Poll: Texting etiquette

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Anonymous wrote:This is exactly why I miss email…

I get fewer than 10 personal emails a day. Do you get a lot more, that you can't scan your whole in box quickly?

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Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.

My phone is on silent. If you’re the type who thinks I need to know that I need to see a photo of Janie’s ballet recital at 7 a.m. on a Sunday, I’m fine if we fall out of touch.

Same here. Although the texting outside hours is probably just one aspect in which we would conflict.

I view texting in the same vein as calling. 8am - 9pm unless someone is in the hospital. I don’t use DND because my family and friends follow this same timeframe - if anyone tries to contact you from 9pm - 8am, it’s an emergency.

My only free time to text or call is from 9 pm to 11 pm. Do you have young kids or just go to bed early?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.

I have both but turn my phone all the way off. Emergencies are why we keep a landline, if there is a problem with the parents/in laws or teens.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.

Also, why would you assume that someone who is texting you at 7am expects you to respond or read it at 7am? I text at all sorts of random hours with friends, and vice versa, and we all expect that sometimes hours pass between when a text is sent and when it's replied to.

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Anonymous wrote:I text 24/7. I love texting. I usually go through big batches of texts I need to send and if I happen to get the energy to do that at 2AM so be it. I always tell people, text me at anytime, I'll probably get up to respond and I am here if you need me.

do you work full time and/or have young kids? Can't imagine how this is not utterly exhausting.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.

Also, why would you assume that someone who is texting you at 7am expects you to respond or read it at 7am? I text at all sorts of random hours with friends, and vice versa, and we all expect that sometimes hours pass between when a text is sent and when it's replied to.

Why would you text, instead of email, if you don't want a quick response?

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Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.

Also, why would you assume that someone who is texting you at 7am expects you to respond or read it at 7am? I text at all sorts of random hours with friends, and vice versa, and we all expect that sometimes hours pass between when a text is sent and when it's replied to.

Why would you text, instead of email, if you don't want a quick response?

This!

Text and email are two different platforms for different purposes. One is more immediate.

[Anonymous]

I try not to, because the benefit to me of sending the text is outweighed by the potential disturbance to the other person. Between 10 pm and 8 am I don’t send texts if I don’t know that the person is ok with it. You can always type the text and cue it up to send, and then hit “send” during a normal time window.

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious. Do you send texts at random hours, on the assumption that everyone uses do not disturb?

I’m an early riser, and often try to get stuff done while the rest of the house is still sleeping, but wait to send texts until after 9am.

I shut my phone completely off when I'm sleeping. Why leave it on DND when you can turn it all the way off?

I sleep at conventional hours, so don't text between 11 pm and 7 am without a specific reason.

Relative was struck by a drunk driver overnight and we didn't get messages until morning. Have not kept my phone off at night since.

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I try not to. Sometimes I accidentally text my sister or her wife in Seattle at a reasonable time here but not there. But that’s because I just forget about the time change.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.

I have both but turn my phone all the way off. Emergencies are why we keep a landline, if there is a problem with the parents/in laws or teens.

The good thing about DND is you can set it to let a call through if someone calls twice in a certain (short) time period as it suggests an urgency to the call.

[Anonymous]

Since my (and DHs) cellphones are our only phones for the household, we don't turn off or silence overnight in case someone needs to contact us urgently.

I used to keep ringer off at night, but have changed the habit due to a recent experience. One night, we missed calls from the facility where our dog was boarding. Staff saw he was taking a turn for the worse and were trying to contact us at 11 pm to figure out emergency care and/or see if we wanted to facetime/talk with our pet for what would have been a last time. I didn't get the chance to say goodbye, and that experience really gave me pause to think about other more serious situations necessitating urgent contact (ie, family members).

So...back to the topic at hand, figuring there are many others like me, I will only text during fairly reasonable hours, say 8a-9p unless it's an ongoing conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.

Also, why would you assume that someone who is texting you at 7am expects you to respond or read it at 7am? I text at all sorts of random hours with friends, and vice versa, and we all expect that sometimes hours pass between when a text is sent and when it's replied to.

Why would you text, instead of email, if you don't want a quick response?

This!

Text and email are two different platforms for different purposes. One is more immediate.

Hmm, DP but maybe that's where we differ. Text/email are not about "immediate" but length.

If I want to write you something longer, you get an email. A brief question/response, then text. But you respond to both when you're available - time of day is irrelevant thanks to phone options.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.

Also, why would you assume that someone who is texting you at 7am expects you to respond or read it at 7am? I text at all sorts of random hours with friends, and vice versa, and we all expect that sometimes hours pass between when a text is sent and when it's replied to.

This. i don't care when you respond - do so when it's convenient. But if you expect me to know what times are good for you, well, sorry, I don't care or keep tabs since everyone has a different schedule. I'm a morning person, so I'll respond to your late night texts when I get up. Then YOU respond when you wake up and check your messages, whatever time that may be for you.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.

Also, why would you assume that someone who is texting you at 7am expects you to respond or read it at 7am? I text at all sorts of random hours with friends, and vice versa, and we all expect that sometimes hours pass between when a text is sent and when it's replied to.

Why would you text, instead of email, if you don't want a quick response?

This!

Text and email are two different platforms for different purposes. One is more immediate.

I never email my friends. Do people still do that?