Cringe date moments?

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Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

OMG yes, keep that to yourself. It comes across as having a fetish.

You might also want to read the book Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison while you are at it.

+1. It’s like trashy white women who claim they love only black men or crept white guys who have an Asian fetish.

There are plenty of people who are white who will only date white people. Do they have a fetish, too?

[Anonymous]

Some people like dad bods, some people like petite women, some like blondes, some like darker skin. It's no one's business, really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people like dad bods, some people like petite women, some like blondes, some like darker skin. It's no one's business, really.

And it’s not a “fetish” either. Enough with this ridiculous labeling of EVERYTHING.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

I bet you look more Jewish than you realized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, so many! Been married almost 25 years but one of the funniest was my date “losing” his car in the Kennedy Center underground parking garage. It was our first date/only and he drove a non descript (beige) car. Came out of the show and starting walking, and walking and walking. I was chatting along not really paying attention when about ten minutes later he said he couldn’t remember where he parked his car.

We must have been walking for about a 1/2 hour when the security guard in a van drove up and offered to drive us around every level until he found his car. By this time, people were leaving and more coming in. All I remember is going up and down every level hearing the banter between my date and the driver, “that it? I’ll bet it’s here? No?”

We both had a few drinks, then boarded the metro - in the wrong direction! (mutual ooops). Eventually go to our stops but way later than expected.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

OMG yes, keep that to yourself. It comes across as having a fetish.

You might also want to read the book Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison while you are at it.

+1. It’s like trashy white women who claim they love only black men or crept white guys who have an Asian fetish.

There are plenty of people who are white who will only date white people. Do they have a fetish, too?

That I would call racist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some people like dad bods, some people like petite women, some like blondes, some like darker skin. It's no one's business, really.

And it’s not a “fetish” either. Enough with this ridiculous labeling of EVERYTHING.

That PP asked if she should bring up her preference on a date. I answered. If somebody thinks their racial preference is private they shouldn’t ask for advice about it.

And I didn’t say it was a fetish, I said it sounded like it. Google “fetish men of color” and educate yourself and you’ll see I’m not teaching.

Also, i just don’t want to hear about somebody’s preferences on dates. “I like your red hair.” Great! Lovely complement! “I’m not attracted to women who don’t have red hair” is not flattering. It’s weird. Bringing up a racial preference is the same kind of thing, but worse.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

OMG yes, keep that to yourself. It comes across as having a fetish.

You might also want to read the book Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison while you are at it.

+1. It’s like trashy white women who claim they love only black men or crept white guys who have an Asian fetish.

There are plenty of people who are white who will only date white people. Do they have a fetish, too?

That I would call racist.

So, if your preference is to date your race you are racist. If you prefer to date outside your race you have a fetish. What is one to do?!?!

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Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

OMG yes, keep that to yourself. It comes across as having a fetish.

You might also want to read the book Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison while you are at it.

+1. It’s like trashy white women who claim they love only black men or crept white guys who have an Asian fetish.

There are plenty of people who are white who will only date white people. Do they have a fetish, too?

That I would call racist.

So, if your preference is to date your race you are racist. If you prefer to date outside your race you have a fetish. What is one to do?!?!

Umm, not focus so much on race?

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Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

OMG yes, keep that to yourself. It comes across as having a fetish.

You might also want to read the book Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison while you are at it.

+1. It’s like trashy white women who claim they love only black men or crept white guys who have an Asian fetish.

There are plenty of people who are white who will only date white people. Do they have a fetish, too?

That I would call racist.

Lol.

[Anonymous]

Date did drugs in front of me with friends, I worked for the DEA at the time. What a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh this is fun!

In one weekend, I was waiting for my date to show up and he finally comes in and he legit has a HUGE murse. Like a purse way larger than I would ever carry, except if I was carrying a diaper bag. And then he sat down, and I know I shouldn't judge, but he just had very feminine characteristics. But I was giving him a shot. And then after one, not strong, margarita he starts proclaiming how drunk he is. I tried to just kept getting to know him and asked, "So what's your deal? Tell me about yourself." And he says, "Well, I'm straight!." I looked at him a bit bewildered because I thought it was just a strange response and then he says, "I LOVE PUSSY!" It was so awkward and cringy. Never called him back.

Another guy I went out with a couple times. It was our second date and we were having drinks at my place on the couch. We were listening to music and he was obsessed with trying to pick the music. My iPhone unlocks if I look at it. So he kept trying to steal my phone and put it up against my face. It was infuriating. To try and just move on, we started making out, and he CONTINUOUSLY kept trying to steal my phone while making out and then jump back real quick to point the phone at me to get it to unlock. one time, maybe cute. More times than I can count, I sent the asshole home. It was so weird.

First guy sounds like someone's idea of a bad joke. I'd wager someone put him up to it like a stupid frat gag or something.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was single, I wasn't somebody who got nervous about dating. I didn't get too emotionally attached, played things very cool. I basically viewed first dates as interviewing people to see if I wanted to date them. Went on a lot of first dates.

My next door neighbor asked me on a date. I said yes, we went, we laughed, talked, ate, ran around the city, had a great time. Got back to our building and all of a sudden realized how tired I was (full day and then a date that ran until 3am) and my singular goal became to get to sleep, so when he said "Hang on, I just need to check my mailbox" I said I'd just go up (???) and good night etc. I then proceeded to walk right into a glass partition. We're married now. DH says at the time, he just totally panicked when he turned me around after I slammed into that glass, worried that I'd have blood pouring down my face and was super relieved I was fine. My shoe had taken the brunt of the contact.

This is reallu cute.

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One guy started making off-color jokes about a particular nationality, apropos of nothing at all. I’m an immigrant from that very country. Another guy waxed poetic—and I mean at considerable length and in impressive detail—about his love of hunting and skinning wild game. I’m vegan.

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This one was many many years ago in my 20s so I will chalk it up to youth. Had a guy take me out to a diner. He ordered chicken wings and ate them in the most disgusting manner. Kept sucking the sauce off every. single. fingertip. Like over and over. All while grinning and laughing it up. Omg I wanted to vomit.

Second one in my early 30s. Met on an site and went out same day on a whim. There was no chemistry but he was nice enough so I figured I'd just enjoy the conversation and that would be it. He said he lived in the area and asked if I wanted to stop by. I said okay, mainly because it was chilly outside and I just wanted to get somewhere warm. Got to his apartment and it was CESSPOOL of filth. Junk everywhere. And it was a studio to boot so you're basically surrounded by filth. I couldn't even focus. I might have been holding my breath. Before we went inside his place I had mentioned wanting a blanket to warm up a little bit. When we got inside he tried to hand me the blanket from his bed and I didn't even want it to touch me. On top of that he had the nerve to try to put the moves on me. Absolutely not, sir. Get your life in order. I literally ran out of there.