For the love of God Please stop bringing your babies to bars for girl's night out

[Anonymous]

In the past few weeks I have witnessed babies at bars - not for happy hours (where the baby and mother clear out by 730 so they can make sure baby is in bed by 8) but out for girls' night out until 9 and 10 at night. We aren't talking newborns either. These babies look confuses and lost - probably because they are exhausted and overstimulated in their environments.

In every case it has been one baby with mom and the rest of the single ladies. I assume single mom but don't get close enough to inspect hands. A few weeks ago it was a young mother so I let it go. Last night at Flight it was a very decidedly looking older mother with a bunch of younger women (mom was mid to late 30s, possibly 40). So she is old enough to know better. Let DH care for the baby - if there is one, or hire a sitter. If you have enough money to be eating and drinking out you have enough to hire a sitter and let that baby sleep.

Grow up.

[Anonymous]

MYOB

[Anonymous]

OP, you will see these bad parents in bars all the time. It is pretty sad. These women are more concerned about being social than their child's well being.

I always go to that line, "You brought a baby into a bar!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB

This is DCUM... By definition no one on here minds their own business.

[Anonymous]

Shorter OP: I saw a mother doing something I disapprove of.

(Actually that applies to about 80% of the posts on DCUM.)

[Anonymous]

How about all the mom's who think it brilliant to bring babies to baseball games when it is 90 degrees out and 110% humidity.

Simmering a baby seems like a great idea.

[Anonymous]

In Europe, we saw babies in pubs and restaurants late at night all the time.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, who cares? Myob.

[Anonymous]

Was the baby screaming or interrupting your bar experience? Some babies are night owls and wouldn't be asleep at home anyways.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the way you differentiate between Happy Hour and a late evening. I wouldn't think anything was out of order during the after-work/pre-bedtime hours. Any later than that and I admit, I would wonder about the arrangements if I saw a mom out at 10 o'clock at night with a little one. I probably wouldn't rant about it, but I would notice the late hour.

In the UK, I saw lots of babies on blankets under the table at a pub. I think the hours were limited to about 8pm, when it became "adults only."

There's nothing wrong with bringing children with you throughout the day, whatever the location. But, intruding into a child's sleep schedule seems a bit unfortunate.

Still, I agree with the MYOB poster. We have no idea about the specifics here. As a single mother, I have to give the benefit of doubt here.

[Anonymous]

OMFG! A baby in a bar! Alert the elders!

Seriously. MYOB.

[Anonymous]

I always think single mom in these situations and feel bad for the mother.

I do think that a baby should not be out in a bar after 8 but on the spectrum of bad parenting at least she isn't drugging the baby (we hope) or starving him or her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In Europe, we saw babies in pubs and restaurants late at night all the time.

Europeans are lushes and not exactly good role models. They also smoke a lot and have unhealthy attitudes about things like sex. What's your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, who cares? Myob.

As long as you don't care if I'm a little tipsy and don't always watch my language when chatting with my friends while out, I will. If you expect the bar to become a baby friendly space, then I care.

[Anonymous]

Meh. She is a mom who puts her social needs above her child's -- the baby can get lots of therapy as to why mommy never really loved them.

My DH's mom was like that - she still is. Her friends come first - over her husband and kids. The girls turned out okay, but her her boys... messed up. Constantly needing attention and terrified of not being loved.