Why is redshirting so rare if it's so advantageous?

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Those who think it is advantageous are thinking that only in terms of their own children who need certain advantages to even the field. Very rarely someone will think of it as an advantage if their kid is already ahead. At that point they will green-shirt.

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Anonymous wrote:Natural law poster is just really, really slow. I don't think she is a troll, but she's definitely dim. I think she genuinely believes that because she thinks grades should be by calendar year, all fall birthdays are redshirted. Weird af.

The reality is that cutoffs in the DMV are Sept 1 and Oct 1. this poster needs to deal with actual reality -- but they never will.

Some school systems have an early entry test in period and flexibility.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

DCUMs antiredshirters are so weird. It's fascinating.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

DCUMs antiredshirters are so weird. It's fascinating.

Redshirted kids are just so dumb. That's why people are so up in arms about these kids

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

Lol. Of all the things that didn’t happen, this is definitely the most recent. Along with “thanks for breastfeeding me” and “thanks for raising me in a single-family home with a yard in a school district rated 7 or better by greatschools.org.”

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

DCUMs antiredshirters are so weird. It's fascinating.

I am fascinating and weird, but you are reading with goggles. I'm not antiredshirt. I literally do not care, but you didn't call out the pp before making unsubstantiated claims. I pointed out anecdotally that it had no basis, which is all we have for that stupid claim. I said that my kid had no problem with being friends with older kids, which many antiredshirters worry about. I did say that the one kid is not smart, but he does have an advantage now in HS, so perhaps all is well and good.

Should I say the same about you as proredshirter, which you must be if you're calling me an antiredshirter.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

Lol. Of all the things that didn’t happen, this is definitely the most recent. Along with “thanks for breastfeeding me” and “thanks for raising me in a single-family home with a yard in a school district rated 7 or better by greatschools.org.”

Believe what you will, but the kid thanked me for not holding him back. I posted this years ago on a rs thread. I don't know why he did, but he did. We never talked about it. But, you won't believe that either.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

Lol. Of all the things that didn’t happen, this is definitely the most recent. Along with “thanks for breastfeeding me” and “thanks for raising me in a single-family home with a yard in a school district rated 7 or better by greatschools.org.”

Believe what you will, but the kid thanked me for not holding him back. I posted this years ago on a rs thread. I don't know why he did, but he did. We never talked about it. But, you won't believe that either.

So your kid thinks his friends are "dumb" if they were held back? Does he bully kids at school? Pick on the special needs students? What an ass you are raising. You should be embarrassed and not proud.

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Probably because he is going off to college now, and his friend next door, who was redshirted (but goes to a different school) is not.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

Lol. Of all the things that didn’t happen, this is definitely the most recent. Along with “thanks for breastfeeding me” and “thanks for raising me in a single-family home with a yard in a school district rated 7 or better by greatschools.org.”

Believe what you will, but the kid thanked me for not holding him back. I posted this years ago on a rs thread. I don't know why he did, but he did. We never talked about it. But, you won't believe that either.

So your kid thinks his friends are "dumb" if they were held back? Does he bully kids at school? Pick on the special needs students? What an ass you are raising. You should be embarrassed and not proud.

No, he didn't make it in reference to anyone but himself. He is not an ass. He is one of the nicest guys around and has tons of friends. He meant it like we had confidence in him. But, I see the fangs are out. I said "okay," when he said it and that was it.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

Lol. Of all the things that didn’t happen, this is definitely the most recent. Along with “thanks for breastfeeding me” and “thanks for raising me in a single-family home with a yard in a school district rated 7 or better by greatschools.org.”

Believe what you will, but the kid thanked me for not holding him back. I posted this years ago on a rs thread. I don't know why he did, but he did. We never talked about it. But, you won't believe that either.

So your kid thinks his friends are "dumb" if they were held back? Does he bully kids at school? Pick on the special needs students? What an ass you are raising. You should be embarrassed and not proud.

No, he didn't make it in reference to anyone but himself. He is not an ass. He is one of the nicest guys around and has tons of friends. He meant it like we had confidence in him. But, I see the fangs are out. I said "okay," when he said it and that was it.

Meh, sounds like a typical entitled toxic male. Good job, mom!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

Lol. Of all the things that didn’t happen, this is definitely the most recent. Along with “thanks for breastfeeding me” and “thanks for raising me in a single-family home with a yard in a school district rated 7 or better by greatschools.org.”

Believe what you will, but the kid thanked me for not holding him back. I posted this years ago on a rs thread. I don't know why he did, but he did. We never talked about it. But, you won't believe that either.

So your kid thinks his friends are "dumb" if they were held back? Does he bully kids at school? Pick on the special needs students? What an ass you are raising. You should be embarrassed and not proud.

No, he didn't make it in reference to anyone but himself. He is not an ass. He is one of the nicest guys around and has tons of friends. He meant it like we had confidence in him. But, I see the fangs are out. I said "okay," when he said it and that was it.

Meh, sounds like a typical entitled toxic male. Good job, mom!

LOL. So, I should have held him back and then he would not be toxic.

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Anonymous wrote:Probably because he is going off to college now, and his friend next door, who was redshirted (but goes to a different school) is not.

Obviously because he's dumb, right? Perhaps he has disabilities you are unaware of? The more you say the more disgusting you sound.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m redshirting my July daughter

Ditto. She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that. She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature. Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.

She isn't less mature. You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger. You are doing it for her, not you. You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood. You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5.

Lol. Of all the things that didn’t happen, this is definitely the most recent. Along with “thanks for breastfeeding me” and “thanks for raising me in a single-family home with a yard in a school district rated 7 or better by greatschools.org.”

Believe what you will, but the kid thanked me for not holding him back. I posted this years ago on a rs thread. I don't know why he did, but he did. We never talked about it. But, you won't believe that either.

So your kid thinks his friends are "dumb" if they were held back? Does he bully kids at school? Pick on the special needs students? What an ass you are raising. You should be embarrassed and not proud.

No, he didn't make it in reference to anyone but himself. He is not an ass. He is one of the nicest guys around and has tons of friends. He meant it like we had confidence in him. But, I see the fangs are out. I said "okay," when he said it and that was it.

Meh, sounds like a typical entitled toxic male. Good job, mom!

LOL. So, I should have held him back and then he would not be toxic.

He was always doomed living your household. The apple didn't fall far from the tree.

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Okay, it sounds like you held your kid back and are feeling sensitive about it. I'm leaving the thread and wish you well. But, I will laugh all day about my kid being doomed, dumb, and disabled. Oh, and a toxic male.