Poll: Texting etiquette

[Anonymous]

I text whenever I have something to say and I assume people silence their phones when needed. My phone has been on silence for years—I don’t even know what my ring tone sounds like. I use my Apple Watch during the day for alerts, and take it off to charge in the evening. I’m usually watching a show or scrolling the internet on my MacBook in the evening, so it’s unlikely I’d miss a text when I’m awake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.

My elderly relatives generally text between 11pm-2am - and we're in the same time zone. They are 85+, and know how to use DND. Take charge of your phone if you don't want to be bothered.

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I’m the emergency call. I’ve had to pick them up in the middle of the night to take them to the ER.

My teen stays out late. I need to hear the phone ring in case of emergency.

I would be furious if a friend or coworker or even one of my siblings texted some unimportant nonsense between 10pm and 8am (later on weekends).

My assistant loves to text at 7am. No clue why. Other colleagues have texted what should have been sent as an email at 1am. It’s rude.

sounds like you’re too inept to own a cell phone. Seriously, you can use DND and still have specific contacts sent through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.

My elderly relatives generally text between 11pm-2am - and we're in the same time zone. They are 85+, and know how to use DND. Take charge of your phone if you don't want to be bothered.

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I’m the emergency call. I’ve had to pick them up in the middle of the night to take them to the ER.

My teen stays out late. I need to hear the phone ring in case of emergency.

I would be furious if a friend or coworker or even one of my siblings texted some unimportant nonsense between 10pm and 8am (later on weekends).

My assistant loves to text at 7am. No clue why. Other colleagues have texted what should have been sent as an email at 1am. It’s rude.

People have different schedules, and live in different time zones. The universal thing is something magical in your phone called 'Settings' - you can adjust it accordingly, and allow certain permissions for certain people at customizable times.

Expecting everyone to cater to your specific contact times sounds incredibly entitled and selfish.

[Anonymous]

If people treat texts like social media on a regular, frequent basis—sharing non-family kid pics, or vacation photos, or wowee zowee I made brownies today—I ghost/block.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If people treat texts like social media on a regular, frequent basis—sharing non-family kid pics, or vacation photos, or wowee zowee I made brownies today—I ghost/block.

I don't use social media, so I guess I do this with my close friends 😭

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.

My elderly relatives generally text between 11pm-2am - and we're in the same time zone. They are 85+, and know how to use DND. Take charge of your phone if you don't want to be bothered.

?

I’m the emergency call. I’ve had to pick them up in the middle of the night to take them to the ER.

My teen stays out late. I need to hear the phone ring in case of emergency.

I would be furious if a friend or coworker or even one of my siblings texted some unimportant nonsense between 10pm and 8am (later on weekends).

My assistant loves to text at 7am. No clue why. Other colleagues have texted what should have been sent as an email at 1am. It’s rude.

sounds like you’re too inept to own a cell phone. Seriously, you can use DND and still have specific contacts sent through.

I can’t really anticipate all the people who might call in case of an actual emergency. I manage a very large team, and I have received calls/texts very late/early for actual emergencies.

I don’t understand why you and the others feel entitled to text during universally accepted inappropriate times? It’s truly baffling and makes you look clueless.

It’s not difficult to text during normal hours. No clue why you are defending this by blaming people who opt not to use DND. Think about that.

“You are inept for not silencing your phone at 2am in case I’m so rude that I insist upon texting you a cat meme.”

[Anonymous]

8 am - 8 pm is fair. Anything after or before and my DND is on. I don't want to hear from anyone at 10 pm. Call me if it's that important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s rude to text too early/too late. Your message can wait. Not everyone uses DND. If you have elderly parents or older teens, you tend to keep your phone on.

My elderly relatives generally text between 11pm-2am - and we're in the same time zone. They are 85+, and know how to use DND. Take charge of your phone if you don't want to be bothered.

?

I’m the emergency call. I’ve had to pick them up in the middle of the night to take them to the ER.

My teen stays out late. I need to hear the phone ring in case of emergency.

I would be furious if a friend or coworker or even one of my siblings texted some unimportant nonsense between 10pm and 8am (later on weekends).

My assistant loves to text at 7am. No clue why. Other colleagues have texted what should have been sent as an email at 1am. It’s rude.

sounds like you’re too inept to own a cell phone. Seriously, you can use DND and still have specific contacts sent through.

I can’t really anticipate all the people who might call in case of an actual emergency. I manage a very large team, and I have received calls/texts very late/early for actual emergencies.

I don’t understand why you and the others feel entitled to text during universally accepted inappropriate times? It’s truly baffling and makes you look clueless.

It’s not difficult to text during normal hours. No clue why you are defending this by blaming people who opt not to use DND. Think about that.

“You are inept for not silencing your phone at 2am in case I’m so rude that I insist upon texting you a cat meme.”

Sounds like you need 2 phones - one for your large emergency team, and one for normal usage.

Having your phone on all the time is frankly a jerk thing to do. You're probably the jerk whose phone goes off in a yoga class, conference call, or otherwise inappropriate situation.

Anyway pp, your laziness to deal with your settings isn't the responsibility of other people to manage. Not everyone has the same schedule as you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If people treat texts like social media on a regular, frequent basis—sharing non-family kid pics, or vacation photos, or wowee zowee I made brownies today—I ghost/block.

I don't use social media, so I guess I do this with my close friends 😭

For busy people, phones are for communication. I gave you my phone number so we could communicate, not so that you could seek attention from me. If you must inform me that Timmy made the softball team or that you made banana bread, please do so over email if you aren’t on social media.

[Anonymous]

Text messages are silent at night but calls ring thru. That’s how you do it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

DP, I think it's you who has the inflated ego if you expect everyone to know and contact you only with specific hours. Put your phone on silent, and it's no problem. People have different schedules and you/they respond when they can.

+1 Cuz I send texts when I think of the thing I want to text about. I'm not waiting around until His Highness above decides that the hour is right to receive a text. It is a text for goodness sake. A phone call would be different imo.

[Anonymous]

I text from 8 am until 10 pm. I don’t care when others text me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

This. I’m a nanny and my boss will just randomly text me at 11pm. Even if I’m awake, it annoys me hearing from my boss at that hour. Why can’t you use email??? I asked my boss to stop, she ignored me, so I not only muted her, but gave her a silent ringtone. Now when she texts me during the day at work, I don’t see her messages unless I check my phone. Natural consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I generally text between 7 and 10. Some will complain about this but I find it nuts that people do not use DND when they sleep.

I do use DND, but if you feel the need to send me non-emergency texts very early or late as a habit, I’ll drop you. It shows that you have a very inflated ego, to think that someone needs or wants to hear from you before sunrise.

This. I’m a nanny and my boss will just randomly text me at 11pm. Even if I’m awake, it annoys me hearing from my boss at that hour. Why can’t you use email??? I asked my boss to stop, she ignored me, so I not only muted her, but gave her a silent ringtone. Now when she texts me during the day at work, I don’t see her messages unless I check my phone. Natural consequences.

Let me get this straight. If you're my nanny and it is during the day when you're on my clock and you're taking care of my children, you're not taking my texts? Mmmmm....my natural consequence to that would be that you are out of a job. Ignoring communications from your boss when you're on the job is not okay at all in any job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious. Do you send texts at random hours, on the assumption that everyone uses do not disturb?

I’m an early riser, and often try to get stuff done while the rest of the house is still sleeping, but wait to send texts until after 9am.

I shut my phone completely off when I'm sleeping. Why leave it on DND when you can turn it all the way off?

I sleep at conventional hours, so don't text between 11 pm and 7 am without a specific reason.