Biggest red flags in dating

[Anonymous]

What have you seen? What has made you run the other way even if everything else was ok?

Most recent date was typical of what I sometimes hear from other single friends - clearly stuck on ex. He did not bring her up but I asked. In this guy's case it was an ex-wife rather than gf and he mentioned some interactions that obviously made him upset or sad. Otherwise, a terrific guy but no thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What have you seen? What has made you run the other way even if everything else was ok?

Most recent date was typical of what I sometimes hear from other single friends - clearly stuck on ex. He did not bring her up but I asked. In this guy's case it was an ex-wife rather than gf and he mentioned some interactions that obviously made him upset or sad. Otherwise, a terrific guy but no thanks.

What sort of stuff did he mention? How long had they been divorced for?

[Anonymous]

Pooping in the fridge

[Anonymous]

Being on his phone during the date.

[Anonymous]

Talking crazy about their ex unprovoked

[Anonymous]

ED. If it's bad at 27 it's not going to get better when they're older.

[Anonymous]

Walking ahead of me.

[Anonymous]

For me, girls who are super into high end luxury. Especially if they do not earn a lot of money, i.e. expect men to buy it for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pooping in the fridge

Man, I’d like to think this is a joke, but I did briefly date a guy once who, a week into dating, told me all the stories about how he pooped his pants. Then he started sending me reports on his poop - color, size, consistency, number of wipes, etc.

He was SO hot but this instantly killed all my attraction to him. Whyyyyy do people behave like this?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What have you seen? What has made you run the other way even if everything else was ok?

Most recent date was typical of what I sometimes hear from other single friends - clearly stuck on ex. He did not bring her up but I asked. In this guy's case it was an ex-wife rather than gf and he mentioned some interactions that obviously made him upset or sad. Otherwise, a terrific guy but no thanks.

I mean … you literally asked. You would probably complain if he didn’t share anything, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pooping in the fridge

Man, I’d like to think this is a joke, but I did briefly date a guy once who, a week into dating, told me all the stories about how he pooped his pants. Then he started sending me reports on his poop - color, size, consistency, number of wipes, etc.

He was SO hot but this instantly killed all my attraction to him. Whyyyyy do people behave like this?!

Mental illness. Often extremely mentally ill people can go a long time unchecked because they are very attractive.

[Anonymous]

1. Mean to service people
2. Yell when upset even if not “at” you
3. Weird relationship with mom
4. No same gender friends
5. No friends at all
6. As someone else said, obsession with luxury brands
7. Overly religious- this doesn’t have to be an actual religion- it could be Star Wars. It’s when their “thing” is a little too all-consuming.

[Anonymous]

For men, I would say control issues stemming from insecurity. Control issues many be hidden behind manipulation (appearing and disappearing intentionally, playing games to get your attention); extremely transactional (either seeks 50/50 bins counting, are cheap, or the opposite, tries to control you with money); extremely jealous; wants exclusivity right away etc.

[Anonymous]

Irrational anger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Mean to service people
2. Yell when upset even if not “at” you
3. Weird relationship with mom
4. No same gender friends
5. No friends at all
6. As someone else said, obsession with luxury brands
7. Overly religious- this doesn’t have to be an actual religion- it could be Star Wars. It’s when their “thing” is a little too all-consuming.

If you make your "thing" your whole personality that's a problem too. Like a woman who had long hair and always talked about her hair, what she ate to keep her hair healthy, other people's hair, people's lack of hair, what products people should use, probably used, just hair. All the time.