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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. I think the Meghan Markle hate is motivated by a weird and toxic mix of things, including racism.

2. I certainly don't hate women who married well, but I do think it's foolish for a woman not to have her own money, whether from her family, her work, etc. [/quote]

When she marries, her husband becomes family.  Does that money not count.[/quote]

DP, but: not in the same way. The explicit implication here is that you need to understand divorce is a possibility and not simply rely 100% on your spouse for your financial well being. In a divorce, you would keep family money or your own income. You won't keep your spouse's income.

I would also argue that there are myriad things that can happen that make it smart to have some form of economic independence in your marriage. Your spouse could fall ill or, god forbid, die. Maintaining a source of income will make it easier for you to take over as a breadwinner if that happened. I also think women who have some kind of income and career tend to be happier as they age because they maintain something that is separate and "theirs". Not just separate from their husband but also their kids.

Even if it's part-time work or a small income source, like socking away any financial contributions from your parents in a separate savings account that you manage, or selling clothes and jewelry online and saving the proceeds. Plus being able to contribute to marital finances, even in small amounts, can really change relationship dynamics in a positive way. You are more likely to pay attention to finances and spending if your income is part of it, and it allows you and your husband to operate as equally vested financial partners, even if your financial contributions aren't equal (likely your parenting and other contributions aren't equal in the other direction, this is normal).[/quote]

This!! [/quote]

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