Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The app needs to be proofread. Insist that someone proofreads it - doesn't need to be a parent, but someone.

When the kid does not want someone else to read it, one might wonder if their essays are not discussing ideal topics.

Or if they’re coming out as trans or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a personal section where you need to fill out parent education, occupation and all that. Does your kid know it all? You can always say that since you're paying, you insist on double checking.

Are there 17 year olds who don't know what their parent's occupation is? Whether they went to college or not? If they have an advanced degree?

[Anonymous]

I never saw any of my kids applications, tbh. We discussed but I left it to them.

[Anonymous]

Ugh I would have been happy if my DC would have submitted without me proofreading -- at least three times. Anxiety is no joke.

[Anonymous]

First one asked me some family background questions and about what ECs to list. I never saw any of the essays or the topics. Didn't pay a dime for councilors.

Second one I expect to be less involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The app needs to be proofread. Insist that someone proofreads it - doesn't need to be a parent, but someone.

When the kid does not want someone else to read it, one might wonder if their essays are not discussing ideal topics.

+1 for something this important, you want a second pair of eyes on it.

[Anonymous]

I looked at a couple that have already been submitted EA/rolling.

The formatting in all the essays were all bolded and off. There was a misspelling in a short answer.

They never used the preview PDF. I could scream.

[Anonymous]

OP: is the issue that nobody other than DC has seen it or that you haven't seen it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone been in this situation? Our child think he will send in their ED app without us seeing it.

Good for them! They are ready for college. I did the same thing back in the 90s - college & law school without parents eyeballing or consulting on either.

[Anonymous]

For all the “land the helicopter” types — have you never in your life asked someone else to proofread a resume or a cover letter?

Having a second set of eyes on something important before it’s submitted is very useful, and building in time for that is a good life skill for students. No one is perfect, and every good editor knows proofing your own work is the most difficult.

Is it the end of the world if a kid doesn’t want anyone else to check their application? No, and congrats to them for their confidence and independence. A typo probably won’t ruin their chances, honestly. But having a parent or counselor or tutor or whoever look it over does not mean their are any helicopters involved, either, just smart people who recognize the importance of double-checking things.

[Anonymous]

^case in point, I didn’t do a good job of reading that over and have the wrong “their/there” in the last sentence. And I’m a flipping editor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone been in this situation? Our child think he will send in their ED app without us seeing it.

Good for them! They are ready for college. I did the same thing back in the 90s - college & law school without parents eyeballing or consulting on either.

I agree. They’re heading to college, where they need to do things on their own.

Our DD submitted without us watching. She’s in her sophomore year and doing a great job.

[Anonymous]

Obviously better if they let you proofread but if they don’t, the outcome is on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all the “land the helicopter” types — have you never in your life asked someone else to proofread a resume or a cover letter?

Having a second set of eyes on something important before it’s submitted is very useful, and building in time for that is a good life skill for students. No one is perfect, and every good editor knows proofing your own work is the most difficult.

Is it the end of the world if a kid doesn’t want anyone else to check their application? No, and congrats to them for their confidence and independence. A typo probably won’t ruin their chances, honestly. But having a parent or counselor or tutor or whoever look it over does not mean their are any helicopters involved, either, just smart people who recognize the importance of double-checking things.

The difference is that Op's posts reads like her kid didn't want Op to proofread/read/review /critique the application.

It's common and normal for a kid to submit w/o mommy reading over it first .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone been in this situation? Our child think he will send in their ED app without us seeing it.

Good for them! They are ready for college. I did the same thing back in the 90s - college & law school without parents eyeballing or consulting on either.

Same!