my SIL refuses to get vaccinated

[Anonymous]

Either you believe science or not. If you believe vaccines work, and this one works, then you would not be concerned. Anytime I hear this same concern from an adult I tell them that clearly they don’t believe in the vaccine or that it works.
And no you u aren’t worried about your kids or any such nonsenses you are actually worried that no the vax doesn’t work. You aren’t the only one. And there is no shame in admitting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the SIL isn't getting the vaccine, yes it's certainly her right. But there are also consequences. OP should tell her kids that their aunt has decided not to get the vaccine, and that means they can't be around their cousins for the time being. Let the SIL answer to her own kids for her own choices.

Maybe SILs kids don’t care. OP is more worried about disappointing her own kids. You can’t dictate other people’s decisions. Period.

[Anonymous]

It's possible the SIL actually IS vaccinated, but doesn't want to tell OP because she can use it as an excuse to avoid OP.

[Anonymous]

If I am understanding correctly, the SIL is still willing to see you and others even though she will not have the vaccine, right? Then don’t worry about her and get together with the families. She is aware of the risk and is willing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either you believe science or not. If you believe vaccines work, and this one works, then you would not be concerned. Anytime I hear this same concern from an adult I tell them that clearly they don’t believe in the vaccine or that it works.
And no you u aren’t worried about your kids or any such nonsenses you are actually worried that no the vax doesn’t work. You aren’t the only one. And there is no shame in admitting it.

NP. WTF are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the rest of you are vaccinated, I would just ignore this fact and not discuss it with her. Get together.

There are going to be a lot of adults in your kids' lives who decline the vaccination. Many people of color are very hesitant, if not adamantly against the vaccine.

You will be fine, your kids will be fine. Family is important.

WRONG

My sister will not get vaccinated she is not coming anywhere near my family. Either she understands science or bye. No middle ground. She wants to be stupid fine, that is her right. Mine is to not expose my family to idiots.

[Anonymous]

It is a bigger issue than the shot. It shows her SIL is an idiot and therefore why in the world would I want my family exposed to her nonsense. Clearly, she does not understand science and would be ok doing other dumb things.

We all have a right to spend time whether we spend time with people.

For my family no more Racists, Idiots, Science mongers, fear-mongers ( yes this too, because science over rides that for informed people), anti semites, and the alt right. This includes anyone we know that is part of Q.

[Anonymous]

While I wholeheartedly agree with the last few posters, I don’t want my young kids to suffer not having relationships with their cousins because of their mother’s stupidity. Family is family. I want this youngest generation of our family to have a good shot at forming bonds. I’ve given up all hope for me and SIL long ago- that’s not what this is about.
-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the rest of you are vaccinated, I would just ignore this fact and not discuss it with her. Get together.

There are going to be a lot of adults in your kids' lives who decline the vaccination. Many people of color are very hesitant, if not adamantly against the vaccine.

You will be fine, your kids will be fine. Family is important.

WRONG

My sister will not get vaccinated she is not coming anywhere near my family. Either she understands science or bye. No middle ground. She wants to be stupid fine, that is her right. Mine is to not expose my family to idiots.

Are you going to ask everyone you come in contact with if they are vaccinated? Teachers, coaches, tutors, wait staff, hairdressers, friends, librarians, etc? Where does this end and how far will you go with this stance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the rest of you are vaccinated, I would just ignore this fact and not discuss it with her. Get together.

There are going to be a lot of adults in your kids' lives who decline the vaccination. Many people are very hesitant, if not adamantly against the vaccine.

You will be fine, your kids will be fine. Family is important.

FTFY.

OP - many people are not getting the vaccine. Get together with your family outside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I am understanding correctly, the SIL is still willing to see you and others even though she will not have the vaccine, right? Then don’t worry about her and get together with the families. She is aware of the risk and is willing.

Yeah, I’m not really seeing the issue here. If OP and her husband are vaccinated, why does it matter if her SIL isn’t? If SIL wants to take that risk, it’s on her.

[Anonymous]

The kids are unable to be vaccinated for the time being so they still can get Covid via SIL or whomever. I am not understanding why you are concerned about the SIL. She is just one unvaccinated person among many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kids are unable to be vaccinated for the time being so they still can get Covid via SIL or whomever. I am not understanding why you are concerned about the SIL. She is just one unvaccinated person among many.

I tend to agree.

Visit outside and no hugging the aunt. Or visit inside without the aunt, at your house.

[Anonymous]

Is your concern that the children will pass Covid to her or get it from her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the rest of you are vaccinated, I would just ignore this fact and not discuss it with her. Get together.

There are going to be a lot of adults in your kids' lives who decline the vaccination. Many people of color are very hesitant, if not adamantly against the vaccine.

You will be fine, your kids will be fine. Family is important.

Why on earth would you bring race into this conversation? OP didn't say anything about it.