Cringe date moments?

[Anonymous]

I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Went out on a boat with someone who proceeded to complain/lament/talk about his ex-girlfriend the entire time. I was literally stuck. Got off the boat, went to a casino (this was Lake Tahoe) and asks to "borrow" money to gamble with.

Emailed me the next day, saying how glad he was to have found someone to connect with so well. ???? I emailed back that he needs to resolve whatever is going on with that ex and good luck...

😆 after I divorced and started dating divorced men, this was 95% of my dates. They talked about their ex-wives literally the. Entire. Date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

[Anonymous]

When I was single, I wasn't somebody who got nervous about dating. I didn't get too emotionally attached, played things very cool. I basically viewed first dates as interviewing people to see if I wanted to date them. Went on a lot of first dates.

My next door neighbor asked me on a date. I said yes, we went, we laughed, talked, ate, ran around the city, had a great time. Got back to our building and all of a sudden realized how tired I was (full day and then a date that ran until 3am) and my singular goal became to get to sleep, so when he said "Hang on, I just need to check my mailbox" I said I'd just go up (???) and good night etc. I then proceeded to walk right into a glass partition. We're married now. DH says at the time, he just totally panicked when he turned me around after I slammed into that glass, worried that I'd have blood pouring down my face and was super relieved I was fine. My shoe had taken the brunt of the contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

OMG yes, keep that to yourself. It comes across as having a fetish.

You might also want to read the book Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison while you are at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

Yes, imagine if a guy said that. It kind of screams, "I'm fetishizing you!" If you only want to sleep with them, they may be okay with that, but they may not see you as someone they would like to date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

Same. But I only mention it if they ask if I have ever dated a BIPOC before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

Same. But I only mention it if they ask if I have ever dated a BIPOC before.

And even then I just say yes, and my husband was black. No need to get into how gross you find white men.

[Anonymous]

Second date with a guy. He ordered chicken wings and sucked all the meat off the first one and threw down the bones on top of the uneaten ones. I was so grossed out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

OMG yes, keep that to yourself. It comes across as having a fetish.

You might also want to read the book Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison while you are at it.

Yep bigger issues with pp.

[Anonymous]

Coffee date. He goes to pay for the $6 worth of coffee and his credit card gets declined. And yes it was definitely declined, not just an unreadable card. Awkward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll flip it. Have gone on two first dates where the women told me exactly what they thought about dating someone black or Jewish. I am half Jewish but do not look semitic at all. What's really pitiful is why would someone being something up like that with a date they barely know?

Hmmm, I’m a white girl who dates only BIPOC men…not attracted to white guys at all. Is it weird if I mention that on a date?

Same. But I only mention it if they ask if I have ever dated a BIPOC before.

And even then I just say yes, and my husband was black. No need to get into how gross you find white men.

LOL 😆 I would never say anything like that, I was kidding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was single, I wasn't somebody who got nervous about dating. I didn't get too emotionally attached, played things very cool. I basically viewed first dates as interviewing people to see if I wanted to date them. Went on a lot of first dates.

My next door neighbor asked me on a date. I said yes, we went, we laughed, talked, ate, ran around the city, had a great time. Got back to our building and all of a sudden realized how tired I was (full day and then a date that ran until 3am) and my singular goal became to get to sleep, so when he said "Hang on, I just need to check my mailbox" I said I'd just go up (???) and good night etc. I then proceeded to walk right into a glass partition. We're married now. DH says at the time, he just totally panicked when he turned me around after I slammed into that glass, worried that I'd have blood pouring down my face and was super relieved I was fine. My shoe had taken the brunt of the contact.

Lol. Cute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coffee date. He goes to pay for the $6 worth of coffee and his credit card gets declined. And yes it was definitely declined, not just an unreadable card. Awkward.

I remember dating someone whose card declined. He was like, “oh.well… okay.” Inlaid of course without issue we dated for some time. He was/is a wonderful man married and a published author, musician amongst other things. We would laugh and laugh about that.

[Anonymous]

Went out with a guy to what he said would be a "fancy, posh place. So look nice". So I dressed to the nines: high heels, LBD, wowza. And then I meet my date. He's a foot shorter, even if I wasn't wearing heels. And he's wearing the rattiest T-shirt and dirty sneakers. Everyone at the bar is giving us the look. So I just burst out laughing and couldn't stop. No, he wasn't some underground millionaire, if that's what you're thinking. Just a person really full of himself.