Biggest red flags in dating
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Anonymous
Because they are full of crap? |
Anonymous
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For me, red flags include:
Some who tells a lie. As another poster stated if they're gonna lie about the smaller things what else are they gonna lie about? If I catch somebody in a lie, that's it. Drinking too much, not just a one off, but a habit. Though the first time you drink too much in front of me, I will look for it. So maybe even a one off, now that I think about it. Someone who over promises and under delivers. If I say I'm going to do something I will do it and I expect my partner to be the same. If you cannot do it or do not want to do it, tell me that upfront. Don't say you will do it and then just conveniently forget or expect me to forget that you said you were going to do it. Just be upfront and honest. Someone who does not like dogs or cats. Because I grew up with dogs and cats, and I cannot envision never having another one in my life when my current baby passes away |
Anonymous
| I'm fascinated by the German woman posting. Do I understand correctly that you sleep with these men on these dates before there is exclusivity? The man pays for everything and organizes the date, and the woman will have sex after a few dates, up to the point when you are exclusive? |
Anonymous
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Someone who drinks a lot. Looking back it was very obvious but I was used to being around a lot of alcohol.
True test is someone should be able to hang without alcohol. If they never skip a night drinking or can participate in something without alcohol it’s a red flag. It turns into full blown alcoholism later on and often mental health problems involved as well. |
Anonymous
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Lying, dishonesty
Cheap all the time, rigid about it Zealot about ideas or has no curiosity Too intense or too passive Rude to people |
Anonymous
Definitely! |
Anonymous
Lots of people have sex without exclusivity. It's called playing the field and it's enormously popular with women these days. |
Anonymous
I have seen this more with women that they would say that they want an LTR but don't put efforts or being comfortable just dating. My single, never married friends in their early 40s are still looking and just continue to date, date and date..... Some of them are very lonely and become aggressive if something is not going well. That is biggest red flag for me if either girl or guy gets aggressive and can't handle their emotions. |
Anonymous
| A boyfriend of several months, whom I had known for 2+ years before we dated, once joked that he could easily overpower and hurt me. No thanks. |
Anonymous
| for me, it is entitled attitude of some women that men is supposed to pay for everything. If they don't even know or understand what all of us bring to the table and not clear about it in communication and say it like that deserve it during early parts of the dating. Ended a relationship (not just dating phase) who started making a big deal if she had to buy groceries for her own home. |
Anonymous
| High-maintenance. Controlling. |
Anonymous
You were absolutely right to cut her loose. You’re not an ATM. |
Anonymous
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Man, I’d like to think this is a joke, but I did briefly date a guy once who, a week into dating, told me all the stories about how he pooped his pants. Then he started sending me reports on his poop - color, size, consistency, number of wipes, etc.
He was SO hot but this instantly killed all my attraction to him. Whyyyyy do people behave like this?! He might have wanted to see your reaction. It’s possible he does it in his underwear, so he told you that to see what you said. I have done on a date before, but I didn’t say anything about it the entire time. |
Anonymous
Uh yeah. he should have waited until hell froze over, as in, never. |
Anonymous
I understand that reaction. Some guys are into that sort of thing, like doing it intentionally without being discovered. |