What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.

[Anonymous]

The majority of American households do not have guns. There are certainly subcultures where that percentage is much closer to 100% or 0%

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Anonymous wrote:Piercing baby girls ears.

Or noses.

This is not an American thing. it’s very Latino and south Asian to get piercings for a baby.

its cringy to do that to an infant

You are culturally insensitive and probably a racist.

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Anonymous wrote:I will go first.

- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm).

- No dating in HS.

- No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine.

I'm curious about the no dating in HS thing. How do you prevent your 16 year old, for example, from having a boyfriend? She is out of the house at school for a large part of the day, and then presumably is allowed out with friends at least occasionally. How do you prevent her from having a romantic interest, which is so natural and normal at that age?

My kids were high achieving and liked being in a very demanding and rigorous academic program (4th -12th grade). However, they had very little free time for romance. Between ECs, sports, volunteer work, field trips and academics, my kids had an insanely long school day. Weekends was usually competitions, tournaments, travelling, homework, test prep, catching up on sleep, socializing with friends, leisure time and family time. Also, students in their cohort were as busy as them - so there was no one who was really dating. Maybe one or two couple. I am sure romantic interest and crushes did happen but there was no time to act upon them.

Did you go to school with your kids? Did you go with them to socialize with friends? You have no idea of they acted upon romantic interests.

Yes, I did. I was very involved in the school so I knew what was happening at the school. Plus, dropping them, picking them up, being at home with them, tutoring them. They were socializing mainly with same gender friends within their programs and the parents were also those that prioritized education. I know it is hard for you to believe but there is a group of immigrant kids (you know those who play the violin, win robotics, hackathons and Math competitions, program apps, have perfect GPA and ace SAT, win spelling bees and science competitions, write research papers and start non-profits) - who just have a different aim in life. Also, they are leaning on parents for logistical support and so they are always under the watchful eyes of parents.

These poor kids! No one wants to date them anyway so one less danger for their weird parents

They get well-paying jobs, date college educated people from functional families, get married in style , have 2 kids, are never without excellent childcare, go on vacations, have a social circle of successful friends and they buy the expensive million dollar homes. But whatever makes you happy.

But they always wonder what they missed out on… you know a saying, if you didn’t have a bike as a child and bought a Mercedes as an adult… you still didn’t have that bike

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t call it an all American thing but I don’t share a few widespread liberal beliefs and I do tell my teen that. It’s up to him to agree or disagree but I’ve talked to him about potential complications from choices that people around us consider ordinary and even praise worthy.

What about widespread conservative beliefs thst people around us consider ordinary and even praise worthy?

PP you are replying to. I live in a very liberal area so not a lot of conservatives but of course I don’t share many of their beliefs as well. It’s easy because most people around me also don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You seem to not like America or at least have a superior attitude towards Americans. So I am wondering why do you live here if you look down on Americans so much? And if your children are born here, they are Americans. Can’t escape it.

Dislike Americans? No. Just some misguided folks with loud voices.

Why am I here? Because you can become wealthy in a few years, educational opportunities, professional opportunities, land and asset ownership opportunities, less pollution and infrastructure. Also, enough diversity and immigrants here that I can pick and choose the best from many cultures.

This attitude is absolutely repugnant.

Welcome to America.
Which part of life, liberty, and pursuit of and happiness do you find repugnant? That's what our nation was founded to stand for.

Different poster
“Our” nation lol
I am an immigrant and neither i nor my friends consider you an American.
Carry on with your weird beliefs, we aren’t surprised because we know what country you are “really” from

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will go first.

- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm).

- No dating in HS.

- No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine.

I'm curious about the no dating in HS thing. How do you prevent your 16 year old, for example, from having a boyfriend? She is out of the house at school for a large part of the day, and then presumably is allowed out with friends at least occasionally. How do you prevent her from having a romantic interest, which is so natural and normal at that age?

My kids were high achieving and liked being in a very demanding and rigorous academic program (4th -12th grade). However, they had very little free time for romance. Between ECs, sports, volunteer work, field trips and academics, my kids had an insanely long school day. Weekends was usually competitions, tournaments, travelling, homework, test prep, catching up on sleep, socializing with friends, leisure time and family time. Also, students in their cohort were as busy as them - so there was no one who was really dating. Maybe one or two couple. I am sure romantic interest and crushes did happen but there was no time to act upon them.

Did you go to school with your kids? Did you go with them to socialize with friends? You have no idea of they acted upon romantic interests.

Yes, I did. I was very involved in the school so I knew what was happening at the school. Plus, dropping them, picking them up, being at home with them, tutoring them. They were socializing mainly with same gender friends within their programs and the parents were also those that prioritized education. I know it is hard for you to believe but there is a group of immigrant kids (you know those who play the violin, win robotics, hackathons and Math competitions, program apps, have perfect GPA and ace SAT, win spelling bees and science competitions, write research papers and start non-profits) - who just have a different aim in life. Also, they are leaning on parents for logistical support and so they are always under the watchful eyes of parents.

These poor kids! No one wants to date them anyway so one less danger for their weird parents

They get well-paying jobs, date college educated people from functional families, get married in style , have 2 kids, are never without excellent childcare, go on vacations, have a social circle of successful friends and they buy the expensive million dollar homes. But whatever makes you happy.

But they always wonder what they missed out on… you know a saying, if you didn’t have a bike as a child and bought a Mercedes as an adult… you still didn’t have that bike

I am one of those kids raised by strict immigrant parents. No, this doesn’t really apply in my experience. I don’t worry about what I “missed.” Having clumsy bad sex as a teen? Drinking a lot, sleeping around in my 20s instead of working hard to establish my career and marrying the love of my life? No thank you.

You don’t get to experience everything in life. You make choices and you make choices that influence your kids. I am glad for my parents’ small c conservative values.

They would never vote for Republicans though. That’s a bridge too far. 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You seem to not like America or at least have a superior attitude towards Americans. So I am wondering why do you live here if you look down on Americans so much? And if your children are born here, they are Americans. Can’t escape it.

Dislike Americans? No. Just some misguided folks with loud voices.

Why am I here? Because you can become wealthy in a few years, educational opportunities, professional opportunities, land and asset ownership opportunities, less pollution and infrastructure. Also, enough diversity and immigrants here that I can pick and choose the best from many cultures.

This attitude is absolutely repugnant.

Welcome to America.
Which part of life, liberty, and pursuit of and happiness do you find repugnant? That's what our nation was founded to stand for.

Different poster
“Our” nation lol
I am an immigrant and neither i nor my friends consider you an American.
Carry on with your weird beliefs, we aren’t surprised because we know what country you are “really” from

DP here. I assure you that the immigrant above doesn't give a single rat's ass about you not considering them American. Not a single Eff given.

[Anonymous]

Dear Americans, this thread and it’s weird OP is a wake up call for you. Think hard about the cultural landscape of this country that is quietly but irrevocably changing.
Signed, an immigrant who isn’t afraid to see it like it is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will go first.

- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm).

- No dating in HS.

- No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine.

I'm curious about the no dating in HS thing. How do you prevent your 16 year old, for example, from having a boyfriend? She is out of the house at school for a large part of the day, and then presumably is allowed out with friends at least occasionally. How do you prevent her from having a romantic interest, which is so natural and normal at that age?

My kids were high achieving and liked being in a very demanding and rigorous academic program (4th -12th grade). However, they had very little free time for romance. Between ECs, sports, volunteer work, field trips and academics, my kids had an insanely long school day. Weekends was usually competitions, tournaments, travelling, homework, test prep, catching up on sleep, socializing with friends, leisure time and family time. Also, students in their cohort were as busy as them - so there was no one who was really dating. Maybe one or two couple. I am sure romantic interest and crushes did happen but there was no time to act upon them.

Did you go to school with your kids? Did you go with them to socialize with friends? You have no idea of they acted upon romantic interests.

Yes, I did. I was very involved in the school so I knew what was happening at the school. Plus, dropping them, picking them up, being at home with them, tutoring them. They were socializing mainly with same gender friends within their programs and the parents were also those that prioritized education. I know it is hard for you to believe but there is a group of immigrant kids (you know those who play the violin, win robotics, hackathons and Math competitions, program apps, have perfect GPA and ace SAT, win spelling bees and science competitions, write research papers and start non-profits) - who just have a different aim in life. Also, they are leaning on parents for logistical support and so they are always under the watchful eyes of parents.

These poor kids! No one wants to date them anyway so one less danger for their weird parents

They get well-paying jobs, date college educated people from functional families, get married in style , have 2 kids, are never without excellent childcare, go on vacations, have a social circle of successful friends and they buy the expensive million dollar homes. But whatever makes you happy.

But they always wonder what they missed out on… you know a saying, if you didn’t have a bike as a child and bought a Mercedes as an adult… you still didn’t have that bike

I am one of those kids raised by strict immigrant parents. No, this doesn’t really apply in my experience. I don’t worry about what I “missed.” Having clumsy bad sex as a teen? Drinking a lot, sleeping around in my 20s instead of working hard to establish my career and marrying the love of my life? No thank you.

You don’t get to experience everything in life. You make choices and you make choices that influence your kids. I am glad for my parents’ small c conservative values.

They would never vote for Republicans though. That’s a bridge too far. 🤣

I am genuinely glad you feel the way you feel!
-PP you are replying to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You seem to not like America or at least have a superior attitude towards Americans. So I am wondering why do you live here if you look down on Americans so much? And if your children are born here, they are Americans. Can’t escape it.

Dislike Americans? No. Just some misguided folks with loud voices.

Why am I here? Because you can become wealthy in a few years, educational opportunities, professional opportunities, land and asset ownership opportunities, less pollution and infrastructure. Also, enough diversity and immigrants here that I can pick and choose the best from many cultures.

This attitude is absolutely repugnant.

Welcome to America.
Which part of life, liberty, and pursuit of and happiness do you find repugnant? That's what our nation was founded to stand for.

Different poster
“Our” nation lol
I am an immigrant and neither i nor my friends consider you an American.
Carry on with your weird beliefs, we aren’t surprised because we know what country you are “really” from

DP here. I assure you that the immigrant above doesn't give a single rat's ass about you not considering them American. Not a single Eff given.

And it’s fine! We are all entitled to our opinions
I am pretty sure Americans she is so disdainful of also don’t care much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear Americans, this thread and it’s weird OP is a wake up call for you. Think hard about the cultural landscape of this country that is quietly but irrevocably changing.
Signed, an immigrant who isn’t afraid to see it like it is

hahahaha because historically every immigrant group has done what? How dumb are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Piercing baby girls ears.

Or noses.

This is not an American thing. it’s very Latino and south Asian to get piercings for a baby.

its cringy to do that to an infant

You are culturally insensitive and probably a racist.

Dp
lol, next thing it’s culturally insensitive to call someone out for not using headphones in public

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear Americans, this thread and it’s weird OP is a wake up call for you. Think hard about the cultural landscape of this country that is quietly but irrevocably changing.
Signed, an immigrant who isn’t afraid to see it like it is

hahahaha because historically every immigrant group has done what? How dumb are you?

Tell me the immigration rate isn’t the highest of all times as of 2024 or so.
The melting pot can only melt so much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will go first.

- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm).

- No dating in HS.

- No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine.

I'm curious about the no dating in HS thing. How do you prevent your 16 year old, for example, from having a boyfriend? She is out of the house at school for a large part of the day, and then presumably is allowed out with friends at least occasionally. How do you prevent her from having a romantic interest, which is so natural and normal at that age?

My kids were high achieving and liked being in a very demanding and rigorous academic program (4th -12th grade). However, they had very little free time for romance. Between ECs, sports, volunteer work, field trips and academics, my kids had an insanely long school day. Weekends was usually competitions, tournaments, travelling, homework, test prep, catching up on sleep, socializing with friends, leisure time and family time. Also, students in their cohort were as busy as them - so there was no one who was really dating. Maybe one or two couple. I am sure romantic interest and crushes did happen but there was no time to act upon them.

Did you go to school with your kids? Did you go with them to socialize with friends? You have no idea of they acted upon romantic interests.

Yes, I did. I was very involved in the school so I knew what was happening at the school. Plus, dropping them, picking them up, being at home with them, tutoring them. They were socializing mainly with same gender friends within their programs and the parents were also those that prioritized education. I know it is hard for you to believe but there is a group of immigrant kids (you know those who play the violin, win robotics, hackathons and Math competitions, program apps, have perfect GPA and ace SAT, win spelling bees and science competitions, write research papers and start non-profits) - who just have a different aim in life. Also, they are leaning on parents for logistical support and so they are always under the watchful eyes of parents.

These poor kids! No one wants to date them anyway so one less danger for their weird parents

They get well-paying jobs, date college educated people from functional families, get married in style , have 2 kids, are never without excellent childcare, go on vacations, have a social circle of successful friends and they buy the expensive million dollar homes. But whatever makes you happy.

Excellent childcare provided by their grandmas lol lol who are like the OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear Americans, this thread and it’s weird OP is a wake up call for you. Think hard about the cultural landscape of this country that is quietly but irrevocably changing.
Signed, an immigrant who isn’t afraid to see it like it is

hahahaha because historically every immigrant group has done what? How dumb are you?

Tell me the immigration rate isn’t the highest of all times as of 2024 or so.
The melting pot can only melt so much

No, no. Don't move the goal posts now. What did the earliest immigrants do, followed by all of the subsequent ones?