Nanny in 1br apartment with both parents WFH

[Anonymous]

What? No way. Figure out a way to move, even if it’s just to a 2 bedroom within your building.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

What is the rationale behind texting nanny before I come out? I get that it is easier for nanny to be on her best behavior then but I like the idea of being able to check in at random to assess how she’s doing

She’ll quit for sure

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

What is the rationale behind texting nanny before I come out? I get that it is easier for nanny to be on her best behavior then but I like the idea of being able to check in at random to assess how she’s doing

Because it's going to get really hard for your baby to see you but not be able to play with you/have you stay. So you text nanny to go out with the baby so they don't see you.

You'll be able to hear baby and nanny all day, so no need to check in to assess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

What is the rationale behind texting nanny before I come out? I get that it is easier for nanny to be on her best behavior then but I like the idea of being able to check in at random to assess how she’s doing

Because it's going to get really hard for your baby to see you but not be able to play with you/have you stay. So you text nanny to go out with the baby so they don't see you.

You'll be able to hear baby and nanny all day, so no need to check in to assess.

You’ll be ON TOP of each other all day everyday yet you think you need to pop on to assess how she’s doing? You’re setting every single person in that space up for failure. “Consider daycare.” If money isn’t a problem- rent an office space or just move now. This isn’t an option.

[Anonymous]

Yeah op kindly your expectations seem incredibly off here. It may be because you only have a very small infant right now but your baby is going to change so much in the next year. They will be moving, have separation anxiety, need more stimulation than one room, so many things. If you do get a two bedroom then like others said you and husband are in the bedroom and nanny gets the rest of the apartment. This sounds so rough to me but I can’t imagine if another way. Baby needs a spot to nap and they need access to the kitchen and you can’t jjst be there when they come in every time. There will be times that will work and it will be lovely to have lunch with your child, but there will also be times/stages that that will just be far far too hard on both your child and you. Times when it is disruptive to everyone. And working in your bedroom all day everyday is rough. I think you need to talk to friends or a neighborhood listserv in nyc for ideas as like you said, people have been making it work but you need to find a way to respect the nanny’s space if you want a good relationship with her

[Anonymous]

No, this would be miserable for everyone. Including baby.

[Anonymous]

Omg just do daycare.

[Anonymous]

OP you seem determined to fail. I predict a parade of nannies in your future. You need to get a clue and get on some daycare lists.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, no to the nanny. You can’t afford one, yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

Where would the baby nap in this scenario?

What I would propose with a 2 bedroom

Bedroom 1: set up as master bedroom with a baby crib in there
Bedroom 2: Set up as an office

Nanny and baby get the living room, but nanny puts baby to nap in the master bedroom.

That’s not workable if both parents have video calls.

Pack-and-play in the living room or move the crib into the living room in the morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

What is the rationale behind texting nanny before I come out? I get that it is easier for nanny to be on her best behavior then but I like the idea of being able to check in at random to assess how she’s doing

So get cameras.

Text the nanny so that she can make sure the baby is asleep or distracted. It’s for your child’s sake, not hers or yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

Where would the baby nap in this scenario?

What I would propose with a 2 bedroom

Bedroom 1: set up as master bedroom with a baby crib in there
Bedroom 2: Set up as an office

Nanny and baby get the living room, but nanny puts baby to nap in the master bedroom.

That’s not workable if both parents have video calls.

Pack-and-play in the living room or move the crib into the living room in the morning.

It's a lot easier for the adults in video calls to put on noise cancelling headphones, than it is to put noise cancelling headphones on a newborn so they can sleep in the living room with the nanny right there.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine a good nanny accepting this job. Because she'll have other, better offers.

I'd start touring daycares right now.

[Anonymous]

As a parent I wouldn't want to deal with this setup for so long as one week.

[Anonymous]

Your Nanny would be so stressed out trying to keep your child quiet so that you ➕ your spouse can work.

How about hiring a SAHM who only has one child?