my SIL refuses to get vaccinated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kids are unable to be vaccinated for the time being so they still can get Covid via SIL or whomever. I am not understanding why you are concerned about the SIL. She is just one unvaccinated person among many.

Exactly- unless you don’t want to have your kids playing around other kids, go to in-person school (I’m in HR for a school and only 50% of our teachers/staff plan to get vaccinated), go to doctor’s appointments (surveys show ~30% of health workers aren’t getting vaccinated), etc. for the next few years you’re going to need to get used to being around unvaccinated people. Personally, now that DH and I are vaccinated, I’d rather risk my kids getting Covid (which is not a big deal for them 99.9% of the time) than destroy important relationships with family and friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I wholeheartedly agree with the last few posters, I don’t want my young kids to suffer not having relationships with their cousins because of their mother’s stupidity. Family is family. I want this youngest generation of our family to have a good shot at forming bonds. I’ve given up all hope for me and SIL long ago- that’s not what this is about.
-OP

Can you please explain why it's important to you that your SIL be vaccinated if none of the children will be?

[Anonymous]

Shouldn't this be in family relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you make promises to your kids based on what other adults choose to do with their bodies?

Because I assumed all educated adults would choose to get the vaccine.
—Op

That was your mistake

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's possible the SIL actually IS vaccinated, but doesn't want to tell OP because she can use it as an excuse to avoid OP.

Haha, that would be hilarious!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the rest of you are vaccinated, I would just ignore this fact and not discuss it with her. Get together.

There are going to be a lot of adults in your kids' lives who decline the vaccination. Many people of color are very hesitant, if not adamantly against the vaccine.

You will be fine, your kids will be fine. Family is important.

Why on earth would you bring race into this conversation? OP didn't say anything about it.

I'm not the PP you quoted, but I believe that PP brought it up to show that there are many people who have valid reasons to be distrustful of the vaccine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a hotel and see them only outdoors. As is completely your right. Your vaccinated brother’s family can get an Air BnB or beach house with you.

Choosing not to get it is completely her right.

They do not operate like this. They have been living normal life, no masks, no social distancing all year. Once we get together, it’s full contact at that point.
-OP

Oh
COVID deniers, I would be in contact with them at all. PERIODT

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a hotel and see them only outdoors. As is completely your right. Your vaccinated brother’s family can get an Air BnB or beach house with you.

Choosing not to get it is completely her right.

They do not operate like this. They have been living normal life, no masks, no social distancing all year. Once we get together, it’s full contact at that point.
-OP

Oh
COVID deniers, I would be in contact with them at all. PERIODT

I meant to say NOT on contact with her at all. I don’t trust the decision making and judgement of people like that . These are the kind of people who would have Covid and not tell you.It’s great to have family relationships but these so-called relationships do not override my health, safety, or morals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids miss their cousins so much. We haven’t had in person contact with them for over a year now. I’ve been telling my kids “as soon as the adults are vaccinated we can all be together again.” My brother already got vaccine, my dh and I will get as soon as we are eligible, but we just found out SIL has no plans to get it (like ever). Dh and I have strong feelings about this. I won’t say anything more because it will not be nice.
So do we stick with our plan and our kids suffer by continuing not to see their cousins? This is tough for me. But we’ve made a ton of sacrifices coming this far, been so careful all year, and just being like ‘ah well, screw it, we’ll take our chances’ feels completely irresponsible.

Actually, you are irresponsible as you are probably living life as normal and not worrying about the risks to your kids. You have no right to dictate if she takes the vaccine. Stop being a bully. Her body, her right to choose. I doubt you made that many sacrifices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kids are unable to be vaccinated for the time being so they still can get Covid via SIL or whomever. I am not understanding why you are concerned about the SIL. She is just one unvaccinated person among many.

Exactly- unless you don’t want to have your kids playing around other kids, go to in-person school (I’m in HR for a school and only 50% of our teachers/staff plan to get vaccinated), go to doctor’s appointments (surveys show ~30% of health workers aren’t getting vaccinated), etc. for the next few years you’re going to need to get used to being around unvaccinated people. Personally, now that DH and I are vaccinated, I’d rather risk my kids getting Covid (which is not a big deal for them 99.9% of the time) than destroy important relationships with family and friends.

I'd rather never see someone like you who thinks nothing of the risks for their kids or others not vaccinated.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you should call your sister in law stupid. She just has another plan and a different comfor t level. Sounds like you need other people for your kids to play with besides their cousins. Are you one of the many sisters who have posted this week about missing their brother?

[Anonymous]

Why are you worry about unvaccinated people? If the vaccine works you should be protected, right? I will NEVER put that poison in my body.

[Anonymous]

F her. If you are all vaccinated, who gives a sh$t if stupid lady gets covid? Honest question. Please answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you make promises to your kids based on what other adults choose to do with their bodies?

Because I assumed all educated adults would choose to get the vaccine.
—Op

That was your mistake

Yes. We should never underestimate how stupid the average American is!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you make promises to your kids based on what other adults choose to do with their bodies?

Because I assumed all educated adults would choose to get the vaccine.
—Op

That was a flawed assumption to begin with