Wife Going Overboard Trying To Get Pregnant

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Anonymous wrote:Have you both at down with the OB/GYN about this, her medical profile, and the likelihood of relevance for the articles she is reading? That may help.

Is she taking prenatal vitamins now?

OP here. Yes. We have been to many consultations and she has had things done to make sure she doesn’t have any issues getting pregnant. So far we haven’t found anything. Though my wife said that many people have unexplained fertility for no reason.

She is taking prenatal vitamins as well as other supplements.

She has no fertility issues. How long have you been trying and how old are you two? The PP saying to allow a year is correct. Also tell her to stop stressing, the increased cortisol levels are not good for her. If she is on DCUM tell her to get off of it.

While well meaning. Telling someone to not stress never works.

I know, I know, it doesn't always work. Hell, it rarely works. But if you can listen and actually try it, and maybe succeed in doing it - it does work. So many benefits if you can learn not to stress. Yoga helped me. So did reading positive stories, listening to positive music, and preparing for good and not the worst. This was after several very traumatic losses.

We all handle things differently. It was simply one measly suggestion.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she using ovulation kits for timing? Because that’s one crazy thing that actually helps.

This is true! And they sell them at CVS now in bulk.

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I did this stuff too because it felt it was in my control, no she’s not crazy - lots of products have “dirty” ingredients and there’s ways to prepare your body. She’s not doing anything out of the ordinary I did similar stuff for both kids. As for the sex, it sucks but it’s a chore that has to be done lol she’s probably feeling pretty crabby right now so the way to support her is to agree with her and let her talk and explain things and keep doing what you’ve been doing.

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Anonymous wrote:She's not forcing you to eat octopus every day is she? If not, let it go. You're not the one taking supplements or throwing out expensive makeup or stressing over whatever they're eating.

Octopus is delish.

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OP, sounds like your issue is the sex. Get her to loosen up and have sex at other times as well.

Eating healthy and all of that will have positive results, so not sure why that is a problem for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you both at down with the OB/GYN about this, her medical profile, and the likelihood of relevance for the articles she is reading? That may help.

Is she taking prenatal vitamins now?

OP here. Yes. We have been to many consultations and she has had things done to make sure she doesn’t have any issues getting pregnant. So far we haven’t found anything. Though my wife said that many people have unexplained fertility for no reason.

She is taking prenatal vitamins as well as other supplements.

She has no fertility issues. How long have you been trying and how old are you two? The PP saying to allow a year is correct. Also tell her to stop stressing, the increased cortisol levels are not good for her. If she is on DCUM tell her to get off of it.

OP here. We have been trying for two months. She’s 32 and I’m 37.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she using ovulation kits for timing? Because that’s one crazy thing that actually helps.

OP here. She tracks it but I’m not sure what she uses.

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What is she actually doing. What did she cut out?

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Anonymous wrote:You want to be supportive? Show her that you care too. What are you doing to improve your chances? What research have you read? She probably feels you don't give a crap and all the pressure is on her/

OP here. I switched over to the products she asked me to, cut caffeine, and stopped drinking alcohol. We talk everyday and I’m very supportive. She knows she is not alone in this. She knows I’m ready for a family too.

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OP, I recommend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

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Leave her be. She isn't doing anything harmful. It is really stressful to not get pregnant when you want to, especially if you spent decades on birth control trying not to get pregnant. It's a phase. Be supportive and don't show judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, sounds like your issue is the sex. Get her to loosen up and have sex at other times as well.

Eating healthy and all of that will have positive results, so not sure why that is a problem for you.

OP here. I said we already eat very healthy most of the time so that isn’t an issue. I don’t even mind switching out all of my products. I worry that she will stress herself out too much. I worry that we will look back on this time and it won’t be a fun time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you both at down with the OB/GYN about this, her medical profile, and the likelihood of relevance for the articles she is reading? That may help.

Is she taking prenatal vitamins now?

OP here. Yes. We have been to many consultations and she has had things done to make sure she doesn’t have any issues getting pregnant. So far we haven’t found anything. Though my wife said that many people have unexplained fertility for no reason.

She is taking prenatal vitamins as well as other supplements.

She has no fertility issues. How long have you been trying and how old are you two? The PP saying to allow a year is correct. Also tell her to stop stressing, the increased cortisol levels are not good for her. If she is on DCUM tell her to get off of it.

OP here. We have been trying for two months. She’s 32 and I’m 37.

Oh geez. She’s going way overboard. Is she used to everything always going her way?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you both at down with the OB/GYN about this, her medical profile, and the likelihood of relevance for the articles she is reading? That may help.

Is she taking prenatal vitamins now?

OP here. Yes. We have been to many consultations and she has had things done to make sure she doesn’t have any issues getting pregnant. So far we haven’t found anything. Though my wife said that many people have unexplained fertility for no reason.

She is taking prenatal vitamins as well as other supplements.

She has no fertility issues. How long have you been trying and how old are you two? The PP saying to allow a year is correct. Also tell her to stop stressing, the increased cortisol levels are not good for her. If she is on DCUM tell her to get off of it.

OP here. We have been trying for two months. She’s 32 and I’m 37.

Oh dear, please be patient. 60 days is not that long. Allow a year before fear. Just keep repeating that to her. And try to make sex "sexy" again. Buy here nice lingerie. Let her have a sip of champagne (she will probably decline). Romance her. Play some music buy the Marvin Gaye lets get it on CD that used to show on TV.

You are both at a good space and age for building a family. My first and healthiest pregnancy occurred when I was 34, husband was 41. It happened totally unexpectedly because it was a bit after a previous loss. Perfectly healthy child, no intervention.

Tell her to stop speaking things over her life that have no power! Nothing has indicated otherwise, it will happen. Stay off of Reddit, BabyCenter, DCUM. Instead read about miracles, love, joy, and preparing your body to welcome a life into it. Sounds cushy but it is better than octopus (which is still delicious).

I truly with you two the best. Please update us!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you both at down with the OB/GYN about this, her medical profile, and the likelihood of relevance for the articles she is reading? That may help.

Is she taking prenatal vitamins now?

OP here. Yes. We have been to many consultations and she has had things done to make sure she doesn’t have any issues getting pregnant. So far we haven’t found anything. Though my wife said that many people have unexplained fertility for no reason.

She is taking prenatal vitamins as well as other supplements.

She has no fertility issues. How long have you been trying and how old are you two? The PP saying to allow a year is correct. Also tell her to stop stressing, the increased cortisol levels are not good for her. If she is on DCUM tell her to get off of it.

OP here. We have been trying for two months. She’s 32 and I’m 37.

Oh geez. She’s going way overboard. Is she used to everything always going her way?

DP. I think she is an anxious Type A.