Anyone facing jealous friends now that your kids are in private school?

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Anonymous wrote:Would you rather have your kids hang out with and learn from kids that extend their hands and say "Hello, nice to see you Mrs. xxxx" or kids with pants hanging below their Arses and trying to fight other kids for no apparent reason as is the case in our high school. No thanks. Yes, IN GENERAL, the kids are better and come from better families in private schools.

This is rich! I’ve witnessed firsthand these exact kids doing drugs and having sex in the parking lots of “Big 3” schools. Don’t let their manners fool you.

You are just jealous. Those kids are go getters unlike your public school kid.

So the kids buying drugs and having parking lot sex are the go getters…never heard them described this way.

I have kids in public considering private school.

Public school kids also do drugs and have sex. They were doing this back when I was a kid in the 90s and still doing it now.

For the OP, I don’t think public school parents are jealous. Families just naturally drift apart when kids no longer attend the same school. I have seen this after preschool when families go to different elementary schools whether it is public or private. I know when my kid switched to an AAP center, I felt like some of the families kind of gave us a cold shoulder. I am usually less vested if I meet a family whose kid attends a different school. I just found out one of my daughter’s good friends is moving overseas. I’m a little less enthusiastic about doing play dates since I know they are moving in a few months. I would rather invest time in friends who I think we will continue seeing going forward.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you rather have your kids hang out with and learn from kids that extend their hands and say "Hello, nice to see you Mrs. xxxx" or kids with pants hanging below their Arses and trying to fight other kids for no apparent reason as is the case in our high school. No thanks. Yes, IN GENERAL, the kids are better and come from better families in private schools.

This is rich! I’ve witnessed firsthand these exact kids doing drugs and having sex in the parking lots of “Big 3” schools. Don’t let their manners fool you.

You are just jealous. Those kids are go getters unlike your public school kid.

So the kids buying drugs and having parking lot sex are the go getters…never heard them described this way.

I have kids in public considering private school.

Public school kids also do drugs and have sex. They were doing this back when I was a kid in the 90s and still doing it now.

For the OP, I don’t think public school parents are jealous. Families just naturally drift apart when kids no longer attend the same school. I have seen this after preschool when families go to different elementary schools whether it is public or private. I know when my kid switched to an AAP center, I felt like some of the families kind of gave us a cold shoulder. I am usually less vested if I meet a family whose kid attends a different school. I just found out one of my daughter’s good friends is moving overseas. I’m a little less enthusiastic about doing play dates since I know they are moving in a few months. I would rather invest time in friends who I think we will continue seeing going forward.

You sound like a great friend.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

You have zero idea what you’re talking about. A big law partner making that much money has associates doing this kind of grind work. They are busy with presentations, client meetings and deal making.

Not the Big Law partners that work FOR ME! It’s not as grindy as the younger lawyers but it’s way more of a grind and travel and grunt work than what I do. I do the strategy. They gather the details and then triple check them. Sorry. I do know what I am talking about. I pick the lawyers and I pay the bills.

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No one cares about lawyers. Stay on point.

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Anonymous wrote:No one cares about lawyers. Stay on point.

All that is on point. Is this the sort of parent and by extension children/families OP thinks public school parents - or anyone - should be jealous of?

Embarrassed by is more likely.

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Anonymous wrote:As someone who admits to being jealous about all sorts of money things from travel to car to home renovations I can 1000 percent say private does not make the list. I have also found the teachers are better on balance in public, esp after learning a very average classmate of mine got a job teaching at sidwell with no prior experience. (Years ago) No doubt smaller class sizes, personal attention/coddling and better facilities come with private, and there’s the occasional bad teacher in public. I’m just one of those people who has different values including socioeconomic diversity, and feels my public is more than good enough to educated kids. And I’m not alone judging by all the Uber educated and wealthy families in our local public.

All the Uber educated and wealthy families at your local public? Thanks for the laugh.

Reminds me of the joke about the person being given a tour of heaven who asked about the big curtained off area. St Peter replied “Those are the Southern Baptists. They don’t know that the rest of you are here.”

We’re a 2 PhD family of researchers with a fair amount of national accolades in our fields. We still have happy hours with parents from our public, including the current president of a large national, frequently in the news national scientific association, a frequent CNN contributor who has been running a DC think tank since he stopped teaching at Harvard, a senior state department official, a senior IC person, and a much cited national journalist.

I’m sure the parents of private school kids are lovely, and I would never presume to make blanket statements about them.

Sounds like a small gathering of parents at our private. Amazing number of CEOs, prominent scholars, national news channel anchors and leading lawyers.

I am "just" a lawyer. Could you explain how one qualifies as a "leading lawyer" to an uninformed layperson like yourself?

Managing partner at Williams and Connelly, head of DC office of major firms, Cravath, Sullivan, Latham or K/E partner pulling $7 - 10 million per year. People who win multi-billion awards at the S.CT, GC’s at some of the largest multinationals on the planet. Those types. You must not be a good lawyer, asking a question you clearly don’t know the answer to.

Cravath only has offices in NYC. Nice try.

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Wow. You two have a lot in common.

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Anonymous wrote:As someone who admits to being jealous about all sorts of money things from travel to car to home renovations I can 1000 percent say private does not make the list. I have also found the teachers are better on balance in public, esp after learning a very average classmate of mine got a job teaching at sidwell with no prior experience. (Years ago) No doubt smaller class sizes, personal attention/coddling and better facilities come with private, and there’s the occasional bad teacher in public. I’m just one of those people who has different values including socioeconomic diversity, and feels my public is more than good enough to educated kids. And I’m not alone judging by all the Uber educated and wealthy families in our local public.

All the Uber educated and wealthy families at your local public? Thanks for the laugh.

Reminds me of the joke about the person being given a tour of heaven who asked about the big curtained off area. St Peter replied “Those are the Southern Baptists. They don’t know that the rest of you are here.”

We’re a 2 PhD family of researchers with a fair amount of national accolades in our fields. We still have happy hours with parents from our public, including the current president of a large national, frequently in the news national scientific association, a frequent CNN contributor who has been running a DC think tank since he stopped teaching at Harvard, a senior state department official, a senior IC person, and a much cited national journalist.

I’m sure the parents of private school kids are lovely, and I would never presume to make blanket statements about them.

Sounds like a small gathering of parents at our private. Amazing number of CEOs, prominent scholars, national news channel anchors and leading lawyers.

I am "just" a lawyer. Could you explain how one qualifies as a "leading lawyer" to an uninformed layperson like yourself?

Managing partner at Williams and Connelly, head of DC office of major firms, Cravath, Sullivan, Latham or K/E partner pulling $7 - 10 million per year. People who win multi-billion awards at the S.CT, GC’s at some of the largest multinationals on the planet. Those types. You must not be a good lawyer, asking a question you clearly don’t know the answer to.

Cravath only has offices in NYC. Nice try.

We know someone who commutes from DC to NYC for their law firm job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

You have zero idea what you’re talking about. A big law partner making that much money has associates doing this kind of grind work. They are busy with presentations, client meetings and deal making.

Not the Big Law partners that work FOR ME! It’s not as grindy as the younger lawyers but it’s way more of a grind and travel and grunt work than what I do. I do the strategy. They gather the details and then triple check them. Sorry. I do know what I am talking about. I pick the lawyers and I pay the bills.

You pick the lawyers, pay the bills, and post on a mommy site?

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Of course

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Being stuck in mediocre public, I do find it very painful to hear friends describe the new private school, even when I know they have the best intentions and are just excited and sharing. So, perhaps people really don’t want to hear about it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

You have zero idea what you’re talking about. A big law partner making that much money has associates doing this kind of grind work. They are busy with presentations, client meetings and deal making.

Not the Big Law partners that work FOR ME! It’s not as grindy as the younger lawyers but it’s way more of a grind and travel and grunt work than what I do. I do the strategy. They gather the details and then triple check them. Sorry. I do know what I am talking about. I pick the lawyers and I pay the bills.

You pick the lawyers, pay the bills, and post on a mommy site?

Imagine that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

You have zero idea what you’re talking about. A big law partner making that much money has associates doing this kind of grind work. They are busy with presentations, client meetings and deal making.

Not the Big Law partners that work FOR ME! It’s not as grindy as the younger lawyers but it’s way more of a grind and travel and grunt work than what I do. I do the strategy. They gather the details and then triple check them. Sorry. I do know what I am talking about. I pick the lawyers and I pay the bills.

I don’t even know what you are talking about. Are you a lawyer? What bills? Wth are you saying?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As someone who admits to being jealous about all sorts of money things from travel to car to home renovations I can 1000 percent say private does not make the list. I have also found the teachers are better on balance in public, esp after learning a very average classmate of mine got a job teaching at sidwell with no prior experience. (Years ago) No doubt smaller class sizes, personal attention/coddling and better facilities come with private, and there’s the occasional bad teacher in public. I’m just one of those people who has different values including socioeconomic diversity, and feels my public is more than good enough to educated kids. And I’m not alone judging by all the Uber educated and wealthy families in our local public.

All the Uber educated and wealthy families at your local public? Thanks for the laugh.

Reminds me of the joke about the person being given a tour of heaven who asked about the big curtained off area. St Peter replied “Those are the Southern Baptists. They don’t know that the rest of you are here.”

We’re a 2 PhD family of researchers with a fair amount of national accolades in our fields. We still have happy hours with parents from our public, including the current president of a large national, frequently in the news national scientific association, a frequent CNN contributor who has been running a DC think tank since he stopped teaching at Harvard, a senior state department official, a senior IC person, and a much cited national journalist.

I’m sure the parents of private school kids are lovely, and I would never presume to make blanket statements about them.

Sounds like a small gathering of parents at our private. Amazing number of CEOs, prominent scholars, national news channel anchors and leading lawyers.

I am "just" a lawyer. Could you explain how one qualifies as a "leading lawyer" to an uninformed layperson like yourself?

Managing partner at Williams and Connelly, head of DC office of major firms, Cravath, Sullivan, Latham or K/E partner pulling $7 - 10 million per year. People who win multi-billion awards at the S.CT, GC’s at some of the largest multinationals on the planet. Those types. You must not be a good lawyer, asking a question you clearly don’t know the answer to.

Cravath only has offices in NYC. Nice try.

We know someone who commutes from DC to NYC for their law firm job.

Not at Cravath.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you rather have your kids hang out with and learn from kids that extend their hands and say "Hello, nice to see you Mrs. xxxx" or kids with pants hanging below their Arses and trying to fight other kids for no apparent reason as is the case in our high school. No thanks. Yes, IN GENERAL, the kids are better and come from better families in private schools.

This is rich! I’ve witnessed firsthand these exact kids doing drugs and having sex in the parking lots of “Big 3” schools. Don’t let their manners fool you.

You are just jealous. Those kids are go getters unlike your public school kid.

So the kids buying drugs and having parking lot sex are the go getters…never heard them described this way.

I have kids in public considering private school.

Public school kids also do drugs and have sex. They were doing this back when I was a kid in the 90s and still doing it now.

For the OP, I don’t think public school parents are jealous. Families just naturally drift apart when kids no longer attend the same school. I have seen this after preschool when families go to different elementary schools whether it is public or private. I know when my kid switched to an AAP center, I felt like some of the families kind of gave us a cold shoulder. I am usually less vested if I meet a family whose kid attends a different school. I just found out one of my daughter’s good friends is moving overseas. I’m a little less enthusiastic about doing play dates since I know they are moving in a few months. I would rather invest time in friends who I think we will continue seeing going forward.

You sound like a great friend.

+1. You can invest time in a neighborhood friend who goes to private school, just like you can invest time in a soccer friend or dance friend. You don’t need to see them 24/7. And social media makes it so much easier to keep in touch with faraway friends