Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone been in this situation? Our child think he will send in their ED app without us seeing it.

Land the helicopter.

[Anonymous]

Ours would not allow anyone to view the applications. Spent about 10 minutes per essay. Great results.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t look at any of my kid’s application when they submitted. I knew they were submitting only when they asked me for credit card information for the fee.

+1

Ditto. My kid ED’ed and got accepted to her only choice, I didn’t even know where to until she got accepted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t look at any of my kid’s application when they submitted. I knew they were submitting only when they asked me for credit card information for the fee.

+1

Ditto. My kid ED’ed and got accepted to her only choice, I didn’t even know where to until she got accepted.

So, your child's other parent signed the ED agreement then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s certainly what I did applying in 2007. What’s the problem?

You applied to college in 2007?

[Anonymous]

Teenagers posting again. Don't you all have homework?

[Anonymous]

Yup

Mine submitted to U St Andrews w/o my knowledge or seeing app & it’s where she chose to go

[Anonymous]

OP, ask him if he’s going to pay the tuition bill without you seeing it.

Jk. But why don’t you sit down with him and have a serious conversation where you figure out a compromise you can both live with.

[Anonymous]

Team OP. I’m 50+ and I don’t submit a resume and cover letter with having my spouse or my proofing whiz kid review it. Kids shouldn’t be submitting college apps without someone else reviewing it — at least for typos and accuracy. Doesn’t have to be a parent. If the English teacher reviews the Common app essay and the parent does not— fine. But someone also needs to make sure the biographical info is correct, awards and EC lists don’t have typos, etc. Also okay if it’s not mom— but it should be some competent adult.

[Anonymous]

My kid applied to all of her schools without us seeing the applications.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My personal nightmare. It happened to my friend’s daughter. She ended up calling admissions to confirm a few things were on the application correctly, but her daughter wanted to do it all alone. FWIW, her daughter got in and is attending.

So embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all the “land the helicopter” types — have you never in your life asked someone else to proofread a resume or a cover letter?

Having a second set of eyes on something important before it’s submitted is very useful, and building in time for that is a good life skill for students. No one is perfect, and every good editor knows proofing your own work is the most difficult.

Is it the end of the world if a kid doesn’t want anyone else to check their application? No, and congrats to them for their confidence and independence. A typo probably won’t ruin their chances, honestly. But having a parent or counselor or tutor or whoever look it over does not mean their are any helicopters involved, either, just smart people who recognize the importance of double-checking things.

You're arguing with a straw man. We're not saying it's wrong to ask someone else to look over your work. We're saying that if another person, an adult or soon to be adult, decides that they don't want another person to look at something that's a choice they're allowed to make. "Land the helicopter" is about mom and her feelings, not proofreading.

As long as they are willing to assume the financial aspect, I have no problem with that. Your kid paying for themselves?

So if they did it all by themselves and got in, you wouldn't pay because you couldn't look at the app?

That's your position, for real?

[Anonymous]

One of my kids did. Ended up working out fine and so.much.less.stress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren’t they supposed to do that? I have not seen any of their applications.

Did you see their essay?

[Anonymous]

I insisted on proof reading both my kids. Neither of my kids got the info about DH and me correct. I found a couple of typos but that was it. In the end, I'm not sure it mattered, but I want to be a little involved.