Do you think we will see a massive uptick in women choosing to stay home after this?

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Anonymous wrote:One thing this thread has shown is that insanity and unhappiness have little to do with whether you WOH or SAH. Some of you ladies are certifiable.

With the recession looming and unemployment rising !!!

Soon nobody will be wealthy enough to be able to choose

Right now be grateful if even one person in the family has a paycheck

We will all soon be begging by the roadside, spending our days in the food bank line, hustling kids old clothes at yard sales, competing to wash someone's floor's

Fighting with the CPS because they say a child must have it's own room and we get by with much less

[Anonymous]

If you think SAHMs are intellectually incurious or worthless or you think WOHMs don't love their kids or aren't hot enough to bag a provider, you're a certifiable nut job. We're all doing the best we can, and we were all very different people to begin with. The only people I look down on are the ones screaming at each other here.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One thing this thread has shown is that insanity and unhappiness have little to do with whether you WOH or SAH. Some of you ladies are certifiable.

With the recession looming and unemployment rising !!!

Soon nobody will be wealthy enough to be able to choose

Right now be grateful if even one person in the family has a paycheck

We will all soon be begging by the roadside, spending our days in the food bank line, hustling kids old clothes at yard sales, competing to wash someone's floor's

Fighting with the CPS because they say a child must have it's own room and we get by with much less

step away from MSNBC

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Anonymous wrote:There are middle grounds here. I work during school hours & early in the morning. It actually adds up to 40 hours, but I get to pick up my daughter. I realize I’m fortunate. Everyone should do what works for their specific family!!

+ 100. I am similar and feel like we should spend our time forcing companies to allow these kind of flexible roles (and to extend maternity and paternity leaves). It would be a lot more productive these tired SAHM vs. WOHM debates.

In my mind, there is no question that it’s best for babies and toddlers to spend the majority of their waking hours with a parent or grandparent. On the other hand, it shouldn’t require sacrificing one’s career (and ambition and mental capabilities) to do so.

Just stop with this nonsense.

Your extreme guilt is preventing you from admitting the obvious.

Your ignorance is preventing you from understanding that I actually did stay home with my two kids...

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Anonymous wrote:I am in the camp of used to work FT in high earning prestigious job and now am taking time off and working very part time. This all started about 6 months before the quarantine. Honestly I have never learned so much in my adult life. I listen to books constantly, exercise daily and generally am living my best life. Solving problems at work was stimulating and I liked my community, but it definitely didn’t satisfy my intellectual needs like reading difficult books with out all the noise does. It’s amazing when you stop having to unwind with trash tv or other things and you can just enjoy a substantive life. I don’t even really do social media or other wastes of time. It’s great! Free yourself from thinking work is the only source of intellectual stimulation. It’s within you!

Stop it! You must be stupid and unfulfilled if you aren’t working! Also something-something your DH is working with smart women (?)!

[Anonymous]

I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

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Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

LMAO...my kid has a friend in school with 2 Dads since his Dad feeds him Pizza and is lenient on screen time, my son has demanded two Dads. Keep some perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

This really doesn't phase me, as someone who works. I want my kid to be equally attached to mom AND dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in the camp of used to work FT in high earning prestigious job and now am taking time off and working very part time. This all started about 6 months before the quarantine. Honestly I have never learned so much in my adult life. I listen to books constantly, exercise daily and generally am living my best life. Solving problems at work was stimulating and I liked my community, but it definitely didn’t satisfy my intellectual needs like reading difficult books with out all the noise does. It’s amazing when you stop having to unwind with trash tv or other things and you can just enjoy a substantive life. I don’t even really do social media or other wastes of time. It’s great! Free yourself from thinking work is the only source of intellectual stimulation. It’s within you!

Who forced you to watch trash TV and go on social media and not read books while working? It sounds like you were burnt out which is why you made those poor choices. I work and unwind by reading and hiking and gardening and with family. You can do those things whether or not you work, just that you have more time to do them if you don’t have a job or other responsibilities.

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Anonymous wrote:I am in the camp of used to work FT in high earning prestigious job and now am taking time off and working very part time. This all started about 6 months before the quarantine. Honestly I have never learned so much in my adult life. I listen to books constantly, exercise daily and generally am living my best life. Solving problems at work was stimulating and I liked my community, but it definitely didn’t satisfy my intellectual needs like reading difficult books with out all the noise does. It’s amazing when you stop having to unwind with trash tv or other things and you can just enjoy a substantive life. I don’t even really do social media or other wastes of time. It’s great! Free yourself from thinking work is the only source of intellectual stimulation. It’s within you!

Who forced you to watch trash TV and go on social media and not read books while working? It sounds like you were burnt out which is why you made those poor choices. I work and unwind by reading and hiking and gardening and with family. You can do those things whether or not you work, just that you have more time to do them if you don’t have a job or other responsibilities.

Yes, work causes burn out -especially jobs that require a lot of you intellectually. But congrats for being super mom! You seem like a fun friend, too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

I am not the only SAHM mom in my child’s class, but when I do go to the school especially for programs that are held during the day when most parents are at work, I make an extra effort (when I can) to greet the kids whose parents aren’t there. If I know the parents, I make sure to text a photo of their child receiving whatever reward or participating in the program. I know the parents would be there, if they were able. I am a SAHM by choice and I don’t look down on women who WOHM. IMO, it takes a village; I’m listed as the emergency contact for many of my friends who WOHM. I have also picked up their kids during early dismissals. I don’t understand the SAHM vs. WOHM debate. Aren’t we all just trying to make the best decisions for our families?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

Aww, that's sweet. My co-room mom and I both work full-time, as do three of the four other room moms for the other two class in that grade. So don't worry, honey, our kids see us at school plenty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

I am not the only SAHM mom in my child’s class, but when I do go to the school especially for programs that are held during the day when most parents are at work, I make an extra effort (when I can) to greet the kids whose parents aren’t there. If I know the parents, I make sure to text a photo of their child receiving whatever reward or participating in the program. I know the parents would be there, if they were able. I am a SAHM by choice and I don’t look down on women who WOHM. IMO, it takes a village; I’m listed as the emergency contact for many of my friends who WOHM. I have also picked up their kids during early dismissals. I don’t understand the SAHM vs. WOHM debate. Aren’t we all just trying to make the best decisions for our families?

You sound like a genuinely nice person. I could see your intentions being misinterpreted by a defensive and bitchy wohm, like the ones on this thread, who thinks you’re interfering or trying to one up her. Ex. PP who posted “we also volunteer and see our kids plenty!!”

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Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

Aww, that's sweet. My co-room mom and I both work full-time, as do three of the four other room moms for the other two class in that grade. So don't worry, honey, our kids see us at school plenty.

+1. This is so odd to me. I work FT and have never missed a class party or field trip. All the big "planning" moms on committees, PTA, fundraisers etc. are working moms in my area, though I think a few might work PT. I have a very flexible job, as does DH, though he tends to mostly come to the "big" events.