Biggest red flags in dating

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:for me, if a woman is angry or can't cover her bills or expect you to pay every time.

which bills?

Her own bills or pay her share if you are living together or anything. One of the other turn-offs are when women expect men to pay for everything not because he love or care about you but because they are supposed to do that. Really? Most of these gold diggers do end up alone or just move from one sucker to another.

You know your fellow male gender very little. I used to split dating expenses in the very begging of dating. When men see the woman is doing it or invites them for the dates, they immediately put her in “desperate low value” . And move to the next woman that doesn’t pay. Because they perceive it as a signal of her popularity with other men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Walking ahead of me.

Guy here. I can't help it. My legs are long and my natural pace is faster than my DW of 20+years. Somehow we've made it work!

There is no greater way to signal to your partner that they are insignificant than not even deigning to walk at a pace they find comfortable.

I don't think short people understand how physically painful it can be to restrict your natural stride. It actually hurts.

No kidding. And when you don’t help a man finish, it can be super painful too. Do damage to your nuts even! Poor boy. I can just imagine you gallantly striding from your bedroom to the bathroom at full speed because otherwise the restriction of your natural stride is just unbearable!




Grow up.

So many red flags in this thread.

[Anonymous]

A friend’s girlfriend broke in to his apartment and stabbed him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:for me, if a woman is angry or can't cover her bills or expect you to pay every time.

which bills?

Her own bills or pay her share if you are living together or anything. One of the other turn-offs are when women expect men to pay for everything not because he love or care about you but because they are supposed to do that. Really? Most of these gold diggers do end up alone or just move from one sucker to another.

I'd rather pay an escort for sex than pay a gold digger.

Isn’t it essentially the same ? And how valid are these male concerns about women paying for themselves ? All women I know are married work and contribute all their salaries into joint big pot. From that joint pot families cover joint expenses
At the stage of daring when men aren’t really committing to anything long term and could be test driving several women there is non point for the woman to pay. No joint expenses, no future investment plans etc.
I pay my own bills as a single woman (apartment, car, my solo travel, food etc) and support my child. Before any man joins my life with a joint budget - he’s planning and paying for dates. The only thing there I would contribute with someone I don’t live with is expensive joint travel

+1 This is typical with all the women I know. While dating the man pays for and often plans everything. If or when they move in together or the relationship becomes more long term then there's more joint expenses. Like PP, expensive joint travel is different unless the man is really wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Crazy how some of these are legit red flags and others say more about the PP’s unrealistic standards (their own red flag). Like there is a world of difference between prison time and not having a big savings account in your 20s …

Red flags are generally behaviors that are far outside the norm of what you would expect for a normal person at the beginning of a relationship or dating. Things like showing up very late, oogling other women openly, getting angry with little provocation, drastic inability to do basic self care (eg house in disarray), not caring if words/actions are upsetting, reacting to disagreements with denial or aggression.

Red flag: Feeling the need to explain something everyone else already understands. See also, stating your opinion as fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:for me, if a woman is angry or can't cover her bills or expect you to pay every time.

which bills?

Her own bills or pay her share if you are living together or anything. One of the other turn-offs are when women expect men to pay for everything not because he love or care about you but because they are supposed to do that. Really? Most of these gold diggers do end up alone or just move from one sucker to another.

You know your fellow male gender very little. I used to split dating expenses in the very begging of dating. When men see the woman is doing it or invites them for the dates, they immediately put her in “desperate low value” . And move to the next woman that doesn’t pay. Because they perceive it as a signal of her popularity with other men.

I've never seen this but there are so many men who are gentlemen and will pay that it seems like it's a way to screen out the men who do not as too poor to pay or too cheap.

[Anonymous]

Biggest red flag would be someone who uses "red flags".

Red Flag is just another name for Karen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:cocaine

do you mean that the red flag is girls who cannot pay for their cocaine, or anybody using cocaine generally?

I once dated a girl who used cocaine and it made her super horny, and she was gorgeous, so the cocaine was actually a plus. But we were casual and I honestly can't even recall her name. in a serious relationship, dating a coke head would have its drawbacks regardless of whether the person can pay for it.

[Anonymous]

Mismatched sense of humor

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Walking ahead of me.

Guy here. I can't help it. My legs are long and my natural pace is faster than my DW of 20+years. Somehow we've made it work!

Wife of 20+ years (maybe yours) whose husband does this. IT F-ing RUDE!!! Stop it - we’re not in the Middle East where women have to walk behind you! If we end up divorced this is one of the reasons.

New guy here. My GF is Middle Eastern. She loves to walk in front of me. I tell her it's rude. She stops. Then she does it again. She's a fast walker but she tires out quickly. I almost never walk ahead of her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Prison time. She was super friendly, cute, and fun in bed.. but she also did over a year in MD prison for drug posession and DUI (was not her first drug offense, that's why). She was clean when we dated, but still.

She did have some interesting stories from prison though...

The hottest sex I’ve ever had was with a guy who later went to jail. He was 100% the stereotype of a bad boy and nobody was surprised he got locked up. But damn, we had some great times in bed and I’ve never had that same spark with anyone else.

I found out he got out last week and now I can’t stop thinking about him and all the fun we had. I am old enough to know better than to get involved with a criminal, but still, part of me hopes he’ll reach out….

What was good about it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:for me, if a woman is angry or can't cover her bills or expect you to pay every time.

which bills?

Her own bills or pay her share if you are living together or anything. One of the other turn-offs are when women expect men to pay for everything not because he love or care about you but because they are supposed to do that. Really? Most of these gold diggers do end up alone or just move from one sucker to another.

I'd rather pay an escort for sex than pay a gold digger.

Isn’t it essentially the same ? And how valid are these male concerns about women paying for themselves ? All women I know are married work and contribute all their salaries into joint big pot. From that joint pot families cover joint expenses
At the stage of daring when men aren’t really committing to anything long term and could be test driving several women there is non point for the woman to pay. No joint expenses, no future investment plans etc.
I pay my own bills as a single woman (apartment, car, my solo travel, food etc) and support my child. Before any man joins my life with a joint budget - he’s planning and paying for dates. The only thing there I would contribute with someone I don’t live with is expensive joint travel

This probably dramatically reduces your dating pool. It’s also a very antagonistic stance. I know someone who says the same, so I know it’s not just you, though. It does seem to me to be a kind of self-protective hostility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:for me, if a woman is angry or can't cover her bills or expect you to pay every time.

which bills?

Her own bills or pay her share if you are living together or anything. One of the other turn-offs are when women expect men to pay for everything not because he love or care about you but because they are supposed to do that. Really? Most of these gold diggers do end up alone or just move from one sucker to another.

I'd rather pay an escort for sex than pay a gold digger.

Isn’t it essentially the same ? And how valid are these male concerns about women paying for themselves ? All women I know are married work and contribute all their salaries into joint big pot. From that joint pot families cover joint expenses
At the stage of daring when men aren’t really committing to anything long term and could be test driving several women there is non point for the woman to pay. No joint expenses, no future investment plans etc.
I pay my own bills as a single woman (apartment, car, my solo travel, food etc) and support my child. Before any man joins my life with a joint budget - he’s planning and paying for dates. The only thing there I would contribute with someone I don’t live with is expensive joint travel

+1 This is typical with all the women I know. While dating the man pays for and often plans everything. If or when they move in together or the relationship becomes more long term then there's more joint expenses. Like PP, expensive joint travel is different unless the man is really wealthy.

How can this be typical? You actually go months/years never/rarely suggesting an activity? You never pay for a movie or concert ticket or baseball game? You just let him tell you what you are doing and he pays for it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:for me, if a woman is angry or can't cover her bills or expect you to pay every time.

which bills?

Her own bills or pay her share if you are living together or anything. One of the other turn-offs are when women expect men to pay for everything not because he love or care about you but because they are supposed to do that. Really? Most of these gold diggers do end up alone or just move from one sucker to another.

I'd rather pay an escort for sex than pay a gold digger.

Isn’t it essentially the same ? And how valid are these male concerns about women paying for themselves ? All women I know are married work and contribute all their salaries into joint big pot. From that joint pot families cover joint expenses
At the stage of daring when men aren’t really committing to anything long term and could be test driving several women there is non point for the woman to pay. No joint expenses, no future investment plans etc.
I pay my own bills as a single woman (apartment, car, my solo travel, food etc) and support my child. Before any man joins my life with a joint budget - he’s planning and paying for dates. The only thing there I would contribute with someone I don’t live with is expensive joint travel

This probably dramatically reduces your dating pool. It’s also a very antagonistic stance. I know someone who says the same, so I know it’s not just you, though. It does seem to me to be a kind of self-protective hostility.

My friends who aren't married have this stance and I haven't seen it impacting their dating pool. They have more guys asking them for dates than they can fit in. But they are also pretty and thin so it works for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Prison time. She was super friendly, cute, and fun in bed.. but she also did over a year in MD prison for drug posession and DUI (was not her first drug offense, that's why). She was clean when we dated, but still.

She did have some interesting stories from prison though...

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