Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing

[Anonymous]

Has anyone been in this situation? Our child think he will send in their ED app without us seeing it.

[Anonymous]

My personal nightmare. It happened to my friend’s daughter. She ended up calling admissions to confirm a few things were on the application correctly, but her daughter wanted to do it all alone. FWIW, her daughter got in and is attending.

[Anonymous]

That’s certainly what I did applying in 2007. What’s the problem?

[Anonymous]

I looked over the first application with my DC just to make sure he got all of the sections. After that he submitted the rest without me seeing them.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t look at any of my kid’s application when they submitted. I knew they were submitting only when they asked me for credit card information for the fee.

[Anonymous]

Aren’t they supposed to do that? I have not seen any of their applications.

[Anonymous]

There is a personal section where you need to fill out parent education, occupation and all that. Does your kid know it all? You can always say that since you're paying, you insist on double checking.

[Anonymous]

It's his life. If he can't be trusted to apply, how's he going to manage college?

[Anonymous]

Above poster- this was in 2023. Sometimes you just have to trust and pray.

[Anonymous]

Our child did this (2023 grad), and is happily attending their ED college. Fiercely idependant child, always has been.

[Anonymous]

Mine is doing this. As long as his guidance counselor stays involved and has seen it I’m fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Also did not see child’s application or essay, and they are now at ED school. If they want your input, that’s great. But if not, that’s also great. They all have difference preferences and levels of independence.

[Anonymous]

The app needs to be proofread. Insist that someone proofreads it - doesn't need to be a parent, but someone.

When the kid does not want someone else to read it, one might wonder if their essays are not discussing ideal topics.

[Anonymous]

Both of my kids submitted without me seeing the application.

One was working with a private college counselor and the other worked with their school counselor.

I gave general advice when asked and when I wanted (many times when they did not want it) but I never saw the full application for either.

I did help with the resume for each of them because I review resumes for my job and both kids trusted my opinions on that.

I also helped brainstorm and remember extracurricular activities, remind them of things they accomplished or whatever they forgot and gave ideas about what they could write essays about, mostly brainstorming options and reminding them of things they liked at school visits so they could make their applications personal, but I didn't see any final versions.

They both got into lots of schools and liked their final picks.

[Anonymous]

I can’t hear you, OP. The engine noise from the helicopter is drowning you out. Land it and let go. Your kid will be fine.