Anyone facing jealous friends now that your kids are in private school?

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Anonymous wrote:As someone who admits to being jealous about all sorts of money things from travel to car to home renovations I can 1000 percent say private does not make the list. I have also found the teachers are better on balance in public, esp after learning a very average classmate of mine got a job teaching at sidwell with no prior experience. (Years ago) No doubt smaller class sizes, personal attention/coddling and better facilities come with private, and there’s the occasional bad teacher in public. I’m just one of those people who has different values including socioeconomic diversity, and feels my public is more than good enough to educated kids. And I’m not alone judging by all the Uber educated and wealthy families in our local public.

All the Uber educated and wealthy families at your local public? Thanks for the laugh.

Reminds me of the joke about the person being given a tour of heaven who asked about the big curtained off area. St Peter replied “Those are the Southern Baptists. They don’t know that the rest of you are here.”

We’re a 2 PhD family of researchers with a fair amount of national accolades in our fields. We still have happy hours with parents from our public, including the current president of a large national, frequently in the news national scientific association, a frequent CNN contributor who has been running a DC think tank since he stopped teaching at Harvard, a senior state department official, a senior IC person, and a much cited national journalist.

I’m sure the parents of private school kids are lovely, and I would never presume to make blanket statements about them.

Sounds like a small gathering of parents at our private. Amazing number of CEOs, prominent scholars, national news channel anchors and leading lawyers.

I am "just" a lawyer. Could you explain how one qualifies as a "leading lawyer" to an uninformed layperson like yourself?

Equity partners at DC law firms making 3 million + would qualify for that designation.

A B.S non-profit lawyer or one working for the VA would not.

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Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation? No.

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Anonymous wrote:Zero kids have blue hair at either of my kids private schools--not allowed. Whitman has that and much more behavior that deviates from bourgoise values.

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There are several elite DC privates that have no problem with blue hair. Such a strange example.

Not where my kids go to school. You must wear school uniform, be respectful to staff etc.

Are kids perfect, no way...but I have the money so it's an easy choice.

Plenty of kids with blue hair are respectful of staff. Several of the most expensive and elite schools don’t have uniforms.

I still don’t understand your point.

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I'm not a fan of kids wearing ripped jeans, nose rings etc...much prefer school uniforms with boys wearing a tie and girls wearing a skirt.

A healthy lunch being served over USDA supplies is also preferable.

So is sports every day with multiple highly trained trainers and physical therapists on staff.

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Anonymous wrote:As someone who admits to being jealous about all sorts of money things from travel to car to home renovations I can 1000 percent say private does not make the list. I have also found the teachers are better on balance in public, esp after learning a very average classmate of mine got a job teaching at sidwell with no prior experience. (Years ago) No doubt smaller class sizes, personal attention/coddling and better facilities come with private, and there’s the occasional bad teacher in public. I’m just one of those people who has different values including socioeconomic diversity, and feels my public is more than good enough to educated kids. And I’m not alone judging by all the Uber educated and wealthy families in our local public.

All the Uber educated and wealthy families at your local public? Thanks for the laugh.

Reminds me of the joke about the person being given a tour of heaven who asked about the big curtained off area. St Peter replied “Those are the Southern Baptists. They don’t know that the rest of you are here.”

We’re a 2 PhD family of researchers with a fair amount of national accolades in our fields. We still have happy hours with parents from our public, including the current president of a large national, frequently in the news national scientific association, a frequent CNN contributor who has been running a DC think tank since he stopped teaching at Harvard, a senior state department official, a senior IC person, and a much cited national journalist.

I’m sure the parents of private school kids are lovely, and I would never presume to make blanket statements about them.

Sounds like a small gathering of parents at our private. Amazing number of CEOs, prominent scholars, national news channel anchors and leading lawyers.

I am "just" a lawyer. Could you explain how one qualifies as a "leading lawyer" to an uninformed layperson like yourself?

Managing partner at Williams and Connelly, head of DC office of major firms, Cravath, Sullivan, Latham or K/E partner pulling $7 - 10 million per year. People who win multi-billion awards at the S.CT, GC’s at some of the largest multinationals on the planet. Those types. You must not be a good lawyer, asking a question you clearly don’t know the answer to.

Sounds like the “uninformed layperson” might be neither and that “just a lawyer” is actually just a lawyer.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you rather have your kids hang out with and learn from kids that extend their hands and say "Hello, nice to see you Mrs. xxxx" or kids with pants hanging below their Arses and trying to fight other kids for no apparent reason as is the case in our high school. No thanks. Yes, IN GENERAL, the kids are better and come from better families in private schools.

This is rich! I’ve witnessed firsthand these exact kids doing drugs and having sex in the parking lots of “Big 3” schools. Don’t let their manners fool you.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you rather have your kids hang out with and learn from kids that extend their hands and say "Hello, nice to see you Mrs. xxxx" or kids with pants hanging below their Arses and trying to fight other kids for no apparent reason as is the case in our high school. No thanks. Yes, IN GENERAL, the kids are better and come from better families in private schools.

This is rich! I’ve witnessed firsthand these exact kids doing drugs and having sex in the parking lots of “Big 3” schools. Don’t let their manners fool you.

You are just jealous. Those kids are go getters unlike your public school kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you rather have your kids hang out with and learn from kids that extend their hands and say "Hello, nice to see you Mrs. xxxx" or kids with pants hanging below their Arses and trying to fight other kids for no apparent reason as is the case in our high school. No thanks. Yes, IN GENERAL, the kids are better and come from better families in private schools.

This is rich! I’ve witnessed firsthand these exact kids doing drugs and having sex in the parking lots of “Big 3” schools. Don’t let their manners fool you.

My kids are in private school and I absolutely don’t believe all of the families are better than public school kids, but you seeing both drugs and sex in the parking lots seems extremely unlikely.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you rather have your kids hang out with and learn from kids that extend their hands and say "Hello, nice to see you Mrs. xxxx" or kids with pants hanging below their Arses and trying to fight other kids for no apparent reason as is the case in our high school. No thanks. Yes, IN GENERAL, the kids are better and come from better families in private schools.

This is rich! I’ve witnessed firsthand these exact kids doing drugs and having sex in the parking lots of “Big 3” schools. Don’t let their manners fool you.

You are just jealous. Those kids are go getters unlike your public school kid.

So the kids buying drugs and having parking lot sex are the go getters…never heard them described this way.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you rather have your kids hang out with and learn from kids that extend their hands and say "Hello, nice to see you Mrs. xxxx" or kids with pants hanging below their Arses and trying to fight other kids for no apparent reason as is the case in our high school. No thanks. Yes, IN GENERAL, the kids are better and come from better families in private schools.

This is rich! I’ve witnessed firsthand these exact kids doing drugs and having sex in the parking lots of “Big 3” schools. Don’t let their manners fool you.

My kids are in private school and I absolutely don’t believe all of the families are better than public school kids, but you seeing both drugs and sex in the parking lots seems extremely unlikely.

The fact you think this doesn’t happen at private schools or at the least with private school kids is extremely naive. There are kids suspended, expelled,

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Close friends are sending their kids to private this year. I think they are doing it on a combo of financial aid, family help etc. I’m not jealous but I’m getting tired of hearing about how much money the kids new friends have. We live comfortably but we cannot afford $150 a year for all of kids to go private. Just not in the cards for us.

I want to hang out with them. I just don’t want to keep talking about their school experience. It’s not jealously but before they went private, we could talk about other things. Now it’s the ONLY thing we talk about.

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That would be annoying. Our kids go to private schools and we would never talk about that sort of thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Close friends are sending their kids to private this year. I think they are doing it on a combo of financial aid, family help etc. I’m not jealous but I’m getting tired of hearing about how much money the kids new friends have. We live comfortably but we cannot afford $150 a year for all of kids to go private. Just not in the cards for us.

I want to hang out with them. I just don’t want to keep talking about their school experience. It’s not jealously but before they went private, we could talk about other things. Now it’s the ONLY thing we talk about.

My kids are in private school and this would annoy me too. I have a friend who graduated our small private school for a bigger more well known private school and it is ALL she talks about - where they live, how thin the moms are, how much their houses cost. I really like this mom too so it’s disappointing that I have to limit our conversations.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

You have zero idea what you’re talking about. A big law partner making that much money has associates doing this kind of grind work. They are busy with presentations, client meetings and deal making.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

Do you know many big law partners?? Like actual partners, not of counsel or non equity or what have you? They are not doing what you think they’re doing. This is what junior associates do. The ones I know, who earn a lot and are at actual big law firms, do a lot of advisory work, presentations and deal making. I don’t think you have much salient experience.

I look down on lawyers. It is an awful job that is very unappealing.

Oh is that right? Evidently you have a very large chip on your shoulders. Either you didn’t get into law school or didn’t pass the bar exam.