What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will go first.

- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm).

- No dating in HS.

- No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine.

Good luck with that. Also, these are super strange lines in the sand. All of these things are such good memories for me and/or I learned a lot from them. I cannot imagine saying no to them. But to each their own.

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Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You seem to not like America or at least have a superior attitude towards Americans. So I am wondering why do you live here if you look down on Americans so much? And if your children are born here, they are Americans. Can’t escape it.

Dislike Americans? No. Just some misguided folks with loud voices.

Why am I here? Because you can become wealthy in a few years, educational opportunities, professional opportunities, land and asset ownership opportunities, less pollution and infrastructure. Also, enough diversity and immigrants here that I can pick and choose the best from many cultures.

This attitude is absolutely repugnant.

Welcome to America.
Which part of life, liberty, and pursuit of and happiness do you find repugnant? That's what our nation was founded to stand for.

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“Our” nation lol
I am an immigrant and neither i nor my friends consider you an American.
Carry on with your weird beliefs, we aren’t surprised because we know what country you are “really” from

With an attitude like yours, I don't consider you very American. You need a pocket constitution, friend.

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My kids can not hang with kids of MAGA parents.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids can not hang with kids of MAGA parents.

Sins of the father and all that. One wonders if those children will ever be able to integrate into society.

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Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You seem to not like America or at least have a superior attitude towards Americans. So I am wondering why do you live here if you look down on Americans so much? And if your children are born here, they are Americans. Can’t escape it.

Dislike Americans? No. Just some misguided folks with loud voices.

Why am I here? Because you can become wealthy in a few years, educational opportunities, professional opportunities, land and asset ownership opportunities, less pollution and infrastructure. Also, enough diversity and immigrants here that I can pick and choose the best from many cultures.

This attitude is absolutely repugnant.

Welcome to America.
Which part of life, liberty, and pursuit of and happiness do you find repugnant? That's what our nation was founded to stand for.

Different poster
“Our” nation lol
I am an immigrant and neither i nor my friends consider you an American.
Carry on with your weird beliefs, we aren’t surprised because we know what country you are “really” from

With an attitude like yours, I don't consider you very American. You need a pocket constitution, friend.

I actually agree with you. I am not a ‘real’ American. But at least I am not weird like OP

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Anonymous wrote:Dear Americans, this thread and it’s weird OP is a wake up call for you. Think hard about the cultural landscape of this country that is quietly but irrevocably changing.
Signed, an immigrant who isn’t afraid to see it like it is

hahahaha because historically every immigrant group has done what? How dumb are you?

Tell me the immigration rate isn’t the highest of all times as of 2024 or so.
The melting pot can only melt so much

No, no. Don't move the goal posts now. What did the earliest immigrants do, followed by all of the subsequent ones?

What subsequent ones? Are you saying that for example H1b Asians who immigrated in this century are assimilated?

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Anonymous wrote:Dear Americans, this thread and it’s weird OP is a wake up call for you. Think hard about the cultural landscape of this country that is quietly but irrevocably changing.
Signed, an immigrant who isn’t afraid to see it like it is

hahahaha because historically every immigrant group has done what? How dumb are you?

Tell me the immigration rate isn’t the highest of all times as of 2024 or so.
The melting pot can only melt so much

The percentage of foreign born people in the US is almost exactly what it was in 1870, 1890, and 1910--a little under 15%. For some reason, in 1880, 1900, and 1920 it was between 13% and 14%.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear Americans, this thread and it’s weird OP is a wake up call for you. Think hard about the cultural landscape of this country that is quietly but irrevocably changing.
Signed, an immigrant who isn’t afraid to see it like it is

hahahaha because historically every immigrant group has done what? How dumb are you?

Tell me the immigration rate isn’t the highest of all times as of 2024 or so.
The melting pot can only melt so much

The percentage of foreign born people in the US is almost exactly what it was in 1870, 1890, and 1910--a little under 15%. For some reason, in 1880, 1900, and 1920 it was between 13% and 14%.

here is the link: https://www.migrationpolicy.org/programs/data-hub/charts/immigrant-population-over-time

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will go first.

- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm).

- No dating in HS.

- No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine.

Good luck with that. Also, these are super strange lines in the sand. All of these things are such good memories for me and/or I learned a lot from them. I cannot imagine saying no to them. But to each their own.

DP, but I also hate long term carpools. They make me feel trapped.