Jennifer Garner: What did she see in Ben Affleck?

[Anonymous]

Normal healthy females want to marry the most alpha and best provider males. Basic reproductive Biology.

Jen G is a product of the American culture in which you date and find a person to marry. . Yes, unlike many other cultures there is no arranged marriage and there is no premium put on being chaste and virginal before marriage. So she had sex with the dude and got pregnant, and she chose the biggest star that she could find during that time to have kids with. All very much in keeping with being an American and living in an American culture. Who else could she marry? Scott Foley? Please. These guys were D-list celebs and she was an A-list celeb. It would never last with the fragile male ego.

There is nothing more to it. It was sad that like 50% of all American marriages, this marriage also ended in divorce. Also, the man turned out to be an alcoholic mess and a man-whore. What can you do? The celebs also are just humans like us. Warts, foot fungus, hemorrhoids and all.

I never liked Ben Affleck. I always liked Michael Varten.

Also, Ben Affleck did not stand up against racist attacks against JLo in Bennifer 1.0. So he was not the greatest guy with JLo or with JenG. Still as a fling or FWB for JLo to rub the cheater ARod's face in - he is a good and handy option. They both are single, a-lister, both do not need to get married, both can get good press after their own failed romances and they do not have to have kids with each other.

[Anonymous]

Even though I do not consider myself even close to a fan of Ben’s - I cannot deny that he is a very sexy, good looking man.

But that is all.

[Anonymous]

Oh michael vartan was and is 10000x hotter

But ben was definitely bigger name, connections, money, charm

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever. She’s traded up repeatedly and made sure to get pregnant.

Although I hate to say it, since she seems like a sweet person and good mom, I think I agree. She ditched Scott Foley (#TeamNoel) for Michael Vartan and then moved on to Ben. I feel like she was just looking for the biggest star she could get.

+1 for #teamnoel

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever. She’s traded up repeatedly and made sure to get pregnant.

Although I hate to say it, since she seems like a sweet person and good mom, I think I agree. She ditched Scott Foley (#TeamNoel) for Michael Vartan and then moved on to Ben. I feel like she was just looking for the biggest star she could get.

Ben is way better looking than she is. Also she only dates celebrities.

Yup. Garner is boring, average, always trying to trade up. Ben is the total package and only getting better. Glad to see him back with someone more of his caliber now.

[Anonymous]

She fell for co-workers, men she spent a lot of time with - Scott Foley/Michael Varton/Ben Affleck. All co-workers.

[Anonymous]

He’s super charming and surprisingly smart. Also very sensitive/romantic/lovey-dovey. He has had a rough time dealing with self esteem and family stuff (but who hasn’t!). He’s a good man, just somewhat troubled (and again, aren’t we all?). I’ve never met Garner, but she seems sweet and was probably swept off her feet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She's actually talked about it. He flipped on the charm and she was head over heels. Then he stopped running hot and started running cold and broke her heart.

This. I feel like everybody knows someone like this-- super charming and charismatic, the type that makes everyone around him feel special (when he wants to)-- but watch out if he loses interest. I feel like I remember Jennifer making a comment like "when his sun is not shining on you it gets very cold."

Sounds like that line from “The Talented Mr. Ripley.” I had an ex like that. Nothing can describe the darkness and emptiness the other person makes you feel.

[Anonymous]

It’s so hard to predict how someone will be in marriage/parenthood. I knew a guy who was a feminist literature scholar who turned out to be a serial cheater. Another guy who was incredibly patient and kind but having kids caused him to have a very short fuse. Another guy suffered depression and stopped having sex for years.

Most of the talk about red flags is just bs. Long marriages require work but also luck. Its a shame we are blaming women for something they could not have known.

Garner is smart because she didn’t get lured into a toxic on/off in/out rehab with him or a crazy Jolie/pitt custody battle. She set up a textbook coparenting deal with strong boundaries/no animosity to make the best of a bad hand while building her brand to stay financially independent. No small feat. Lots of women can hopefully learn from that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s so hard to predict how someone will be in marriage/parenthood. I knew a guy who was a feminist literature scholar who turned out to be a serial cheater. Another guy who was incredibly patient and kind but having kids caused him to have a very short fuse. Another guy suffered depression and stopped having sex for years.

Most of the talk about red flags is just bs. Long marriages require work but also luck. Its a shame we are blaming women for something they could not have known.

Garner is smart because she didn’t get lured into a toxic on/off in/out rehab with him or a crazy Jolie/pitt custody battle. She set up a textbook coparenting deal with strong boundaries/no animosity to make the best of a bad hand while building her brand to stay financially independent. No small feat. Lots of women can hopefully learn from that.

+ 1 million

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever. She’s traded up repeatedly and made sure to get pregnant.

Although I hate to say it, since she seems like a sweet person and good mom, I think I agree. She ditched Scott Foley (#TeamNoel) for Michael Vartan and then moved on to Ben. I feel like she was just looking for the biggest star she could get.

She should have stayed with Scott. He still looks good and healthy.

I’ve been rewatching Felicity since Hulu just added it, and he really was (and is!) so handsome!

He's not manly. Comes off as one of these hyper sensitive men

[Anonymous]

Since Bennifer got together again I have been on a Ben Affleck kick. I was watching The Way Back and then Jersey Girl yesterday and my goodness! He was so handsome and charming when he was young! Is it bad that now I have a huge crush on him even though I know he’s been terrible in his personal life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s so hard to predict how someone will be in marriage/parenthood. I knew a guy who was a feminist literature scholar who turned out to be a serial cheater. Another guy who was incredibly patient and kind but having kids caused him to have a very short fuse. Another guy suffered depression and stopped having sex for years.

Most of the talk about red flags is just bs. Long marriages require work but also luck. Its a shame we are blaming women for something they could not have known.

Garner is smart because she didn’t get lured into a toxic on/off in/out rehab with him or a crazy Jolie/pitt custody battle. She set up a textbook coparenting deal with strong boundaries/no animosity to make the best of a bad hand while building her brand to stay financially independent. No small feat. Lots of women can hopefully learn from that.

agree

[Anonymous]

Love bombing, narcissist. Playboy. Smart with a danger streak.

She has said when he turns his light/live in you it’s intense like nothing in the world- but when he cast a shadow it’s a cold cold place.

He comes from a highly dysfunctional family with addictions, divorce. It’s a common trait of adult children that were raised that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There did seem to be a period where he seemed to be enjoying family man life:





This family always did a suspiciously large amount of pap walks.

Typical divorced dysfunctional family dude looking for a family/creating one he never had. They look to marry stable women from good, happy families.

Problem is in midlife all of that dysfunction and trauma from childhood rears it’s head and they are broken and lonely inside looking to fix that by escaping through addictions or other women. Temporary band aids that make them spiral further down while breaking up their families in the process.