How long to keep your kids in bed?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op again: how do you fulfill marital duties with an 8 year old in the bed?

Maybe I’m missing something.

You are way too invested in this. Omg! This couples sex lite is the furthest thing from your business. Except, maybe, their choice to Co sleep which the majority of families around the world do

I’m having a discussion. Aren’t you?

I couldn’t care less about this couple’ intimate arrangements. I’m presenting different points of view to the people who ‘don’t see it’.

I’m actually a little puzzled that so many don’t sees any downsides whatsoever.

There was a poster who asked when is the right age for a girl to not sleep with her daddy. She still got no answer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a big MYOB

Also, you are contradicting yourself. You say you don't think there's anything going on and in the same post say there's other issues that require their own post. What are the other issues?

I don’t think there is anything sexual going on, but it is my opinion that other family dynamics would warrant sleeping separately from parents.

Well do you think that when you come in with your declaration that you do not approve of this family’s bedroom arrangements, anything is going to change? Do you somehow feel like it’s up to you??

I’m sure nothing will change. And no it’s not up to me. And I don’t want it to be.

I’m asking for an opinion and I got attacked. Wow. Why so aggressive.

[Anonymous]

I am surprised the topic of co-sleeping comes up amongst people because it’s not he norm. Those that co-sleep often had kids who wouldn’t/couldn’t sleep by themselves. My feeling is who cares because it doesn’t effect me. I would be curious if this couple ever goes out at night. Is the babysitter supposed to hop in bed with young Larla? Next will come the sleepover invitations….

[Anonymous]

My parents had good family friends who co-slept with their son until he was 16. I think it was weird as hell. Not sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised the topic of co-sleeping comes up amongst people because it’s not he norm. Those that co-sleep often had kids who wouldn’t/couldn’t sleep by themselves. My feeling is who cares because it doesn’t effect me. I would be curious if this couple ever goes out at night. Is the babysitter supposed to hop in bed with young Larla? Next will come the sleepover invitations….

One of mine co slept for a long time. We never got sitters. If for some reason I wasn’t home (I had a kid who had lots of medical problems and I spent a lot of time at hospitals) she would just sleep in my bed. With sleepovers, she would start in her room but eventually crawled in bed with me. It wasn’t a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised the topic of co-sleeping comes up amongst people because it’s not he norm. Those that co-sleep often had kids who wouldn’t/couldn’t sleep by themselves. My feeling is who cares because it doesn’t effect me. I would be curious if this couple ever goes out at night. Is the babysitter supposed to hop in bed with young Larla? Next will come the sleepover invitations….

I think it’s the norm more than people think it is. We co-sleep but don’t discuss it because of people like OP. It started as purely survival as we drew the kid who never sleeps card, but as she’s gotten older, it still works for our family. I listen to many of our non cosleeping friends who are run ragged with wake ups and the like, and nope, despite the poor sleeper card, I’m well rested while they are spread thin and spending forever with wake ups for whatever reason. I’ve since been surprised when many other friends mention they cosleep. Many are from different cultures and from that standpoint, it’s not that surprising, but also helps reiterate that it’s a choice many families make. It’s just not discussed.

We have a life. We go out, but rarely, because it’s not our thing, and wasn’t before DD was even born. It has nothing to do with how we sleep.

[Anonymous]

MYOB.
Why do you feel it’s your place to say anything, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a big MYOB

Also, you are contradicting yourself. You say you don't think there's anything going on and in the same post say there's other issues that require their own post. What are the other issues?

I don’t think there is anything sexual going on, but it is my opinion that other family dynamics would warrant sleeping separately from parents.

Well do you think that when you come in with your declaration that you do not approve of this family’s bedroom arrangements, anything is going to change? Do you somehow feel like it’s up to you??

I’m sure nothing will change. And no it’s not up to me. And I don’t want it to be.

I’m asking for an opinion and I got attacked. Wow. Why so aggressive.

Because you’re being a busybody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t be so hard on me. I haven’t said any, but I think when a girl (8) is close to getting her period, she needs her own bed, not sleeping with her dad.

I understand the baby, who’s almost 2.

And yes, they have plenty of bedrooms for everyone.

And if people that are close to you won’t say anything, who will?

I think it's incredibly creepy that you are thinking about an interaction between a child and her father that way.

[Anonymous]

OP is totally nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised the topic of co-sleeping comes up amongst people because it’s not he norm. Those that co-sleep often had kids who wouldn’t/couldn’t sleep by themselves. My feeling is who cares because it doesn’t effect me. I would be curious if this couple ever goes out at night. Is the babysitter supposed to hop in bed with young Larla? Next will come the sleepover invitations….

We co-slept with my oldest until about 6. Co-sleeping doesn't mean every minute the kid is asleep the parent is in bed. When we had a babysitter, they put him to bed the same way I did when I wasn't planning on falling asleep.

We didn't have a lot of babysitters, because we were broke, but that's irrelevant to the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t be so hard on me. I haven’t said any, but I think when a girl (8) is close to getting her period, she needs her own bed, not sleeping with her dad.

I understand the baby, who’s almost 2.

And yes, they have plenty of bedrooms for everyone.

And if people that are close to you won’t say anything, who will?

It sounds like you’re projecting your own issues into others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks. I know kids love sleeping with their parents. I know there doesn’t have to be anything wrong with it. We occasionally, especially in hotels, do it. The kids love it. I barely get any sleep, but it’s worth making them happy.

I’m not saying there is anything going on. I have no reason to believe there is. There are other dynamics that make me think this is not good. I can’t explain all of them, because they need a thread of their own.

Quality of sleep is definitely an issue.

I do know it’s none of my business, but it just feels wrong.

I think YOU should talk to YOUR therapist about why it "just feels wrong." It says more about you than it does about them.

THIS

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MYOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is totally nuts.

After the “see something, say something” I think that OP is a troll or an idiot.