sell your designer accessories to be able to buy a car. It sounds like your lifestyle during the marriage was somewhat extravagant. Did you sign a prenup?

No prenup no assets when we got married decades ago.

We live in an equitable distribution state.

I worked while putting him through grad school and then double grad school.

Our state does not recognize legal separation, we’re still legally married.

I didn’t cheat on him, I raised all the kids myself, he chose to move a coworker into his apartment which is a country club penthouse.

He can go fish. He won’t ever divorce me because I didn’t do anything wrong and our adult kids have no memory of his ever having lived in the same house

I am just thinking of not buying a car because I don’t get out anymore and if it’s seeming like I only need $30 at a time to get to my medical appointments, maybe $60 round trip that feels like … ok ???????????

So you aren't divorced? You don't need his permission. Have you spoken to a lawyer? You don't have to live like this.Go get your share of the marital property.

[Anonymous]

Yikes, selling bags for a car that you need. I’m sorry you’ve fallen so far, OP.

[Anonymous]

So much strange.

And she wants her ex to get a used car too so she can get her convertible back? If he's rolling in the money he can just get any car brand new immediately tomorrow.

Also, OP said that the ex's former partner also loved bags but didn't get as many. Were they also married and divorced?

You need to just divorce him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes, selling bags for a car that you need. I’m sorry you’ve fallen so far, OP.

I imagine I shall scrape myself back up off the floor somehow