I hate a mean kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not the mama bear instinct that’s weird, or thinking a kid is a behavioral nightmare or mean, it’s the maintaining outside of the heat of the moment that she hates a little child and the she’s certain the “dead eyed” girl will remain a b1tch for life. Apparently there are lots of you who think like that but there are many of us who don’t!

+1. And honestly the sympathy I felt for OP at the start of the thread has begun to wane after reading her subsequent responses.

+2

+3

My kids have SNs, and have faced bullying, but I have lost sympathy for OP based on her subsequent posts.

[Anonymous]

OP hugs to you and your DD she sounds a bit like my daughter who is heading to 8th grade. We changed middle schools for a couple reasons but the straw that broke the camels back was to get away from the crappy mean girl we’ve been dealing with since 2nd grade. And her mother is so infuriating always posting about woman power and women helping women, her younger child has learning differences. The girl is mean and calculating and relentless.

[Anonymous]

OP, there’s nothing wrong with you venting. This is an anonymous board and we’re all human. No high horse here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My introvert DD picked up Epee fencing and no one at school dares to mess with her. The mean girls pick on shy kids in DD’s circle but always take 2 steps back when DD approaches. We are working with DD on standing up not only for herself but others in need.

Sorry OP that your kid may be in the same class next year. I never understood how these girls become so mean. One of those Hs a perfectly lovely mother who thinks the world of her DD. But that girl is just a miserable, two faced creature. I don’t get it.

Op again. The father is extremely sardonic and sarcastic and clearly thinks I helicopter - the POS has no idea that I’ve been on the PT train and juggling multi week appointments for years., since DD was 6 months old. He is horrible and stuck up. The girl is smart, like mine, and a daredevil so she’ll probably be “cool” even though she’s a whining, horse faced, dead eyed and utterly cruel little b$!tch. The mom is a teacher at the school and in some level a good person and has fretted to me about her girl having empathy issues. Stupid me used to feel sympathy. I’m done. It’s obviously been an issue for years. Fck her.

I’m going to request no placement with her, I don’t need this and my kid sure as hell doesn’t. I’m just (clearly!) so mad but also repulsed. I don’t know what I believe about cruel types being “broken,” since they are likely to get away with anything. My kid won’t be the nasty kid’s plaything, I will raise hell and hurt feelings first.

The epee idea is truly brilliant. Congrats PP.

I’m very sorry the girl has been mean but you really sound like you could use a little empathy brush up yourself talking like that about a little kid. When your kid does something mean or insensitive (snd she will, they all do) I hope any parent overhearing has a bit more grace.

S mean girl all grown up and now rearing her mean kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not the mama bear instinct that’s weird, or thinking a kid is a behavioral nightmare or mean, it’s the maintaining outside of the heat of the moment that she hates a little child and the she’s certain the “dead eyed” girl will remain a b1tch for life. Apparently there are lots of you who think like that but there are many of us who don’t!

+1. And honestly the sympathy I felt for OP at the start of the thread has begun to wane after reading her subsequent responses.

This. I'm a NP and started to get uncomfortable after a few replies. I'm no saint, but even when it comes to kids I "hate," I can't NOT think about what brought them there and how unlucky they got when it came to parenting or what else they may be going through. That doesn't mean I allow them around my kid or even forgive them, per se, but I'm really uncomfortable essentially calling any child "irredeemable." I don't have to harbor some naive hope about them but nor do I declare that they're monsters who will never change and wish them comeuppance ASAP.

My ILs do this regularly to children (unpleasant children, but still!) and it's disturbing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel you OP. It’s hard to take when the cool kids (children or adults) are actually much worse people than our SN kids. So much of NT social behavior is pathological despite being considered normal.

I'm sorry your child is disabled but this fact doesn't make normal kids abnormal. And you might want seek therapy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My introvert DD picked up Epee fencing and no one at school dares to mess with her. The mean girls pick on shy kids in DD’s circle but always take 2 steps back when DD approaches. We are working with DD on standing up not only for herself but others in need.

Sorry OP that your kid may be in the same class next year. I never understood how these girls become so mean. One of those Hs a perfectly lovely mother who thinks the world of her DD. But that girl is just a miserable, two faced creature. I don’t get it.

Op again. The father is extremely sardonic and sarcastic and clearly thinks I helicopter - the POS has no idea that I’ve been on the PT train and juggling multi week appointments for years., since DD was 6 months old. He is horrible and stuck up. The girl is smart, like mine, and a daredevil so she’ll probably be “cool” even though she’s a whining, horse faced, dead eyed and utterly cruel little b$!tch. The mom is a teacher at the school and in some level a good person and has fretted to me about her girl having empathy issues. Stupid me used to feel sympathy. I’m done. It’s obviously been an issue for years. Fck her.

I’m going to request no placement with her, I don’t need this and my kid sure as hell doesn’t. I’m just (clearly!) so mad but also repulsed. I don’t know what I believe about cruel types being “broken,” since they are likely to get away with anything. My kid won’t be the nasty kid’s plaything, I will raise hell and hurt feelings first.

The epee idea is truly brilliant. Congrats PP.

OP - You should write an anonymous letter to the parents about their monster. It may shock them into being better parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel you OP. It’s hard to take when the cool kids (children or adults) are actually much worse people than our SN kids. So much of NT social behavior is pathological despite being considered normal.

My NT kid and half of her 1st grade class was utterly terrorized by a SN child for a year. Nothing we could do. So STFU with your opinions on 'pathological' behavior.

[Anonymous]

Op sounds like a nut bag. $50 says her kid is the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My introvert DD picked up Epee fencing and no one at school dares to mess with her. The mean girls pick on shy kids in DD’s circle but always take 2 steps back when DD approaches. We are working with DD on standing up not only for herself but others in need.

Sorry OP that your kid may be in the same class next year. I never understood how these girls become so mean. One of those Hs a perfectly lovely mother who thinks the world of her DD. But that girl is just a miserable, two faced creature. I don’t get it.

Op again. The father is extremely sardonic and sarcastic and clearly thinks I helicopter - the POS has no idea that I’ve been on the PT train and juggling multi week appointments for years., since DD was 6 months old. He is horrible and stuck up. The girl is smart, like mine, and a daredevil so she’ll probably be “cool” even though she’s a whining, horse faced, dead eyed and utterly cruel little b$!tch. The mom is a teacher at the school and in some level a good person and has fretted to me about her girl having empathy issues. Stupid me used to feel sympathy. I’m done. It’s obviously been an issue for years. Fck her.

I’m going to request no placement with her, I don’t need this and my kid sure as hell doesn’t. I’m just (clearly!) so mad but also repulsed. I don’t know what I believe about cruel types being “broken,” since they are likely to get away with anything. My kid won’t be the nasty kid’s plaything, I will raise hell and hurt feelings first.

The epee idea is truly brilliant. Congrats PP.

OP - You should write an anonymous letter to the parents about their monster. It may shock them into being better parents.

And be sure to include all the terrible monstrous things she’s done: rolling her eyes, ignoring another 6-year-old, etc. Then talk a little about how much you hate the “horse-faced, dead-eyed little shit”, and how she’s clearly an irredeemable sociopath now and forever. I’m sure they’ll find it most enlightening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel you OP. It’s hard to take when the cool kids (children or adults) are actually much worse people than our SN kids. So much of NT social behavior is pathological despite being considered normal.

I'm sorry your child is disabled but this fact doesn't make normal kids abnormal. And you might want seek therapy

DP. Where did PP say that it did, and why do you suggest that?

PP, what do you mean by the bolded sentence? Do you mean bullying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel you OP. It’s hard to take when the cool kids (children or adults) are actually much worse people than our SN kids. So much of NT social behavior is pathological despite being considered normal.

My NT kid and half of her 1st grade class was utterly terrorized by a SN child for a year. Nothing we could do. So STFU with your opinions on 'pathological' behavior.

DP. I'm sorry to hear that happened. Did you talk to the school about it?

Also, there's no need to be rude. Although PP's post seems to imply that SN kids can't be bullies due to the wording, I don't think that they actually think that.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm so sorry to hear this is happening. Please speak to the school so that your daughter won't be placed in the same class as this kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My introvert DD picked up Epee fencing and no one at school dares to mess with her. The mean girls pick on shy kids in DD’s circle but always take 2 steps back when DD approaches. We are working with DD on standing up not only for herself but others in need.

Sorry OP that your kid may be in the same class next year. I never understood how these girls become so mean. One of those Hs a perfectly lovely mother who thinks the world of her DD. But that girl is just a miserable, two faced creature. I don’t get it.

Op again. The father is extremely sardonic and sarcastic and clearly thinks I helicopter - the POS has no idea that I’ve been on the PT train and juggling multi week appointments for years., since DD was 6 months old. He is horrible and stuck up. The girl is smart, like mine, and a daredevil so she’ll probably be “cool” even though she’s a whining, horse faced, dead eyed and utterly cruel little b$!tch. The mom is a teacher at the school and in some level a good person and has fretted to me about her girl having empathy issues. Stupid me used to feel sympathy. I’m done. It’s obviously been an issue for years. Fck her.

I’m going to request no placement with her, I don’t need this and my kid sure as hell doesn’t. I’m just (clearly!) so mad but also repulsed. I don’t know what I believe about cruel types being “broken,” since they are likely to get away with anything. My kid won’t be the nasty kid’s plaything, I will raise hell and hurt feelings first.

The epee idea is truly brilliant. Congrats PP.

I’m very sorry the girl has been mean but you really sound like you could use a little empathy brush up yourself talking like that about a little kid. When your kid does something mean or insensitive (snd she will, they all do) I hope any parent overhearing has a bit more grace.

7:05 PP. +1. I haven't read the quoted post, but from what I've read in this thread, I agree.

[Anonymous]

Wahhhhhh wahhhhh wahhhhh. Who is the baby? OP or her child? Wahhh put me in a padded room, I can’t deal with bullies they are too meany for little old me.