Consequences for 11-year old constantly lying about exceeding screen time limits

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you setting him up to lie by asking when you already know the answer?

Personally, I would just properly manage the available screen time on his devices, boom done.

Not OP but I don't believe the setting him up to lie approach. That puts the blame on the wrong person. I expect my kids to be truthful.

But as we have already covered on this thread, many kids wouldn't know the difference between "I played for 15 min" and "I played for an hour." Anyway, why are you asking your kid a question for which you could have looked up the answer yourself?

[Anonymous]

Just set screen time limits, it shuts off after they’ve used it for a certain amount of time. Easy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you setting him up to lie by asking when you already know the answer?

Personally, I would just properly manage the available screen time on his devices, boom done.

Not OP but I don't believe the setting him up to lie approach. That puts the blame on the wrong person. I expect my kids to be truthful.

It is surprising that so many people normalize lying and blame parents for setting up kids to lie. No wonder American produced a Trump.

[Anonymous]

Take away screen time, video, phone privileges altogether. One week is ridiculous. If you don’t control screen time at age 11, it’s going to get so effing out of hand at 14, 15,16. A friend is dealing with this now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you setting him up to lie by asking when you already know the answer?

Personally, I would just properly manage the available screen time on his devices, boom done.

Not OP but I don't believe the setting him up to lie approach. That puts the blame on the wrong person. I expect my kids to be truthful.

It is surprising that so many people normalize lying and blame parents for setting up kids to lie. No wonder American produced a Trump.

People lie. That's life. It has nothing to do with Trump. Instead, don't give him a reason to lie. Stop being passive aggressive and expecting an 11 year old to be mature enough for 100% honesty.

Rather than asking, "Did you go over your screen time?" Be upfront, "You exceeded screen time so now you need to put your phone away for X amount of time." or "Now I'll apply screen limits automatically. I'll remove them when you are ready to self regulate." That's parenting, holding your kids to the rules without setting them up for failure.

[Anonymous]

^ And you have to do that unemotionally, non accusatory. If you lose your temper and lecture excessively with teens it will just blow up into a bigger fight.