Wife Going Overboard Trying To Get Pregnant

[Anonymous]

Just tell her to get her numbers checked at her OB.

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Anonymous wrote:What is she actually doing. What did she cut out?

OP here. She read a book called “ It Starts With The Egg” and has been following advice in there.she had cut out all things like caffeine, alcohol, sugar, etc. She drinks caffeine maybe once a week ( green tea) and has 1-2 glasses of wine 1-2x a month. We are not big drinkers. I will have a beer or a glass of wine once a week.

She switched out all of our skincare - shampoo, body wash, lotions, etc., She switched out all of her makeup. She switched out the laundry detergent, hand soap, dish soap, house cleaners, no plastic wrap, etc. We started doing things like super nutrient dense smoothies and juicing for “ extra nutrients”. She also said using the microwave isn’t healthy.

I’m still supportive. I just wasn’t expecting expecting this. I can see if it’s been 1+ year of trying, but it’s only been two months. It’s not that long.

[Anonymous]

The OP writes like the crazy lady who started the thread about buying $5K worth of baby stuff in a condo.

This has to be a troll, because no woman over 30 as health inclined as this one allegedly is would bust out the heavy guns by 2 months.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you both at down with the OB/GYN about this, her medical profile, and the likelihood of relevance for the articles she is reading? That may help.

Is she taking prenatal vitamins now?

OP here. Yes. We have been to many consultations and she has had things done to make sure she doesn’t have any issues getting pregnant. So far we haven’t found anything. Though my wife said that many people have unexplained fertility for no reason.

She is taking prenatal vitamins as well as other supplements.

She has no fertility issues. How long have you been trying and how old are you two? The PP saying to allow a year is correct. Also tell her to stop stressing, the increased cortisol levels are not good for her. If she is on DCUM tell her to get off of it.

OP here. We have been trying for two months. She’s 32 and I’m 37.

Oh geez. She’s going way overboard. Is she used to everything always going her way?

OP here. No. She is generally very laidback and chill. I think she is feeling some pressure because all our our close friends are now expecting. I know she doesn’t want to be the only one not pregnant or something. We also are just ready for a family. She ideally wants two kids by 35.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you both at down with the OB/GYN about this, her medical profile, and the likelihood of relevance for the articles she is reading? That may help.

Is she taking prenatal vitamins now?

OP here. Yes. We have been to many consultations and she has had things done to make sure she doesn’t have any issues getting pregnant. So far we haven’t found anything. Though my wife said that many people have unexplained fertility for no reason.

She is taking prenatal vitamins as well as other supplements.

She has no fertility issues. How long have you been trying and how old are you two? The PP saying to allow a year is correct. Also tell her to stop stressing, the increased cortisol levels are not good for her. If she is on DCUM tell her to get off of it.

OP here. We have been trying for two months. She’s 32 and I’m 37.

Oh dear, please be patient. 60 days is not that long. Allow a year before fear. Just keep repeating that to her. And try to make sex "sexy" again. Buy here nice lingerie. Let her have a sip of champagne (she will probably decline). Romance her. Play some music buy the Marvin Gaye lets get it on CD that used to show on TV.

You are both at a good space and age for building a family. My first and healthiest pregnancy occurred when I was 34, husband was 41. It happened totally unexpectedly because it was a bit after a previous loss. Perfectly healthy child, no intervention.

Tell her to stop speaking things over her life that have no power! Nothing has indicated otherwise, it will happen. Stay off of Reddit, BabyCenter, DCUM. Instead read about miracles, love, joy, and preparing your body to welcome a life into it. Sounds cushy but it is better than octopus (which is still delicious).

I truly with you two the best. Please update us!

OP here. I’m sorry to hear about the loss. I’m glad you went on to have a healthy pregnancy!

She isn’t on any of those sites. She has been reading books fertility books and following some MD sites Whig prepping your body for pregnancy.

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Anonymous wrote:The OP writes like the crazy lady who started the thread about buying $5K worth of baby stuff in a condo.

This has to be a troll, because no woman over 30 as health inclined as this one allegedly is would bust out the heavy guns by 2 months.

OP here. That’s not me. I can assure you my wife is very worried and wants to do everything possible to get pregnant soon.

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Anonymous wrote:The OP writes like the crazy lady who started the thread about buying $5K worth of baby stuff in a condo.

This has to be a troll, because no woman over 30 as health inclined as this one allegedly is would bust out the heavy guns by 2 months.

You again? Please take your drama somewhere else.

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Anonymous wrote:The OP writes like the crazy lady who started the thread about buying $5K worth of baby stuff in a condo.

This has to be a troll, because no woman over 30 as health inclined as this one allegedly is would bust out the heavy guns by 2 months.

You must not know many women lol

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Anonymous wrote:The OP writes like the crazy lady who started the thread about buying $5K worth of baby stuff in a condo.

This has to be a troll, because no woman over 30 as health inclined as this one allegedly is would bust out the heavy guns by 2 months.

I have not clue if OP is a troll but I’ve known many women like OPs wife. Most of them were 30’s or even late 20’s and all went a little crazy if they didn’t get pregnant within 2-3 months. It’s normal at any age. I’ve known two women who said they would be pregnant on their honeymoon and then went off the deep end when it didn’t happen. Some women, regardless of age, will act like this if they don’t get pregnant in the timeline they thought they would.

[Anonymous]

I took a very methodical approach to getting pregnant with baby #1 and when months went by and nothing happened I visited doctors including a psychologist. He said that I was so anxious about it and that I just needed to relax and let it happen on it's own which was great news to my husband who hated being have to perform on demand. After a couple of months of just fun sex I suddenly was pregnant. With babies #2 and #3 it was easy, peasy!

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Anonymous wrote:The OP writes like the crazy lady who started the thread about buying $5K worth of baby stuff in a condo.

This has to be a troll, because no woman over 30 as health inclined as this one allegedly is would bust out the heavy guns by 2 months.

You must not know many women lol

IDK, like almost every educated woman who started at 30 I read enough to know that it's normal to take up to a year, or at the very least 6 months to get pregnant. Expecting it on the first few tries aka 1 month is insane.

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Anonymous wrote:The OP writes like the crazy lady who started the thread about buying $5K worth of baby stuff in a condo.

This has to be a troll, because no woman over 30 as health inclined as this one allegedly is would bust out the heavy guns by 2 months.

You must not know many women lol

IDK, like almost every educated woman who started at 30 I read enough to know that it's normal to take up to a year, or at the very least 6 months to get pregnant. Expecting it on the first few tries aka 1 month is insane.

Not for many over achievers.
I got pregnant on the first try with all 3 of my kids, but if I had not, I might have started doing things similar to OP’s wife. I don’t think I would have changed the beauty products because that sounds a little off, but vitamins, books, food, sex positions, tracking ovulation, these are all things I could have seen my self doing...

[Anonymous]

OP you should tell her the story about the couple who stressed about getting pregnant for 10 years and went through many rounds of IVF and abstained from all alcohol and other stimulants. Did they have a baby?

Not until they gave up all that crap, went on vacation, got a little tipsy on wine - and bingo. Conceived without any of the interventions they thought were required.

Sometimes it is just about being relaxed.

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Remember this is only temporary.

[Anonymous]

You say you’re supportive, but you’re complaining about everything she does.

Take a genuine interest in what she’s doing and learning. Telling her it’s not going to help....isn’t helpful. If she says she heard XYZ supplement helps, pick it up for her on the way home.

If you want sex to be playful, then it’s on you to be playful with her. Talk about how excited you are to have a family, how beautiful she’ll look when she’s pregnant, what a good mom she’ll be.

You’re going to be in for a loooooong 18+ years if all you do is complain your wife isn’t doing things the way you want her to. Create the marriage you want.