Do you think we will see a massive uptick in women choosing to stay home after this?

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Anonymous wrote:There are middle grounds here. I work during school hours & early in the morning. It actually adds up to 40 hours, but I get to pick up my daughter. I realize I’m fortunate. Everyone should do what works for their specific family!!

+ 100. I am similar and feel like we should spend our time forcing companies to allow these kind of flexible roles (and to extend maternity and paternity leaves). It would be a lot more productive these tired SAHM vs. WOHM debates.

In my mind, there is no question that it’s best for babies and toddlers to spend the majority of their waking hours with a parent or grandparent. On the other hand, it shouldn’t require sacrificing one’s career (and ambition and mental capabilities) to do so.

Just stop with this nonsense.

Your extreme guilt is preventing you from admitting the obvious.

Your ignorance is preventing you from understanding that I actually did stay home with my two kids...

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

I am not the only SAHM mom in my child’s class, but when I do go to the school especially for programs that are held during the day when most parents are at work, I make an extra effort (when I can) to greet the kids whose parents aren’t there. If I know the parents, I make sure to text a photo of their child receiving whatever reward or participating in the program. I know the parents would be there, if they were able. I am a SAHM by choice and I don’t look down on women who WOHM. IMO, it takes a village; I’m listed as the emergency contact for many of my friends who WOHM. I have also picked up their kids during early dismissals. I don’t understand the SAHM vs. WOHM debate. Aren’t we all just trying to make the best decisions for our families?

You sound like a genuinely nice person. I could see your intentions being misinterpreted by a defensive and bitchy wohm, like the ones on this thread, who thinks you’re interfering or trying to one up her. Ex. PP who posted “we also volunteer and see our kids plenty!!”

If you're the original PP here, you're the bitchy one. Don't try to pin that on any WOHMs. You're literally trying to shame them. You're an awful person.

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I guess we need to add "Only SAHM at school!!!" along with engineer WOHM, RAGE SAHM, and Bright Horizons SAHM to DCUM'S cage match for the unhinged and unhappy.

There is one other WOHM who needs to be added but I forgot the name. The cage match enrollment is about equal between SAHM and WOHM for the record.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

I am not the only SAHM mom in my child’s class, but when I do go to the school especially for programs that are held during the day when most parents are at work, I make an extra effort (when I can) to greet the kids whose parents aren’t there. If I know the parents, I make sure to text a photo of their child receiving whatever reward or participating in the program. I know the parents would be there, if they were able. I am a SAHM by choice and I don’t look down on women who WOHM. IMO, it takes a village; I’m listed as the emergency contact for many of my friends who WOHM. I have also picked up their kids during early dismissals. I don’t understand the SAHM vs. WOHM debate. Aren’t we all just trying to make the best decisions for our families?

You sound like a genuinely nice person. I could see your intentions being misinterpreted by a defensive and bitchy wohm, like the ones on this thread, who thinks you’re interfering or trying to one up her. Ex. PP who posted “we also volunteer and see our kids plenty!!”

If you're the original PP here, you're the bitchy one. Don't try to pin that on any WOHMs. You're literally trying to shame them. You're an awful person.

Not the original PP. You sound triggered so I guess some of it was true. Calm down and reassess your priorities instead of yelling at people.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

I am not the only SAHM mom in my child’s class, but when I do go to the school especially for programs that are held during the day when most parents are at work, I make an extra effort (when I can) to greet the kids whose parents aren’t there. If I know the parents, I make sure to text a photo of their child receiving whatever reward or participating in the program. I know the parents would be there, if they were able. I am a SAHM by choice and I don’t look down on women who WOHM. IMO, it takes a village; I’m listed as the emergency contact for many of my friends who WOHM. I have also picked up their kids during early dismissals. I don’t understand the SAHM vs. WOHM debate. Aren’t we all just trying to make the best decisions for our families?

You sound like a genuinely nice person. I could see your intentions being misinterpreted by a defensive and bitchy wohm, like the ones on this thread, who thinks you’re interfering or trying to one up her. Ex. PP who posted “we also volunteer and see our kids plenty!!”

If you're the original PP here, you're the bitchy one. Don't try to pin that on any WOHMs. You're literally trying to shame them. You're an awful person.

NP Judging from the nutso working moms on here, I think we can safely pin that on them.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a slack (but very well paying) job that allows me to be home when my kids get home and leave when me kids leave for school. I never miss a swim class or ballet class. We have family dinners every night. (Husband works 95% from home)

We also make enough money to have a lot of added luxuries than if I didn’t work.

I enjoy my coworkers and even my boss.

No way I’m giving this up. Life is too good!

I have a flexible job, good pay, love my colleagues and the mission of my work. I also do not want to give any of that up, regardless of what happens in the current climate.

I'm extremely grateful for the blessings in my life, including work. But if something happens and we need to make changes or adapt, we will. And I like being home as well. If that is what ends up being our situation, we'll make the best of it and will enjoy the upsides.

I sincerely pray that everyone is safe, healthy, secure and prosperous going forward, no matter what your situation or what choices you make or need to make. Good luck, everyone!

I am the same as you! And thank you for your good wishes. I agree and want to extend a virtual hug to all the moms and dads out there. We need to be kind to each other, especially right now.

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Anyway if you think SAHMs are intellectually incurious or worthless or you think WOHMs don't love their kids or aren't hot enough to bag a provider, you're a certifiable nut job. We're all doing the best we can, and we were all very different people to begin with. The only people I look down on are the ones screaming at each other here.

If you want to see certifiable nut jobs, any of these threads and any Meghan Markle thread are a good place to start. There are some people here who have serious issues.

You made me LOL, PP. The people obsessed with the British Royals (or ex-Royals or whatever) or any celebrities are just bizarre to me.

Agree with both of you.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the only SAHM in each of my kid’s classes. When I go into school, not every time, but every once in awhile, a child comes up to me and says some variation of, “I wish my mom was here.”

I am not the only SAHM mom in my child’s class, but when I do go to the school especially for programs that are held during the day when most parents are at work, I make an extra effort (when I can) to greet the kids whose parents aren’t there. If I know the parents, I make sure to text a photo of their child receiving whatever reward or participating in the program. I know the parents would be there, if they were able. I am a SAHM by choice and I don’t look down on women who WOHM. IMO, it takes a village; I’m listed as the emergency contact for many of my friends who WOHM. I have also picked up their kids during early dismissals. I don’t understand the SAHM vs. WOHM debate. Aren’t we all just trying to make the best decisions for our families?

You sound like a genuinely nice person. I could see your intentions being misinterpreted by a defensive and bitchy wohm, like the ones on this thread, who thinks you’re interfering or trying to one up her. Ex. PP who posted “we also volunteer and see our kids plenty!!”

If you're the original PP here, you're the bitchy one. Don't try to pin that on any WOHMs. You're literally trying to shame them. You're an awful person.

NP Judging from the nutso working moms on here, I think we can safely pin that on them.

Eh, too late. Only SAHM at school has already been added to the DCUM crazy lady cage match. We'll put her in with engineer WOHM.

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Oh god no.

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I am a much better mom when I have my job (which is important and which I love) to go to. I work normal hours, but am a fed with a lot of flexibility. My DH is a doctor who works shifts, so tons of flexibility. At least one of my DH or I have made every single class field trip or book party or performance that any of our 3 kids has ever done. I get 4 hours/day with my kids. I’m a good parent and I’m good at my job. There’s no conflict.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a much better mom when I have my job (which is important and which I love) to go to. I work normal hours, but am a fed with a lot of flexibility. My DH is a doctor who works shifts, so tons of flexibility. At least one of my DH or I have made every single class field trip or book party or performance that any of our 3 kids has ever done. I get 4 hours/day with my kids. I’m a good parent and I’m good at my job. There’s no conflict.

The conflict comes when the kids are young (under 5) if you have a long commute and little flexibility.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a much better mom when I have my job (which is important and which I love) to go to. I work normal hours, but am a fed with a lot of flexibility. My DH is a doctor who works shifts, so tons of flexibility. At least one of my DH or I have made every single class field trip or book party or performance that any of our 3 kids has ever done. I get 4 hours/day with my kids. I’m a good parent and I’m good at my job. There’s no conflict.

The conflict comes when the kids are young (under 5) if you have a long commute and little flexibility.

+1. I’m also going to add when you have no family nearby.

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I don't feel superior to SAHMs but the person in this thread who thinks doing charity work is anything at all like working FT without childcare is seriously delusional.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't feel superior to SAHMs but the person in this thread who thinks doing charity work is anything at all like working FT without childcare is seriously delusional.

There are a lot of delusional people on this thread. You see a lot of people making absurd claims to validate their life choices.

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I love love love staying home with my kids and cannot understand women crawling out of their skin taking care of their kids all day and working. I working from home, while my husband is the main breadwinner by a lot, and he helps with the kids and home as well. This quarantine has made us both SO thankful that I CAN stay home with the kids, that I have a purposeful job from home, that I enjoy all the time with the kids and in the home, and that we have adapted well to this new temporary life. It is really ideal for kids to be met by a parent after school, spend the bulk of their free time with their family, this is the natural order of life and you can feel it’s true in your heart.