polyamory

[Anonymous]

Are there any polyamorous folks on here?

DH and I have been together for 13 years, married for 8, 1 kid. We aren't poly, but I'm curious about it. I am bisexual but not really "out" in that I'm in a monogamous relationship with a man and people (naturally) assume that I am straight.

[Anonymous]

Please take this to explicit. No one cares about your bed partners

[Anonymous]

I was in a relationship with a man in an open marriage. I was his "second" woman and the relationship lasted four years. Over that time he wanted something from me and then suddenly he didn't. I kind of feeling like boiling his bunny (if you get my reference) but of course will control myself and move on.

So all I can say is be careful. This is risky business and people get hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please take this to explicit. No one cares about your bed partners

What is explicit about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a relationship with a man in an open marriage. I was his "second" woman and the relationship lasted four years. Over that time he wanted something from me and then suddenly he didn't. I kind of feeling like boiling his bunny (if you get my reference) but of course will control myself and move on.

So all I can say is be careful. This is risky business and people get hurt.

That's not really polyamory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a relationship with a man in an open marriage. I was his "second" woman and the relationship lasted four years. Over that time he wanted something from me and then suddenly he didn't. I kind of feeling like boiling his bunny (if you get my reference) but of course will control myself and move on.

So all I can say is be careful. This is risky business and people get hurt.

That's not really polyamory.

What would you call it? What's your definition of polyamory? Fucking even more than one person besides your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a relationship with a man in an open marriage. I was his "second" woman and the relationship lasted four years. Over that time he wanted something from me and then suddenly he didn't. I kind of feeling like boiling his bunny (if you get my reference) but of course will control myself and move on.

So all I can say is be careful. This is risky business and people get hurt.

That's not really polyamory.

What would you call it? What's your definition of polyamory? Fucking even more than one person besides your spouse?

Except that I'm not interested in discussing the physical side of it. I understand how the physical piece would work. More interested in the emotional/psychological/logistical side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a relationship with a man in an open marriage. I was his "second" woman and the relationship lasted four years. Over that time he wanted something from me and then suddenly he didn't. I kind of feeling like boiling his bunny (if you get my reference) but of course will control myself and move on.

So all I can say is be careful. This is risky business and people get hurt.

That's not really polyamory.

What would you call it? What's your definition of polyamory? Fucking even more than one person besides your spouse?

Except that I'm not interested in discussing the physical side of it. I understand how the physical piece would work. More interested in the emotional/psychological/logistical side.

The first PP in the four year relationship WAS talking about the emotional/psychological/logistical side, but someone said that wasn't "polyamory." What was it, then?

[Anonymous]

OP, before you start dating other people, you need to give your spouse the opportunity to veto or divorce.

[Anonymous]

I consider myself polyamorous. What would you like to know?

To the pp with the 4 year relationship: I am so sorry. I know how hard break ups can be but that happens in all relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I consider myself polyamorous. What would you like to know?

To the pp with the 4 year relationship: I am so sorry. I know how hard break ups can be but that happens in all relationships.

It doesn't happen in ALL relationships. It didn't happen in my parents' 50 year marriage. Then again, that PP could have been married to the guy and then he decides four years is it. That would have been harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a relationship with a man in an open marriage. I was his "second" woman and the relationship lasted four years. Over that time he wanted something from me and then suddenly he didn't. I kind of feeling like boiling his bunny (if you get my reference) but of course will control myself and move on.

So all I can say is be careful. This is risky business and people get hurt.

That's not really polyamory.

What would you call it? What's your definition of polyamory? Fucking even more than one person besides your spouse?

Except that I'm not interested in discussing the physical side of it. I understand how the physical piece would work. More interested in the emotional/psychological/logistical side.

The first PP in the four year relationship WAS talking about the emotional/psychological/logistical side, but someone said that wasn't "polyamory." What was it, then?

Sorry -- I meant to type "Except that I'm not interested in discussing the physical side of it. I understand how the physical piece would work. More interested in the emotional/psychological/logistical side." in response to the person who said that this belonged on the explicit board. I quoted the wrong post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, before you start dating other people, you need to give your spouse the opportunity to veto or divorce.

I 100% would. DH and I have actually talked about this before, in the abstract. He knows I am attracted to women and that I'd be interested in having a physical relationship with women, in theory. We are lucky to have a marriage where we both trust each other completely and can talk about these things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I consider myself polyamorous. What would you like to know?

To the pp with the 4 year relationship: I am so sorry. I know how hard break ups can be but that happens in all relationships.

Are you in a long-term relationship? If so, were you both (or more, if it's a triad or more) polyamorous when you went into the relationship or were you at some point monogamous?

I guess I'm just uncertain how it works when you are interested in dipping your toes in polyamory after being monogamous for so long.

[Anonymous]

My cousin and her husband are poly. They each have another partner and they all live together, kids included. Seems to work for them and shockingly they are pretty normal and relatable people. I think the key for them is that they don't have much of a physical connection anymore but they retain and immense emotional and parental one. They get physical and more emotional needs met from the additional respective partners.