Style choices that age women in their 40s

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Anonymous wrote:I wear capris length leggings all the time in the summer for my athleisure because I don't like shorts on me and I want to be comfortable--is that bad?

also, what jeans should we be wearing? I wear jeans so infrequently but when I do I can't seem to part with my skinny jeans. what are we supposed to wear? bootcut? flare? flare cropped? I'm confused. lol

If, instead of capri leggings, you wore leggings that hit like just above your ankle, will you really be that much warmer? You are already in leggings...does a few inches of exposed calf really keep you cool? Meanwhile, what it is doing is making you look shorter and drawing attention to the widest part of your calf....

This. This is what the capri-defenders can't explain. Who walks around thinking "gosh if only my pants were 6 inches shorter, I'd be so much more comfortable." You need to focus on the fabric, not the length. You want something lightweight and breathable.

And if it's truly too hot for pants, then as skirt of any length, or a pair of short, will offer more relief than a pair of capri pants.

Me - I walk around thinking that. I'll roll full-length pants up, especially while sitting for ex. at an outdoor restaurant; or if I'm wearing a maxi dress, I'll lift the hem several inches while I walk for more airflow. Yes, those few inches of airflow really do make a difference to me.

Agreed. I have very long legs with super thin ankles and calves. So the leg to torso proportions in capri or ankle pants work well for my body. Of course this look doesn’t work on people who have thick calves or short legs. Dressing well is mostly about understanding what clothing suits your body type.

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Just replace "capri" with a high waisted wide leg crop like this and you can stay on trend and still expose your ankles:

https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/the-colette-cropped-wide-leg-pants-by-maeve4?color=032&size=33&inventoryCountry=US&countryCode=US&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_source=Google-Mobile&utm_campaign=US%20-%20Shopping%20-%20PMAX%20-%20Apparel%20-%20Apparel%20Icons&utm_content=&utm_term=&creative=&device=m&matchtype=&network=x&utm_kxconfid=vx6rd81ts&gclid=CjwKCAjwq4imBhBQEiwA9Nx1BqP7Qly_fza6Y07R9BvlV1o2klJNUqR4zeQyTIrG4NDg8vu8BJXUbRoCzysQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&type=STANDARD&quantity=1

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Has anyone mentioned CHICO’S?! stay away from j.jill, eileen fisher and other frumpty dumpty brands unless you want to add years to your appearance

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looking like you’ve given up

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone mentioned CHICO’S?! stay away from j.jill, eileen fisher and other frumpty dumpty brands unless you want to add years to your appearance

It’s more like chic-o’s and I think I speak for everyone when I say go f$& yourself.

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Lots of Boxy clothing. Even if you carry extra weight, creating a waist looks great.

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone mentioned CHICO’S?! stay away from j.jill, eileen fisher and other frumpty dumpty brands unless you want to add years to your appearance

It’s more like chic-o’s and I think I speak for everyone when I say go f$& yourself.

You don't speak for me. This thread is about women in their 40's (of which I'm one). Those brands absolutely age women in their 40's. And why is everyone reading this thread so damn sensitive???

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone mentioned CHICO’S?! stay away from j.jill, eileen fisher and other frumpty dumpty brands unless you want to add years to your appearance

It’s more like chic-o’s and I think I speak for everyone when I say go f$& yourself.

You don't speak for me. This thread is about women in their 40's (of which I'm one). Those brands absolutely age women in their 40's. And why is everyone reading this thread so damn sensitive???

NP - Are women in their 40s really wearing Chico’s? I picture that being more 55+

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Anonymous wrote:Just replace "capri" with a high waisted wide leg crop like this and you can stay on trend and still expose your ankles:

https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/the-colette-cropped-wide-leg-pants-by-maeve4?color=032&size=33&inventoryCountry=US&countryCode=US&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_source=Google-Mobile&utm_campaign=US%20-%20Shopping%20-%20PMAX%20-%20Apparel%20-%20Apparel%20Icons&utm_content=&utm_term=&creative=&device=m&matchtype=&network=x&utm_kxconfid=vx6rd81ts&gclid=CjwKCAjwq4imBhBQEiwA9Nx1BqP7Qly_fza6Y07R9BvlV1o2klJNUqR4zeQyTIrG4NDg8vu8BJXUbRoCzysQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&type=STANDARD&quantity=1

I'm 5'5 and a size 2 and this cut makes me look like a short, fat troll. I think this only works on the tall and thin if you care about the concept of "flattering" which I know fashion now kind of doesn't.

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Anonymous wrote:Just replace "capri" with a high waisted wide leg crop like this and you can stay on trend and still expose your ankles:

https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/the-colette-cropped-wide-leg-pants-by-maeve4?color=032&size=33&inventoryCountry=US&countryCode=US&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_source=Google-Mobile&utm_campaign=US%20-%20Shopping%20-%20PMAX%20-%20Apparel%20-%20Apparel%20Icons&utm_content=&utm_term=&creative=&device=m&matchtype=&network=x&utm_kxconfid=vx6rd81ts&gclid=CjwKCAjwq4imBhBQEiwA9Nx1BqP7Qly_fza6Y07R9BvlV1o2klJNUqR4zeQyTIrG4NDg8vu8BJXUbRoCzysQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&type=STANDARD&quantity=1

I'm 5'5 and a size 2 and this cut makes me look like a short, fat troll. I think this only works on the tall and thin if you care about the concept of "flattering" which I know fashion now kind of doesn't.

5’4, 108 and same. Skinny (but not spandex-ey or skin tight) jeans look best on me. Straight leg are ok but I haven’t found a pair that flatters my butt the way skinny jeans do. Im team find jeans that flatter you and don’t follow trends.

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Anonymous wrote:I think blonde makes most people look older than they actually are!

Yeah, this starts in late 20’s. Blonde is very aging.

I just dyed my hair a warm medium blonde (from med brown) and I really do think it makes me look a bit younger. That wasn’t the goal of the change and I’m not sure I want to deal with the upkeep so may go back to brown, but I disagree that blonde is universally aging.

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Anonymous wrote:I think blonde makes most people look older than they actually are!

Yeah, this starts in late 20’s. Blonde is very aging.

I just dyed my hair a warm medium blonde (from med brown) and I really do think it makes me look a bit younger. That wasn’t the goal of the change and I’m not sure I want to deal with the upkeep so may go back to brown, but I disagree that blonde is universally aging.

+1 blonde is youthful because that is who is naturally blonde. It also is a less stark contrast with skin tone which helps visually blur any blemishes or wrinkles, compared to the face framed in brown. The drawback is less striking but the bonus is a softer blurry look.

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Anonymous wrote:Just replace "capri" with a high waisted wide leg crop like this and you can stay on trend and still expose your ankles:

https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/the-colette-cropped-wide-leg-pants-by-maeve4?color=032&size=33&inventoryCountry=US&countryCode=US&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_source=Google-Mobile&utm_campaign=US%20-%20Shopping%20-%20PMAX%20-%20Apparel%20-%20Apparel%20Icons&utm_content=&utm_term=&creative=&device=m&matchtype=&network=x&utm_kxconfid=vx6rd81ts&gclid=CjwKCAjwq4imBhBQEiwA9Nx1BqP7Qly_fza6Y07R9BvlV1o2klJNUqR4zeQyTIrG4NDg8vu8BJXUbRoCzysQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&type=STANDARD&quantity=1

I'm 5'5 and a size 2 and this cut makes me look like a short, fat troll. I think this only works on the tall and thin if you care about the concept of "flattering" which I know fashion now kind of doesn't.

5’4, 108 and same. Skinny (but not spandex-ey or skin tight) jeans look best on me. Straight leg are ok but I haven’t found a pair that flatters my butt the way skinny jeans do. Im team find jeans that flatter you and don’t follow trends.

Yup, pants like these are not capris, and they are not aging. But they are just one of those fashion items that truly only work if you're tall, doesn't matter how thin you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think blonde makes most people look older than they actually are!

Yeah, this starts in late 20’s. Blonde is very aging.

I just dyed my hair a warm medium blonde (from med brown) and I really do think it makes me look a bit younger. That wasn’t the goal of the change and I’m not sure I want to deal with the upkeep so may go back to brown, but I disagree that blonde is universally aging.

+1 blonde is youthful because that is who is naturally blonde. It also is a less stark contrast with skin tone which helps visually blur any blemishes or wrinkles, compared to the face framed in brown. The drawback is less striking but the bonus is a softer blurry look.

Agree with PPs. It's not universally aging. It all depends on your natural hair color and complexion.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Holy cannoli, you are a real piece of work.

+1. That PP needs therapy, STAT.