I just sold the handbags I once kept for financial security

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am torn between sushi and Chinese food

OP PS there were some leftovers in the fridge didn’t order anything at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you need a better lawyer if you have to sell your designer accessories to be able to buy a car. It sounds like your lifestyle during the marriage was somewhat extravagant. Did you sign a prenup?

No prenup no assets when we got married decades ago.

We live in an equitable distribution state.

I worked while putting him through grad school and then double grad school.

Our state does not recognize legal separation, we’re still legally married.

I didn’t cheat on him, I raised all the kids myself, he chose to move a coworker into his apartment which is a country club penthouse.

He can go fish. He won’t ever divorce me because I didn’t do anything wrong and our adult kids have no memory of his ever having lived in the same house

I am just thinking of not buying a car because I don’t get out anymore and if it’s seeming like I only need $30 at a time to get to my medical appointments, maybe $60 round trip that feels like … ok ???????????

So you aren't divorced? You don't need his permission. Have you spoken to a lawyer? You don't have to live like this.Go get your share of the marital property.

[Anonymous]

Yikes, selling bags for a car that you need. I’m sorry you’ve fallen so far, OP.

[Anonymous]

So much strange.

And she wants her ex to get a used car too so she can get her convertible back? If he's rolling in the money he can just get any car brand new immediately tomorrow.

Also, OP said that the ex's former partner also loved bags but didn't get as many. Were they also married and divorced?

You need to just divorce him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes, selling bags for a car that you need. I’m sorry you’ve fallen so far, OP.

I imagine I shall scrape myself back up off the floor somehow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much strange.

And she wants her ex to get a used car too so she can get her convertible back? If he's rolling in the money he can just get any car brand new immediately tomorrow.

Also, OP said that the ex's former partner also loved bags but didn't get as many. Were they also married and divorced?

You need to just divorce him.

Yeah it’s strange. But at this point (in our 60s) lawyer fees could just buy new cars.

Or pay for Ubers.

I’m truly thinking of relying on Ubers. I did it in my life when I grew up in NYC.

I could do it again and I don’t need to even stand out in a street

[Anonymous]

I’m still waiting for him to get our daughter and son into new cars

Hasn’t happened yet

He takes care of car insurance and titles so he is well aware.

He just wasn’t buying a car for me. That would be 3 cars. My hope is that he buys a car for the youngest one so that I can just take the mini back

But he’s holding off for who knows why. But yes he could do it

[Anonymous]

No divorce because that would just be a truck full of lawyer money to reach the same detente, who’s going to pay for what

It’s fine, we’re not in one another’s lives, all our money goes to whatever our stuff is, but not fighting one another

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m still waiting for him to get our daughter and son into new cars

Hasn’t happened yet

He takes care of car insurance and titles so he is well aware.

He just wasn’t buying a car for me. That would be 3 cars. My hope is that he buys a car for the youngest one so that I can just take the mini back

But he’s holding off for who knows why. But yes he could do it

OH you're the lady with the entitled kids who both wrecked their cars from daddy and cry broke despite good jobs?

Apple doesn't fall far from the tree, I see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yikes, selling bags for a car that you need. I’m sorry you’ve fallen so far, OP.

I imagine I shall scrape myself back up off the floor somehow

I hope so! My goodness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m still waiting for him to get our daughter and son into new cars

Hasn’t happened yet

He takes care of car insurance and titles so he is well aware.

He just wasn’t buying a car for me. That would be 3 cars. My hope is that he buys a car for the youngest one so that I can just take the mini back

But he’s holding off for who knows why. But yes he could do it

OH you're the lady with the entitled kids who both wrecked their cars from daddy and cry broke despite good jobs?

Apple doesn't fall far from the tree, I see.

You must be here a lot ????

Or maybe I just am

The car my 1 son was driving had already had 3 owners and 14 years and 190K miles. It just died

We’re super lucky our younger daughter got into an accident without injuring anyone else, or herself, she wasn’t drinking or doing anything else illegal. She didn’t end up in jail or in a hospital and no one else did.

No one’s crying broke. We’re just figuring it out and at this time on my end it felt like if I had a buyer I could come into some different cash since my ex is apparently in FU mode this month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m still waiting for him to get our daughter and son into new cars

Hasn’t happened yet

He takes care of car insurance and titles so he is well aware.

He just wasn’t buying a car for me. That would be 3 cars. My hope is that he buys a car for the youngest one so that I can just take the mini back

But he’s holding off for who knows why. But yes he could do it

OH you're the lady with the entitled kids who both wrecked their cars from daddy and cry broke despite good jobs?

Apple doesn't fall far from the tree, I see.

You must be here a lot ????

Or maybe I just am

The car my 1 son was driving had already had 3 owners and 14 years and 190K miles. It just died

We’re super lucky our younger daughter got into an accident without injuring anyone else, or herself, she wasn’t drinking or doing anything else illegal. She didn’t end up in jail or in a hospital and no one else did.

No one’s crying broke. We’re just figuring it out and at this time on my end it felt like if I had a buyer I could come into some different cash since my ex is apparently in FU mode this month.

Bet you’ll get a letter a few months from now about the on going neck/back of the person she hit!

[Anonymous]

Just skimmed this and barely read but it sounds top DCUM horrible people so chiming in to say I am old money WASP and also make over 800k a year as a woman so...idk bicker about Birkins. Or something. Good luck with the divorce.

[Anonymous]

Op thanks for trying to look out for other women. Sorry women are such trash and you got these responses. Anyways you had a sh!t husband who is crying poverty in order to deny you marital assets as you deal with failing health alone. You do not have to pay an attorney up front. They’ll take a percentage of whatever they collect for you in the divorce. You need a consultation with an attorney ASAP. They’ll be drooling when they find out there’s no prenup. They’ll string him by a foot and shake out every penny.

The fact he sent someone out to collect your personal items from you as you hang on to life. Get the divorce don’t worry about how much he has to pay as he obviously isn’t worried an inch about you

[Anonymous]

I am surprised they sold for 20%… Birkins hold their value. I never see them being sold for 20%.